We were found out. It was the best feeling having someone thinking about me 24/7. we basically talked all day long. Of course it was thrilling and naughty too but mostly I felt like someone felt I was worth spending time with...And that I could make someone happy just coming in the room (You can take that both ways...heehee.)

Eh, 21:41 has a point. Tell us about the affair. Why was it so great? Why did it end?

Ok you're right. But it was spurred by an affair that ended and I wish I could recreate that with DH. I want to get him to treat me like that.

Oh come on. This thread s about affairs -- not about improving your marriages. How boring. Start a new thread.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you get your spouse to have an emotional affair with you?

Written by a woman, no doubt. My question (man): How do you get your spouse to have a white-hot sexual affair with you?

We actually have great sex almost every night, but we don't talk much and almost never during the day. I want an emotional connection bc I need attention. I don't just want a vibrator with a heart beat.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you get your spouse to have an emotional affair with you?

Written by a woman, no doubt. My question (man): How do you get your spouse to have a white-hot sexual affair with you?

What did you first do in your relationship that first attracted your spouse to you? Remembering what you liked about each other helps keep the sparks alive.

Show your spouse more attention by talking and taking time for one another (paraphrasing all the affair advise in this thread) and you can improve the intimacy with your spouse. Sex improves with emotional intimacy. If there is something sexual you want from your spouse and you are not getting it, let your spouse know. In a healthy relationship, both parties should be open and honest and that leads to a great marriage.

Anonymous wrote:How do you get your spouse to have an emotional affair with you?

Written by a woman, no doubt. My question (man): How do you get your spouse to have a white-hot sexual affair with you?

How do you get your spouse to have an emotional affair with you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those thinking of having an affair with a married man over 45 with a smoking habit, reconsider.

My story: I met up with a man, good looking but 48 and I thought he was in good shape despite the fact he was a smoker. He probably had smoked since he was in college. We were out of town on a business trip so he had invited me to his hotel room. One thing led to another and we were in the act when he had a heart attack. I called 911, tried CPR, but he couldn't be resuscitated. Had to explain why I was in his room and he was naked to his wife.

I saw that show.

Somewhat similar to Six Feet Under.

Bump. Just because this was the most interesting thread in a while.

Haven't cheated but there is a married guy I see now and then for business purposes that gets me hot and bothered. We have these crazy conversations and the last one led to us talking about sex and what we like. I guess what I like the most when I am with him is that we are comfortable with each other. I know if we both were single we would be hooking up. For now I just go home and masturbate thinking of him. Don't know if he would be ready to take it any further than talk.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:these two will probably have the most vanilla sex ever.

if they cant get creative to find a way to fuck in a car, office, cheap hotel something, they just want to have regular vanilla missionary sex.

she probably wont even put her legs on his shoulders/chest she so boring.

Guess what? I paid for a motel and we did it. It was anything but vanilla. Thanks for the encouragement

glad my thread encouraged you to go through with it.

and why did you pay for the motel as oppose to him?

'cause I make more, and because his wife does the bills in his house

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those thinking of having an affair with a married man over 45 with a smoking habit, reconsider.

My story: I met up with a man, good looking but 48 and I thought he was in good shape despite the fact he was a smoker. He probably had smoked since he was in college. We were out of town on a business trip so he had invited me to his hotel room. One thing led to another and we were in the act when he had a heart attack. I called 911, tried CPR, but he couldn't be resuscitated. Had to explain why I was in his room and he was naked to his wife.

You did not have to explain anything to his wife - you choose to do so.

Hey, she contacted me. My contact info. was in the EMT/hospital reports. Said she needed to know for closure.

Again, you did not have to talk to her. You think that did not know why your were there??? BTW, what did you say to her and how did she react?

I picked up the phone and it was her. She kind of caught me off guard. She also had my address so she could have done something worse than call me if she so desired.

His wife wanted details of my relationship wither her husband and if that gave her closure so be it. She also wanted to know if I knew if there were other women he had slept with.

She mostly listened quietly on the phone. I couldn't tell if she was crying or not. When she wanted me to elaborate more on something, she would ask questions. I felt ashamed talking to her and maybe that was her point of contacting me. I don't know. At the end of the conversation she thanked me for being honest with her and hung up the phone. She never contacted me again.

Anonymous wrote:For those thinking of having an affair with a married man over 45 with a smoking habit, reconsider.

My story: I met up with a man, good looking but 48 and I thought he was in good shape despite the fact he was a smoker. He probably had smoked since he was in college. We were out of town on a business trip so he had invited me to his hotel room. One thing led to another and we were in the act when he had a heart attack. I called 911, tried CPR, but he couldn't be resuscitated. Had to explain why I was in his room and he was naked to his wife.

I saw that show.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Soooo, do any of you travel to NC for business????

Who's asking?!?!? And, ignore the prudes in the above posts.

So now one is a prude because remarking on the trashiness of wanting to fuck someone you barely post with on the internet and meet him/her behind your spouse's back is uptight?

Hmm, times have changed, but I didn't know how much.