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Anonymous wrote:Is AP pregnant? Her spouse should know then.

She's pregnant but apparently it's her husbands, not OPs dh.

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Anonymous wrote:Is AP pregnant? Her spouse should know then.

She's pregnant but apparently it's her husbands, not OPs dh.

They did a fetal paternity test? No hanky panky for a month? Or how apparently?

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Anonymous wrote:Is AP pregnant? Her spouse should know then.

She's pregnant but apparently it's her husbands, not OPs dh.

Anonymous wrote:Is AP pregnant? Her spouse should know then.

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Anonymous wrote:"Won't someone please think of the homewreckers!?" --DCUM cheaters (or wannabe cheaters) thinking it's perfectly fine for OP's life to be destroyed, but don't dare hurt the people who were the destroyers.

The moment you cheat on your spouse, is the moment you forego any consideration by your spouse. The spouse who has been betrayed, gets to decide how they react, not some stranger whose own marriage is undoubtedly unhappy and you empathize w/ a cheater because you are one or want to be one.

OP, don't do anything before you really think about it, but ultimately, do what you think is best for you and your family.

I think people are thinking about the OW's husband. OP seems to be gleeful about wrecking that marriage without regard to the innocent people involved. I, for one, am not sure I'd want to know if my spouse were cheating.

The cheating whore had zero regard to the innocent wife and kids.

You seem to miss the point. The OW's husband is an innocent party here, and OP is getting her revenge at his expense. She is pretending that she's doing it in part to help him, but the reality is that she is doing it for spite and without regard to the OW's husband. That's selfish. It makes OP less sympathetic.

The AP’s husband is going to be hurt because of the AP (his wife)’s actions. OP is just the messenger. The second the wife banged some other dude she hurt her spouse, he just doesn’t know it yet.

I don’t think OP is gleeful about the other husband getting hurt, I think she wants to be able to call out the people who hurt her and have them suffer the consequences of their choices. This is an understandable feeling. If a coworker told a lie at work to blame a mistake on you, you would be justified at wanting to prove they lied even if it meant they could lose their job, which would hurt their innocent family members. It’s a normal human feeling to want to see someone who wronged you suffer consequences (on a much larger scale rape victims testify against criminals, sorry to the criminal’s family, but that isn’t the victim’s fault).

Don’t go out and behave in a way that will hurt your family, and if you get caught it is your fault alone that you hurt innocent people.

OP is 100% gleeful about destroying OW's marriage and hurting the husband. It's selfish, and she's doing it for her own gratification. It's selfish. Your whole post is such nonsense mental gymnastics to avoid the obvious.

"The obvious" what, exactly? The fact that OP wants to lash out? So?

Another PP above has nailed what you simply refuse to see: "OP is just the messenger. The second the wife banged some other dude she hurt her spouse, he just doesn’t know it yet."

OP's motivations really don't matter, even if she does want to tell the AP's DH because her motivation is punishing the AP. Even if that's a terrible motivation. The DH still should know. And the OP isn't the one harming the AP's spouse. That person is 100 percent his wife, the AP.

If telling the DH does not give OP the gratification or closure or "gleeful" pleasure you think she wants, so what? That's HER outcome.

The cheated-on DH's outcome, whatever it ends up being, wlll at least be one fully informed by knowing his wife's actions. He likely will know exactly where to place blame, and it won't be on OP.

You just assert that OW's husband should know, but you don't know that he wants to or needs to know. It's just what a selfish person says to justify hurting someone else for your own spiteful purposes. "The obvious" is that OP doesn't care about hurting someone else for her own pleasure -- ironically, just like the cheaters. You just want to suggest it is righteous by asserting, without any basis, that the husband wants to or "should" know.

You don't think he has any right to know? That his wife is cheating on him? Exposing him to STDs? Potentially planning to blindside him? What is wrong with you? Stop protecting cheaters.

