Anonymous
Post 04/01/2015 19:01     Subject: Re:Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:Here goes:

-people who don't plan to have one parent home as the primary caregiver until their child/ren are at least school age should not be parents, this includes single by choice parents.

-the need for a knee jerk blame game every time something horrible or tragic takes place is nauseating, I don't understand the need to excuse horrendous behavior or why there is zero personal accountability anymore.

-I dread what society will look like in 20 years when all of these children raised by "crunchy" parents with their labels like "spirited" child and gentle discipline are grown adults in work force

-(I'm really sorry for this one) Having an infertile relative or in law in the family sucks a bit, sometimes a lot, of joy out of family events and announcements. I'm so sorry you don't have the children you want, but I do and I am going to celebrate it. Life sucks sometimes.

-I am madly in love with my husband and he is my best friend, but if he hadn't had a promising career and the ability to acquire wealth I never would have married him. I don't think there is anything wrong with this.

-I think 90% of people who say they have anxiety, especially social anxiety or have OCD do not and are just being special snowflakes and it really makes me upset for people who actually suffer through mental illness. You lining shit up on your desk is miles away from someone washing their hands until they bleed.

-I don't find Beyonce all that special or particularly talented.


A lot of this goes beyond opinion to just a simple lack of empathy coupled with a sense of entitlement. I know people like you in real life, and they generally suck. But I'll give you the Beyoncé one.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2015 15:53     Subject: Re:Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:Here goes:

-people who don't plan to have one parent home as the primary caregiver until their child/ren are at least school age should not be parents, this includes single by choice parents.

-the need for a knee jerk blame game every time something horrible or tragic takes place is nauseating, I don't understand the need to excuse horrendous behavior or why there is zero personal accountability anymore.

-I dread what society will look like in 20 years when all of these children raised by "crunchy" parents with their labels like "spirited" child and gentle discipline are grown adults in work force

-(I'm really sorry for this one) Having an infertile relative or in law in the family sucks a bit, sometimes a lot, of joy out of family events and announcements. I'm so sorry you don't have the children you want, but I do and I am going to celebrate it. Life sucks sometimes.

-I am madly in love with my husband and he is my best friend, but if he hadn't had a promising career and the ability to acquire wealth I never would have married him. I don't think there is anything wrong with this.

-I think 90% of people who say they have anxiety, especially social anxiety or have OCD do not and are just being special snowflakes and it really makes me upset for people who actually suffer through mental illness. You lining shit up on your desk is miles away from someone washing their hands until they bleed.

-I don't find Beyonce all that special or particularly talented.


I appreciate your honesty! A response: I have anxiety and it really sucks. It's paralyzing for me and I've spoken with others with similarly uncomfortable realities. I guess I don't understand why you consider mental illness "legitimate" (?) only if it's severe.

Agree on Beyoncé. She's beautiful - that's her draw.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2015 15:25     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:I don't get how the "fake pregnancy announcements" are SO HURTFUL!!!!111 on April Fools' Day. A bunch of my friends have been reposting those memes for about a week. Wouldn't those people be hurt by any pregnancy announcement, even the real ones? So by that logic none of us should ever say anything good on facebook/twitter/etc. ever again lest someone be hurt/jealous/etc. Right.


It is hurtful in that these people seem to view pregnancy as a joke. For those women who struggle with getting pregnant, struggle with maintaining a pregnancy, suffer from miscarriages or stillbirths, or somehow wind up losing their babies, pregnancy is NOT viewed as a joke.

I've seen several on FB in prior years where women showed their boyfriend/fiancee/husband a fake "positive" pregnancy test as an April Fool. I would give just about anything to be able to show my husband a positive pregnancy test, just once in my life. My solution to these "fake" announcements is just avoiding FB today. Its working for me, but it is disturbing that there are so many people out there who don't see how this could be hurtful to another woman. If its a real announcement from a friend of mine, you can bet that I'd be one of the first people to send along congratulations. But to make a mockery of it for a joke, to me, is just in bad taste.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2015 13:44     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

I don't get how the "fake pregnancy announcements" are SO HURTFUL!!!!111 on April Fools' Day. A bunch of my friends have been reposting those memes for about a week. Wouldn't those people be hurt by any pregnancy announcement, even the real ones? So by that logic none of us should ever say anything good on facebook/twitter/etc. ever again lest someone be hurt/jealous/etc. Right.
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2015 06:47     Subject: Re:Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:Here goes:

-people who don't plan to have one parent home as the primary caregiver until their child/ren are at least school age should not be parents, this includes single by choice parents.

