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Anonymous wrote:This does not sound like a work vs not work thing.

It sounds like you are a 'sad sack'. Are you? Are you sad? Are you struggling with your new life?

I think you are, because if you are not, the comment would not bother you.

My mother use to say, if somebody calls you a duck do you think "am i a duck" no... because you know you are not.

If somebody says "you're fat, or ugly, or stupid" and you get upset, it's because you think it about yourself.

Wow, I just said something similar to my teenagers. If you know a description doesn't fit you, you think something is wrong with the other person's perception. But you are not sure, that's when start perservating.

So by this “logic,” what you two are saying is that no strong, beautiful Black woman should ever feel insulted if someone screams the N-word at her. Because after all, that word can only hurt her if that’s the way she feels about herself?

No gay couple should be hurt if someone screeches the “f-word” at them? They would only feel insulted or attacked if they secretly loathe themselves or each other for being gay?

That’s your logic? Really?

If you cannot distinguish hate speech from any other type of speech, I'm sorry, I cannot help you. It must be difficult to live in tje world with such poor logic and nuance.

If you cannot distinguish rude disgusting insults with constructive criticism/feedback, I’m sorry, I cannot help you. It must be difficult to live in the world with such poor logic and nuance.

Anonymous wrote:This does not sound like a work vs not work thing.

It sounds like you are a 'sad sack'. Are you? Are you sad? Are you struggling with your new life?

I think you are, because if you are not, the comment would not bother you.

My mother use to say, if somebody calls you a duck do you think "am i a duck" no... because you know you are not.

If somebody says "you're fat, or ugly, or stupid" and you get upset, it's because you think it about yourself.

This is the dumbest trash I have ever read. You are a joke and I cannot even imagine how invalidated your children (if you have them, hopefully you don’t!!) must feel by you every day of their lives.

OP - just enjoy your life. I’m not working right now. I may go back at some point because DH may retire then I’m going to help by going back to work just for health insurance coverage. Join a gym - get really healthy - I’ve lost 15 pounds and gained a lot of muscle. Not having the stress from work and managing house & kids let me focus on myself and get rid of bad habits. I completely quit drinking alcohol and cleaned up my diet. I’m thinking ahead to spring break and planning some fun hikes with the kids which I’m now fit enough to do.