Anxious as sh*t

Anonymous wrote:Feeling somewhat relieved after DD told me this AM that instead of doing an ED2 like she had planned if she's rejected from ED1, she's leaning towards just submitting RD everywhere and seeing what she ends up with. She was really struggling to decide between two schools for ED2 and has several RD's she likes so I think this makes sense. Now, if only her ED1 would announce the decision date - feels like she's only one with crickets still!

Same here. Chicago?

Anonymous wrote:Hoping for the best, expecting the worst.

If it's bad news, I told kid they can take a day off next week to work on apps. So win-win?

Of the other 9 schools on his list, 3 apps are in and 6 are halfway done. Think he could button up 2 of them with one skip day. So he'll have 4 to do over break. It's manageable.

My kid’s midterms are Mon-Wed next week and he hears Monday afternoon…ugh

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Anonymous wrote:I have the kid waiting on a WASP - Swarthmore - which is, in fact, very much NOT White Anglo-Saxon Protestant.

I also have a kid waiting on Swarthmore ED. 7-9%! And yet I (perhaps irrationally) am optimistic. But know it will all work out if Swarthmore isn't an accept. Good luck to us both!

Not to rain on your optimism, but you realize that this includes committed athletes with pre-reads who are virtual locks. If half the pool is commits (and your kid isn't), you are looking at 4.5%-ish acceptance rate. If your kid is an athlete, then you are not being irrational.

I think the overall acceptance rate is 8% and the ED rate is about twice that. Yes, still quite competitive for non-hooked.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for the best, expecting the worst.

+1

My son told me last night that he should get his ED decision on Friday while he is away at a school event. He asked that if he doesn't get in that we not say anything at all to him. (I said it it okay to say sorry? He said no he doesn't want to hear anything from his parents) I'm really hoping for good news and wondering how to support him if it's not.

Just say like, ‘I’m really sorry this happened to you but I want you to know your father and I will still love you anyway’

Are you kidding? It scares me to think that a mother would really say that to her child.

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+1

My son told me last night that he should get his ED decision on Friday while he is away at a school event. He asked that if he doesn't get in that we not say anything at all to him. (I said it it okay to say sorry? He said no he doesn't want to hear anything from his parents) I'm really hoping for good news and wondering how to support him if it's not.
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Just say like, ‘I’m really sorry this happened to you but I want you to know your father and I will still love you anyway’[/quote]

“Still love you anyway” that’s jacked up

Love for your kid shouldn’t even be in question here. All of our kids (who are applying) are going to college, even if it’s not their ED school.

PP: your son asked you not to say anything to him if he didn’t get in: respect his boundaries and just let him process.

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Anonymous wrote:I have the kid waiting on a WASP - Swarthmore - which is, in fact, very much NOT White Anglo-Saxon Protestant.

I also have a kid waiting on Swarthmore ED. 7-9%! And yet I (perhaps irrationally) am optimistic. But know it will all work out if Swarthmore isn't an accept. Good luck to us both!

Not to rain on your optimism, but you realize that this includes committed athletes with pre-reads who are virtual locks. If half the pool is commits (and your kid isn't), you are looking at 4.5%-ish acceptance rate. If your kid is an athlete, then you are not being irrational.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly hoping DC does not get ED1 choice. That’s awful of me to say, I know.

Why?

Because I don't love the school DC decided to ED1 to, and would prefer that DC at least keep options open.

I met another parent who told me she is hoping her child does not get their ED choice (Swarthmore), so you are not alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Day drinking for three more days…

Thursday afternoon for me.

If only Total Wine had an ED special.....

Ah, this was me 2 years ago. Bota Box of Nighthawk Black. That is the ED (or RD) special!

DC is doing fine. It's me.

I was super confident that she will get in ED. But now I am losing ALL the confidence.

Also it's not about this particular school. It's that I don't feel good to watch her going through more stress in RD applications. She might not feel that way so it may be just me.

Her school counselor has been accessible all the time. And they emphasize on well beings of the students.

Maybe I should go see a counselor for parents as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for the best, expecting the worst.

+1

My son told me last night that he should get his ED decision on Friday while he is away at a school event. He asked that if he doesn't get in that we not say anything at all to him. (I said it it okay to say sorry? He said no he doesn't want to hear anything from his parents) I'm really hoping for good news and wondering how to support him if it's not.

Just say like, ‘I’m really sorry this happened to you but I want you to know your father and I will still love you anyway’

lol You made it sound like he committed a serious crime.

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Anonymous wrote:Day drinking for three more days…

Thursday afternoon for me.

If only Total Wine had an ED special.....

Anonymous wrote:Feeling somewhat relieved after DD told me this AM that instead of doing an ED2 like she had planned if she's rejected from ED1, she's leaning towards just submitting RD everywhere and seeing what she ends up with. She was really struggling to decide between two schools for ED2 and has several RD's she likes so I think this makes sense. Now, if only her ED1 would announce the decision date - feels like she's only one with crickets still!

Sounds like she's got a good head on her shoulders. Good luck to her!

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for the best, expecting the worst.

+1

My son told me last night that he should get his ED decision on Friday while he is away at a school event. He asked that if he doesn't get in that we not say anything at all to him. (I said it it okay to say sorry? He said no he doesn't want to hear anything from his parents) I'm really hoping for good news and wondering how to support him if it's not.

Just say like, ‘I’m really sorry this happened to you but I want you to know your father and I will still love you anyway’

The kid literally asked her not to do that. He is articulating how he wants to process this - why are you counseling OP to ignore his wishes? And do you really think her kid is wondering if his parents still love him? What is going on in your home?

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for the best, expecting the worst.

+1

My son told me last night that he should get his ED decision on Friday while he is away at a school event. He asked that if he doesn't get in that we not say anything at all to him. (I said it it okay to say sorry? He said no he doesn't want to hear anything from his parents) I'm really hoping for good news and wondering how to support him if it's not.

Just say like, ‘I’m really sorry this happened to you but I want you to know your father and I will still love you anyway’