-the need for a knee jerk blame game every time something horrible or tragic takes place is nauseating, I don't understand the need to excuse horrendous behavior or why there is zero personal accountability anymore.

-I dread what society will look like in 20 years when all of these children raised by "crunchy" parents with their labels like "spirited" child and gentle discipline are grown adults in work force

-(I'm really sorry for this one) Having an infertile relative or in law in the family sucks a bit, sometimes a lot, of joy out of family events and announcements. I'm so sorry you don't have the children you want, but I do and I am going to celebrate it. Life sucks sometimes.

-I am madly in love with my husband and he is my best friend, but if he hadn't had a promising career and the ability to acquire wealth I never would have married him. I don't think there is anything wrong with this.

-I think 90% of people who say they have anxiety, especially social anxiety or have OCD do not and are just being special snowflakes and it really makes me upset for people who actually suffer through mental illness. You lining shit up on your desk is miles away from someone washing their hands until they bleed.

-I don't find Beyonce all that special or particularly talented.


THIS. This is the single biggest cause of most of the problems in the under 30 crowd
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2015 02:34     Subject: Re:Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:

-(I'm really sorry for this one) Having an infertile relative or in law in the family sucks a bit, sometimes a lot, of joy out of family events and announcements. I'm so sorry you don't have the children you want, but I do and I am going to celebrate it. Life sucks sometimes.


LOL.

I'm so sorry the joy is being sucked out of your family events and announcements, but your relative is in pain and doesn't have to hide it. Life sucks sometimes.

See how that works?
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2015 00:44     Subject: Re:Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Here goes:

-people who don't plan to have one parent home as the primary caregiver until their child/ren are at least school age should not be parents, this includes single by choice parents.

-the need for a knee jerk blame game every time something horrible or tragic takes place is nauseating, I don't understand the need to excuse horrendous behavior or why there is zero personal accountability anymore.

-I dread what society will look like in 20 years when all of these children raised by "crunchy" parents with their labels like "spirited" child and gentle discipline are grown adults in work force

-(I'm really sorry for this one) Having an infertile relative or in law in the family sucks a bit, sometimes a lot, of joy out of family events and announcements. I'm so sorry you don't have the children you want, but I do and I am going to celebrate it. Life sucks sometimes.

-I am madly in love with my husband and he is my best friend, but if he hadn't had a promising career and the ability to acquire wealth I never would have married him. I don't think there is anything wrong with this.

-I think 90% of people who say they have anxiety, especially social anxiety or have OCD do not and are just being special snowflakes and it really makes me upset for people who actually suffer through mental illness. You lining shit up on your desk is miles away from someone washing their hands until they bleed.

-I don't find Beyonce all that special or particularly talented.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 22:20     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think we're getting far too cushy in our tolerance of mental illness. It seems like it's an excuse or "explanation" for everything, and used to deny agency and personal responsibility.

I've had a very, very far from perfect life. I've had sad moments, frustrated moments, but I think it's important to feel your feelings and emotions rather than just numb them with medication. I think that sometimes that only makes people further detach from normal human feelings (about ourselves, and others).



I think people overuse chemo. It detaches them too much from their normal human feelings of cancer.


And, I love you.

Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 22:12     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:I think we're getting far too cushy in our tolerance of mental illness. It seems like it's an excuse or "explanation" for everything, and used to deny agency and personal responsibility.

I've had a very, very far from perfect life. I've had sad moments, frustrated moments, but I think it's important to feel your feelings and emotions rather than just numb them with medication. I think that sometimes that only makes people further detach from normal human feelings (about ourselves, and others).



I think people overuse chemo. It detaches them too much from their normal human feelings of cancer.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 21:26     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:I have several actually:

-Marijuana should not be legalized at all; that includes medicinal marijuana.

-Alcohol, Cigs and Marijuana should all be banned.

-The US should build more private prisons.

-A fence needs to be built along the Mexican border and all illegals need to be sent home.


I can't even...
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 21:13     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:I think we're getting far too cushy in our tolerance of mental illness. It seems like it's an excuse or "explanation" for everything, and used to deny agency and personal responsibility.

I've had a very, very far from perfect life. I've had sad moments, frustrated moments, but I think it's important to feel your feelings and emotions rather than just numb them with medication. I think that sometimes that only makes people further detach from normal human feelings (about ourselves, and others).