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Anonymous wrote:"Won't someone please think of the homewreckers!?" --DCUM cheaters (or wannabe cheaters) thinking it's perfectly fine for OP's life to be destroyed, but don't dare hurt the people who were the destroyers.

The moment you cheat on your spouse, is the moment you forego any consideration by your spouse. The spouse who has been betrayed, gets to decide how they react, not some stranger whose own marriage is undoubtedly unhappy and you empathize w/ a cheater because you are one or want to be one.

OP, don't do anything before you really think about it, but ultimately, do what you think is best for you and your family.

I think people are thinking about the OW's husband. OP seems to be gleeful about wrecking that marriage without regard to the innocent people involved. I, for one, am not sure I'd want to know if my spouse were cheating.

The cheating whore had zero regard to the innocent wife and kids.

You seem to miss the point. The OW's husband is an innocent party here, and OP is getting her revenge at his expense. She is pretending that she's doing it in part to help him, but the reality is that she is doing it for spite and without regard to the OW's husband. That's selfish. It makes OP less sympathetic.

The AP’s husband is going to be hurt because of the AP (his wife)’s actions. OP is just the messenger. The second the wife banged some other dude she hurt her spouse, he just doesn’t know it yet.

I don’t think OP is gleeful about the other husband getting hurt, I think she wants to be able to call out the people who hurt her and have them suffer the consequences of their choices. This is an understandable feeling. If a coworker told a lie at work to blame a mistake on you, you would be justified at wanting to prove they lied even if it meant they could lose their job, which would hurt their innocent family members. It’s a normal human feeling to want to see someone who wronged you suffer consequences (on a much larger scale rape victims testify against criminals, sorry to the criminal’s family, but that isn’t the victim’s fault).

Don’t go out and behave in a way that will hurt your family, and if you get caught it is your fault alone that you hurt innocent people.

OP is 100% gleeful about destroying OW's marriage and hurting the husband. It's selfish, and she's doing it for her own gratification. It's selfish. Your whole post is such nonsense mental gymnastics to avoid the obvious.

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Anonymous wrote:"Won't someone please think of the homewreckers!?" --DCUM cheaters (or wannabe cheaters) thinking it's perfectly fine for OP's life to be destroyed, but don't dare hurt the people who were the destroyers.

The moment you cheat on your spouse, is the moment you forego any consideration by your spouse. The spouse who has been betrayed, gets to decide how they react, not some stranger whose own marriage is undoubtedly unhappy and you empathize w/ a cheater because you are one or want to be one.

OP, don't do anything before you really think about it, but ultimately, do what you think is best for you and your family.

I think people are thinking about the OW's husband. OP seems to be gleeful about wrecking that marriage without regard to the innocent people involved. I, for one, am not sure I'd want to know if my spouse were cheating.

The cheating whore had zero regard to the innocent wife and kids.

You seem to miss the point. The OW's husband is an innocent party here, and OP is getting her revenge at his expense. She is pretending that she's doing it in part to help him, but the reality is that she is doing it for spite and without regard to the OW's husband. That's selfish. It makes OP less sympathetic.

I disagree. There are a few people who say they wouldn't want to know their partner is cheating, but the vast majority seem to want to know. It's not getting revenge at his expense - it's giving him the option to liberate himself from a cheating whore who doesnt respect him or their marriage vows. It's not pretending to help him - it IS helping him. If he chooses to stay, he chooses with full knowledge of what shes done and capable of. He can adjust expectations accordingly. Keeping him in the dark only benefits the cheaters. Don't be a cheater and you dont have to worry about it.

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Cheating wives are often secretly plotting divorce for when kids go to college or lining things up for a hopeful exit affair. They are positioning themselves to get spouses $$, even meeting attornies and will use the “grew apart” while he is hit out of the blue and zero agency or knowledge she has been cheating. Some are even siphoning $ off.

It’s best they know.

