I'll admit that I only read the first nine pages -- and then skipped to the end of the thread.

OP -- good job finding a therapist you like!! It will really help you.

And -- maybe watch The Betty Broderick Story. Sometimes you just have to let go.......no matter how unfair or hurtful it is.

Anonymous wrote:Include it in divorce paperwork that none of the parents can intrusive their new partners for X number of years unless they have written permission of the child. My son doesn’t want to meet with my ex husband’s lying AP (4 years of affair stole my career and prime years)

I can’t blame your son.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the Op. I found a therapist I like and we meet weekly. I think it's helping. Ex husband introduced our child to the OW, they had dinner at his place. Child didn't say much, but said she was "nice and a good cook". I'd be lying if I said it didn't sting. I smiled and let my child talk. At the end of the day I want my child to be happy. I guess this is our new normal.

OP I wish I could hug you. I know I'm just an internet stranger, but I am seriously proud of you. You're rocking it right now, and you are being a safe source for your daughter. Keep up the great work.

+1 And don't beat yourself up for your feelings. You can't help but be angry at what happened to you. IMO people on this thread and others about this subject let the other parent off the hook too easily. If they loved their kids, they wouldn't want to poison their kids' parents emotionally. It would be so much better for the kids if their parents were happy and emotionally healthy, not destroyed inside. In any event, I agree you can't drag your DC into how you feel. Fake it 'till you make it. Good luck, OP. You sound like you're on the right path.

Anonymous wrote:I'm the Op. I found a therapist I like and we meet weekly. I think it's helping. Ex husband introduced our child to the OW, they had dinner at his place. Child didn't say much, but said she was "nice and a good cook". I'd be lying if I said it didn't sting. I smiled and let my child talk. At the end of the day I want my child to be happy. I guess this is our new normal.

OP I wish I could hug you. I know I'm just an internet stranger, but I am seriously proud of you. You're rocking it right now, and you are being a safe source for your daughter. Keep up the great work.

Include it in divorce paperwork that none of the parents can intrusive their new partners for X number of years unless they have written permission of the child. My son doesn’t want to meet with my ex husband’s lying AP (4 years of affair stole my career and prime years)