It's more complicated than that, but lucky you that you can be so superficial and judgmental at the same time. I'm glad that works for you but have some compassion for others
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 20:07     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

I think we're getting far too cushy in our tolerance of mental illness. It seems like it's an excuse or "explanation" for everything, and used to deny agency and personal responsibility.

I've had a very, very far from perfect life. I've had sad moments, frustrated moments, but I think it's important to feel your feelings and emotions rather than just numb them with medication. I think that sometimes that only makes people further detach from normal human feelings (about ourselves, and others).

Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 19:09     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Monica Lewinsky is a very nice looking woman beaten up by the Clinton machine.

+1 [Maybe your opinion isn't in the strong minority]
And, along the same lines, the whole Lewinsky episode told me loud and clear that liberals/Democrats aren't really serious about sexual harassment and bad treatment of women in the workplace when the offender is someone who has the right politics. Perhaps I was naive at the time, but I was (and still am) very, very disappointed.

In the meantime, I learned that the best predictor of a man's tendency to treat women in the workplace with respect is not his politics--it's the type of woman he chooses as a wife. Men with strong, smart wives have (in my experience) been the most fair. The tendency is even stronger when these men have daughters.


It seems as though you're saying two contradictory things here. That you were disappointed by the way in which Democrats/liberals treated the whole Clinton/Lewinsky saga. But then doesn't Bill Clinton have a strong, smart wife and a daughter? So why did he treat Lewinsky in such a demeaning way ("I did not have sex with that woman")? I'm confused.


And Republicans, of course, are strongly against sexual harassment in the workplace and strongly supportive of women who speak up about it. I mean, just look at how those Republicans in the Senate stood up for Anita Hill against Clarence Thomas. Oh, wait. . . .


It's almost as if they had a compelling reason to do so
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 19:05     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Monica Lewinsky is a very nice looking woman beaten up by the Clinton machine.

+1 [Maybe your opinion isn't in the strong minority]
And, along the same lines, the whole Lewinsky episode told me loud and clear that liberals/Democrats aren't really serious about sexual harassment and bad treatment of women in the workplace when the offender is someone who has the right politics. Perhaps I was naive at the time, but I was (and still am) very, very disappointed.

In the meantime, I learned that the best predictor of a man's tendency to treat women in the workplace with respect is not his politics--it's the type of woman he chooses as a wife. Men with strong, smart wives have (in my experience) been the most fair. The tendency is even stronger when these men have daughters.


It seems as though you're saying two contradictory things here. That you were disappointed by the way in which Democrats/liberals treated the whole Clinton/Lewinsky saga. But then doesn't Bill Clinton have a strong, smart wife and a daughter? So why did he treat Lewinsky in such a demeaning way ("I did not have sex with that woman")? I'm confused.


And Republicans, of course, are strongly against sexual harassment in the workplace and strongly supportive of women who speak up about it. I mean, just look at how those Republicans in the Senate stood up for Anita Hill against Clarence Thomas. Oh, wait. . . .
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2015 18:56     Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The more rabid the wohm - the worse her marriage


What is a "rabid" WOHM?


One who insists that working is the only choice for mothers, no matter household income, ages of children, needs of children, costs of daycare, total working hours, charitable work done.


None of the WOHMs were saying that WOH is the only choice. They were giving opinions about SAHMs and SAHMs got their knickers in a twist. But I'm not worried because they have plenty of time to untwist their knickers since they're home all day.


Not only are you a troll, but you're also lying. The "militant" WOHMs on the other thread were most definitely insisting that WOH is the only valid choice for mothers. In their warped world view, staying home with kids is simply not acceptable. Seems to me that the WOHMs also get their knickers in a twist when their life choices are mocked and criticized. But you knew that. You're just trying to stir things up yet again, but on a new thread. Run along and find something useful to do.


There's one troll insisting that and she is roundly mocked by women who work and women who don't. There's like half a dozen people saying working moms don't raise their own kids, aren't bonded to their kids, causing mental illness and instability ... Read the thread.


Did you read up to the part where sahms were accused of holding back the women's movement?


Yes and that's stupid. It's a stupid thing to say. And it's a stupid thing to get offended about because the "women's movement" is all but over. You can't compare the abstract comment of "You're setting women back 100 years!!!!1" with "You're a neglectful parent." They are not on the same level at all, period.


A big reason why it's over is that the white middle class feminists got theirs and don't want their childcare providers to get paid the same benefits you do. Maybe that's why you hate sahm's so much.