Anonymous
Post 11/15/2023 09:41     Subject: Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:

I'll never forget the day many years ago when I forgot to wear eye liner to work. Multiple people asked me "are you okay?" before I realized why.


I'm 60 years old and have worn eyeliner since I was 15. Every time I've tried to give up the habit, I've had at least one person a day say "Oh, you look exhausted today" or "Are you not feeling well?" So I guess it's eyeliner for life or until my eyesight is so bad the magnifying mirror doesn't work anymore or I develop a hand tremor.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 10:07     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
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It makes other people uncomfortable...


still their problem.


It's just rude when a person dresses inappropriately. It also gives a negative impression of a person, that they don't care about themselves or that they don't care enough about the occasion or the people they're with to dress- up to the level of importance or significance of the event.
But, you don't care what people think about you, so wouldn't expect you to care enough about others to show them you respect them/the event they are hosting/etc.


exactly my point.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 00:47     Subject: Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
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Anonymous wrote:As a man, I think makeup on a woman is very overrated. There is nothing worse than someone who has a face buried in makeup. Have confidence in your natural beauty.


Yet men will be the first to pick apart a woman's looks from her under eye shadows to her zits etc.


No, women do this, not men. Most men aren’t looking at your face in the first place.


I’m just glad that we had a man to step in and tell us that he doesn’t like makeup. That solves it! The man has spoken.


I'll never forget the day about tens years ago when one of my male coworkers came to me, worried that our boss had the flu "because she looked awful, we should get her to go home."
Had to explain to him that she had a hard morning with two young kids and she didn't have time to put on her daily makeup.




I'll never forget the day many years ago when I forgot to wear eye liner to work. Multiple people asked me "are you okay?" before I realized why.


I've had that too if I skip makeup. "Are you okay? You look tired."
Why do people think it is okay to say these things. And, yeah, I'm frickin tired.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 00:24     Subject: Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:When you see a caucasian eastern europe woman and the white american woman the difference is obvious. The eastern europe one is very confident in dressing sexy while the american one is a bit more stuffy.


I swear the Russian and right wing trolls have spilled out of the politics
forum are just trolling the rest of dcum on the regular now.

If you want to live in Eastern Europe, major airlines are ready when you are.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 23:19     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:
It makes other people uncomfortable...


still their problem.


It's just rude when a person dresses inappropriately. It also gives a negative impression of a person, that they don't care about themselves or that they don't care enough about the occasion or the people they're with to dress- up to the level of importance or significance of the event.
But, you don't care what people think about you, so wouldn't expect you to care enough about others to show them you respect them/the event they are hosting/etc.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 16:16     Subject: Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
When you see a caucasian eastern europe woman and the white american woman the difference is obvious. The eastern europe one is very confident in dressing sexy while the american one is a bit more stuffy.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 16:15     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
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My comfort matters, yours doesn’t


so..... I should dress for others' comfort? That's crazy.
I'm dressing how I want to, when I want to, and it's not my issue if someone has a problem with it.


Yes, you should take others’ comfort into consideration when dressing. Because you are living in a society, and you are not the only person on the planet. It makes other people uncomfortable to see the outline of your penis, for example, or part of your areola, or your buttcrack, or your muffin top, or the three inch long hair under your arms. It is ridiculous and childish to feel entitled to subject other people to that because… you just feel like it.


I am pretty sure it makes some people uncomfortable to see your uncovered hair - what are you going to do about it?


This is actually a good point (although not the gotcha I’m sure you think it is). Would you travel to a Muslim country in which it is expected polite behavior (but not required for tourists) to cover your shoulders and your knees out in public, and insist that it’s your right to wear a strapless mini sundress because it’s “comfortable”?


Would PP storm the Vatican with her exposed shoulders because it's her right to be comfortable when seeing the Pieta?
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 15:51     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:
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It makes other people uncomfortable...


still their problem.


And you’re a narcissist. Our entire society is descending into narcissism. So I guess you win. Congratulations?


thanks. I aim to please...myself only.

yes, how I dress signifies my narcissism. ok.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 15:40     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:
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My comfort matters, yours doesn’t


so..... I should dress for others' comfort? That's crazy.
I'm dressing how I want to, when I want to, and it's not my issue if someone has a problem with it.


Yes, you should take others’ comfort into consideration when dressing. Because you are living in a society, and you are not the only person on the planet. It makes other people uncomfortable to see the outline of your penis, for example, or part of your areola, or your buttcrack, or your muffin top, or the three inch long hair under your arms. It is ridiculous and childish to feel entitled to subject other people to that because… you just feel like it.


I am pretty sure it makes some people uncomfortable to see your uncovered hair - what are you going to do about it?


This is actually a good point (although not the gotcha I’m sure you think it is). Would you travel to a Muslim country in which it is expected polite behavior (but not required for tourists) to cover your shoulders and your knees out in public, and insist that it’s your right to wear a strapless mini sundress because it’s “comfortable”?
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 15:38     Subject: Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
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Anonymous wrote:Because Americans are slobs. FULL STOP


I fear that you're correct. I am English, live and work in the DMV, and am currently in Dublin for a work trip. Earlier this afternoon, I walked across the campus of Trinity College with my daughter, who is a student at University College Dublin, and even the student population here is better dressed than what you see at Georgetown, GWU, CU, AU, etc.


How much are the majority of these Trinity / Dublin students and their parents paying for their tuition and health insurance?
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 14:57     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
My comfort matters, yours doesn’t


so..... I should dress for others' comfort? That's crazy.
I'm dressing how I want to, when I want to, and it's not my issue if someone has a problem with it.


Yes, you should take others’ comfort into consideration when dressing. Because you are living in a society, and you are not the only person on the planet. It makes other people uncomfortable to see the outline of your penis, for example, or part of your areola, or your buttcrack, or your muffin top, or the three inch long hair under your arms. It is ridiculous and childish to feel entitled to subject other people to that because… you just feel like it.


I am pretty sure it makes some people uncomfortable to see your uncovered hair - what are you going to do about it?
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 14:23     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:
It makes other people uncomfortable...


still their problem.


And you’re a narcissist. Our entire society is descending into narcissism. So I guess you win. Congratulations?
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 12:56     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
It makes other people uncomfortable...


still their problem.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 12:34     Subject: Re:Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
Anonymous wrote:
My comfort matters, yours doesn’t


so..... I should dress for others' comfort? That's crazy.
I'm dressing how I want to, when I want to, and it's not my issue if someone has a problem with it.


Yes, you should take others’ comfort into consideration when dressing. Because you are living in a society, and you are not the only person on the planet. It makes other people uncomfortable to see the outline of your penis, for example, or part of your areola, or your buttcrack, or your muffin top, or the three inch long hair under your arms. It is ridiculous and childish to feel entitled to subject other people to that because… you just feel like it.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2023 12:13     Subject: Why have people given up on looking attractive when they go out?
I think most people dress for the occasion. Running errands? Yoga pants are fine. Dinner and drink out with friends? Jeans and boots. Seeing the dentist? Wear whatever makes you most comfortable.

When it's outside the norm, either under or over dressing for the occasion, is when it raises eyebrows. I see so many women with full faces of makeup on at the gym or the pool. It's over the top and ridiculous.