That was my ex’s AP’s plan. She talked about future divorce. Soured things for him when the no-strings agreement of course morphed into finding a lucrative, new man to support her—and slowly started indicating it would be him. Dropped her fast after that. These are not good people. They have motives. They are sneaky, lying, unscrupulous low value people. Spouses definitely need to know their truths.

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Anonymous wrote:Jeffs blog post today seems to confirm that OP IS the author of the previous thread (50 year old dude and 20 something married pregnant business partner).

Interesting development!

Sad that in 50+ years OP hasn’t learned emotional regulation. This is the kind of behavior I’d expect from a 30 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:"Won't someone please think of the homewreckers!?" --DCUM cheaters (or wannabe cheaters) thinking it's perfectly fine for OP's life to be destroyed, but don't dare hurt the people who were the destroyers.

The moment you cheat on your spouse, is the moment you forego any consideration by your spouse. The spouse who has been betrayed, gets to decide how they react, not some stranger whose own marriage is undoubtedly unhappy and you empathize w/ a cheater because you are one or want to be one.

OP, don't do anything before you really think about it, but ultimately, do what you think is best for you and your family.

I think people are thinking about the OW's husband. OP seems to be gleeful about wrecking that marriage without regard to the innocent people involved. I, for one, am not sure I'd want to know if my spouse were cheating.

The cheating whore had zero regard to the innocent wife and kids.

You seem to miss the point. The OW's husband is an innocent party here, and OP is getting her revenge at his expense. She is pretending that she's doing it in part to help him, but the reality is that she is doing it for spite and without regard to the OW's husband. That's selfish. It makes OP less sympathetic.

The AP’s husband is going to be hurt because of the AP (his wife)’s actions. OP is just the messenger. The second the wife banged some other dude she hurt her spouse, he just doesn’t know it yet.

I don’t think OP is gleeful about the other husband getting hurt, I think she wants to be able to call out the people who hurt her and have them suffer the consequences of their choices. This is an understandable feeling. If a coworker told a lie at work to blame a mistake on you, you would be justified at wanting to prove they lied even if it meant they could lose their job, which would hurt their innocent family members. It’s a normal human feeling to want to see someone who wronged you suffer consequences (on a much larger scale rape victims testify against criminals, sorry to the criminal’s family, but that isn’t the victim’s fault).

Don’t go out and behave in a way that will hurt your family, and if you get caught it is your fault alone that you hurt innocent people.

OP is 100% gleeful about destroying OW's marriage and hurting the husband. It's selfish, and she's doing it for her own gratification. It's selfish. Your whole post is such nonsense mental gymnastics to avoid the obvious.

"The obvious" what, exactly? The fact that OP wants to lash out? So?

Another PP above has nailed what you simply refuse to see: "OP is just the messenger. The second the wife banged some other dude she hurt her spouse, he just doesn’t know it yet."

OP's motivations really don't matter, even if she does want to tell the AP's DH because her motivation is punishing the AP. Even if that's a terrible motivation. The DH still should know. And the OP isn't the one harming the AP's spouse. That person is 100 percent his wife, the AP.

If telling the DH does not give OP the gratification or closure or "gleeful" pleasure you think she wants, so what? That's HER outcome.

The cheated-on DH's outcome, whatever it ends up being, wlll at least be one fully informed by knowing his wife's actions. He likely will know exactly where to place blame, and it won't be on OP.

You just assert that OW's husband should know, but you don't know that he wants to or needs to know. It's just what a selfish person says to justify hurting someone else for your own spiteful purposes. "The obvious" is that OP doesn't care about hurting someone else for her own pleasure -- ironically, just like the cheaters. You just want to suggest it is righteous by asserting, without any basis, that the husband wants to or "should" know.

You don't think he has any right to know? That his wife is cheating on him? Exposing him to STDs? Potentially planning to blindside him? What is wrong with you? Stop protecting cheaters.