Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Are you having twins?"
Me: no
"Are you sure?"

No fuckface my doctor has just been lying to me for 9 months about how many small humans I am carrying

I hope you said it!

I was asked this question all the time when I was pregnant. I can't say it was the most offensive thing I'd ever heard. After all, I was in fact quite huge for my frame. Annoying, yes. Offensive, no.

Anonymous wrote:My first child is a boy. When we started the process to adopt a second, we had two bedrooms. The adoption rules state that you have to have enough space for each child to have their own room, without sharing with a child of the opposite sex, so we were debating whether to move so as to be open to either gender or to simply request a second boy.

I shared this with my mother who told me "I think you should request a boy. Not because of the bedrooms, you should move anyway because kids need their own rooms, but boys are just so much more enjoyable to parent. I know I found parenting your brother so rewarding".

Needless to say, I'm her daughter not her son.

Sounds like something my mother would say, too. I'm sorry PP.

my college boyfriend told someone we were in a "junior/senior" relationship, meaning he had the smarts and the control and was one up on me. totally embarrassing

My first child is a boy. When we started the process to adopt a second, we had two bedrooms. The adoption rules state that you have to have enough space for each child to have their own room, without sharing with a child of the opposite sex, so we were debating whether to move so as to be open to either gender or to simply request a second boy.

I shared this with my mother who told me "I think you should request a boy. Not because of the bedrooms, you should move anyway because kids need their own rooms, but boys are just so much more enjoyable to parent. I know I found parenting your brother so rewarding".

Needless to say, I'm her daughter not her son.

Recently I have moved my career in a new direction that involves science and I have gotten into the number one program in the country. It's been a very big time for me. At a dinner party the other night in front of everyone my mom said, "I never thought you would do something like this. When you were younger your only interest was your hair. I always thought you would be like...an event planner. On a cruise or something. Maybe for weddings."

Anonymous wrote:"If you were tall, you could be a model."

how is that insulting?

I was asked with both pregnancies whether I was carrying twins, they were both singletons.

Separately, at the end of the second pregnancy (I was past due date at this point) my Mil's fiancé asked me at dinner how much weight I had gained. I told him I was not going to answer the question. He then asked me again a few minutes later and I ignored him, the third time I looked at him and said that is an incredibly rude question and I am not going to answer so stop asking.

Thank goodness that relationship did not take. MIL has amazing social skills and only finds relationships with men that appear to have none.

On inadvertent insults, two of my closest friends that know each other only through me and live in another state ran into each other at the local BAbies. R Us.

Friend 1: hey Larla, great to see you, when are you due?

Friend 2 (Larla): I had the baby 4 weeks ago.

Awkward silence.

I heard about this from both sides in a matter of an hour. Too funny.

I say mean things when I am mad. This thread is really helping me a lot, and yes, I am getting help.

"You're just like your mother." - my dad who cheated on my mother with countless people, belittles her in front of me, and rolls his eyes about anything she says. Needless to say, I've brought a lot of baggage to my marriage.

Anonymous wrote:

You guys should know something. People who say awful things have had awful things said TO them, more than once. Let it go.

That doesn't justify awful mean comments. Besides in the moment of an argument or out of anger, I think most people who say mean things in a subtle method do it because it makes them feel better about themselves. I have a few people (mainly in-laws) who constantly make these low-key mean jabs at me. I used to just take it and not say anything, but then the hurtful comments increased and I would stew over it. Now when it occurs I respond immediately and those particular people have learned to stop making those types of comments. Occasionally things do slip out of their mouths because it is the only way they can feel good about themselves; but I comment right back so they know that I am fully aware of their subtle jab and I do not accept it. I am of ethnic decent and unfortunately married into a family from the south.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL - of English descent, hair is a mess. has a mole on her face with a hair. 30 lbs overweight, big boned. Always frowning. Needs her teeth cleaned.

Me - Eastern European, slight build. Great teeth.

Mom: Men always marry women who look like their MILs

Me: My husband didn't.

Mom: Yes he did.

You were being just as bitchy as she was.

I agree. She thinks you are pretty and she wants to believe she lookes good as well. It's petty of you to tell her otherwise.

+1! "Eastern European" PP: you are going to be miserable when you become an MIL. You're future's a fairy tale, as in "mirror, mirror on the wall..."

The OP was talking to her OWN mother, not her husband's mother. The mother in law description is just background. If she had reacted like this to the MIL then that would be rude but she didn't.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL - of English descent, hair is a mess. has a mole on her face with a hair. 30 lbs overweight, big boned. Always frowning. Needs her teeth cleaned.

Me - Eastern European, slight build. Great teeth.

Mom: Men always marry women who look like their MILs

Me: My husband didn't.

Mom: Yes he did.

You were being just as bitchy as she was.

I agree. She thinks you are pretty and she wants to believe she lookes good as well. It's petty of you to tell her otherwise.

+1! "Eastern European" PP: you are going to be miserable when you become an MIL. You're future's a fairy tale, as in "mirror, mirror on the wall..."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL - of English descent, hair is a mess. has a mole on her face with a hair. 30 lbs overweight, big boned. Always frowning. Needs her teeth cleaned.

Me - Eastern European, slight build. Great teeth.

Mom: Men always marry women who look like their MILs

Me: My husband didn't.

Mom: Yes he did.

You were being just as bitchy as she was.

I agree. She thinks you are pretty and she wants to believe she lookes good as well. It's petty of you to tell her otherwise.

From a co-worker (whose kid didn't get into the school I went to) "You went to X school, really? I thought it was supposed to be hard to get in there!"

Yeah, asshole, it is.

After a bad report card, my dad said with disgust:

"We had such high hopes for you, once."

I was in fourth grade.

He's always been a bit of a drama queen. Not an awful person but when he's mad he says awful things. I'll never forget that moment.