Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 16:17     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Will she also do the majority of cooking, cleaning and household chores? Because your budget doesn't allow for a cleaning service or much takeout/restaurants.


You guys are trying to bait me, but it's not going to work.

I'd expect we'd split cooking, laundry, etc. 50/50. Real cleaning we'll outsource - as frugal as I am, a monthly house cleaner is something I've always splurged on. Currently, it's only $90 for my condo and I know it will obviously be more in a house - we'll budget for that.

Regarding parenting, I do expect she'd take the lead there. Yes, if I'm bringing most of the money to the marriage, I'd expect her to contribute in other ways. But, primarily, I'd expect her to do the majority of the parenting because I would only be attracted in the first place to a woman who is nurturing and would enjoy taking care of the kid(s). Similarly, I'd expect the lawn mowing to fall 100/0 to me since that's traditionally a male activity.


I almost laugh out loud because it is just so ridiculous. But it is also mean. I feel bad for future wife who has to do everything.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 16:17     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:My buddy married a trust fund girl. She was not rich or parents rich but her great grandparents trust set aside $200k cash for each new kid born.

He married her and started popping out kids. He then found a very wealthy Southampton person who needed a caretaker of mansion. He moved into guest house rent free. Off season he lives in mansion.

Bored he then became the Gym teacher in Southhampton high school. Easy gig medical and pension. He also for fun bartended in summer sometimes. He even set up a sports vet call line for awhile.

The gym teacher job which was really just 8-3 during school year was a joke. No papers to grade. But gave him access to all the parents and parties.

It is not so much Fire it is what are you doing your life and expenses.

This guy has zero expenses. He lived in mansion, drove owners sports cars. But you need a purpose.



So did they save that $200K per kid for the Kid's future? Because the relative likely meant it for the KID, and college and a car.

What happens when the mansion owner sells? Does his caretaking job transfer to the new owner (Not likely, I'm kidding). Then he's without a place to live. But has a wife and several kids apparently.

But sure, being a PE teacher is a good thing---medical and a salary with a family is always a good thing.

Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 15:50     Subject: Re:Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:If OP has learned anything from this thread it’s that he can’t date 50 year olds that need Vitamin C treatments to assuage their aging skin.

Such a loss.


Do you think if OP gets married, his spouse will never turn 50? Does FIRE mean always dating someone who's 29, and trading today's 29 year old for the next one, so you never need more expensive skincare?

If your point is that this seems like a young person's idea of what adult life will look like - I think we agree.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 15:36     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, since you're back, why don't you fill us in on precisely how much baby and toddler parenting you're planning to do.


Not the majority but a reasonable amount that keeps both my wife and I happy.


Why, given that you are not working, would you not do 50%?


Because he’s going to mow the lawn-once a week so clearly that equals out being the primary caregiver to a baby and toddler!
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 15:33     Subject: Re:Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If OP has learned anything from this thread it’s that he can’t date 50 year olds that need Vitamin C treatments to assuage their aging skin.

Such a loss.


29-year-olds become 50-year-olds.


+1 and when they get fed up and divorce op, as seems inevitable, he’ll have to get a job
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 15:16     Subject: Re:Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:If OP has learned anything from this thread it’s that he can’t date 50 year olds that need Vitamin C treatments to assuage their aging skin.

Such a loss.


Are you under the mistaken impression that everyone who thinks OP is a naive twit is a woman?
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 14:58     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, since you're back, why don't you fill us in on precisely how much baby and toddler parenting you're planning to do.


Not the majority but a reasonable amount that keeps both my wife and I happy.


So she'll do the majority, on a budget, and she'll pay $1m for the privilege?


Right? I was the woman he described in my late twenties (at least in terms of savings), and I married UP (financially) to someone who now makes seven figures. What the OP is proposing is absurd, but best of luck.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 14:56     Subject: Re:Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:If OP has learned anything from this thread it’s that he can’t date 50 year olds that need Vitamin C treatments to assuage their aging skin.

Such a loss.


29-year-olds become 50-year-olds.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 14:18     Subject: Re:Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:If OP has learned anything from this thread it’s that he can’t date 50 year olds that need Vitamin C treatments to assuage their aging skin.

Such a loss.


It's kind of strange to be attacking how undatable upthread PPs are for being adults that are already in successful relationships, in defense of an adult man who admits he cannot handle dating and earning passive income in an online brokerage account at the same time. It's one thing to be "Team Whatever Man Is Typing" but at least try to make sense with your attempts at insults.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 14:15     Subject: Re:Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
If OP has learned anything from this thread it’s that he can’t date 50 year olds that need Vitamin C treatments to assuage their aging skin.

Such a loss.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 14:14     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:I think he's a troll?


Yes!

And he's got the female incels all fired up!
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 14:12     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Will she also do the majority of cooking, cleaning and household chores? Because your budget doesn't allow for a cleaning service or much takeout/restaurants.


You guys are trying to bait me, but it's not going to work.

I'd expect we'd split cooking, laundry, etc. 50/50. Real cleaning we'll outsource - as frugal as I am, a monthly house cleaner is something I've always splurged on. Currently, it's only $90 for my condo and I know it will obviously be more in a house - we'll budget for that.

Regarding parenting, I do expect she'd take the lead there. Yes, if I'm bringing most of the money to the marriage, I'd expect her to contribute in other ways. But, primarily, I'd expect her to do the majority of the parenting because I would only be attracted in the first place to a woman who is nurturing and would enjoy taking care of the kid(s). Similarly, I'd expect the lawn mowing to fall 100/0 to me since that's traditionally a male activity.


LOL. A 38 y/o man targeting a 29-30 y/o woman and then preemptively charging her a lifetime of servitude to make up for the fact that he's been in the workforce twice as long.

You know what's not traditionally a male activity? Intentional unemployment. Good luck out there, I suspect you're going to learn a little too late that FIRE isn't sustainable for the divorced.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 13:56     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
Wait, so he's 5 years older than she is, but he's gonna play the card of "I brought more money into the marriage so you do more chores in perpetuity"? Come on dude. Don't you see how unreasonable that is?

A FIRE-minded 33-year-old woman can do a lot better than this. And since FIRE dating is disproportionately male, I'm sure she'll find someone more open-minded and reasonable.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 13:53     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
I think he's a troll?
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 12:23     Subject: Has anyone here on a normal income successfully FIREd?
I was rooting for OP until his last few posts. He comes across as a rigid guy with unrealistic expectations of a Trad Wife. Agree with others (and also stated it upthread) that he has to start dating now to see what type of women he’s compatible with. Also agree that not being able to focus on work and dating is a red flag.