Anonymous
01/03/2022 21:59
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
This happened in 2018. Why are we resurrecting this thread? Unless the man died of COVID or something?
Anonymous
01/03/2022 21:57
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
After reading this thread today I searched and listened to a couple of episodes of the podcast Bad Bad Thing. The final episode is an interview between the podcast host, a psychologist/psychotherapist and Mark Gerardot. It was very interesting and shed more light on things. Most noteworthy is that he clearly lives in serious grief over the events and has made an effort, at no benefit to himself (he hasn’t received any funds for his appearances and everything he receives from the book he wrote goes to charity) to raise awareness about suicide prevention and the impact on spousal mental health of infidelity. He’s released a lot of material Jennair left behind - a letter to her family and various recordings he made - revealing that she chose to kill Meredith and herself instead of him so that he would spend the rest of his life in pain over his actions. Apparently, he is.
Again I don’t condone Jennair’s actions. But she met him as a teenager and he and their marriage was her entire adult life. He lacked empathy in how he handled the situation in asking for a divorce - strung her along pretty cruelly - and she was suffering physical and mental health issues, was recently unemployed and consequently feeling devalued in general, and he’d moved her far from friends and family. It isn’t a surprise that she snapped and plotted the murder-suicide.
Again I don’t condone Jennair’s actions. But she met him as a teenager and he and their marriage was her entire adult life. He lacked empathy in how he handled the situation in asking for a divorce - strung her along pretty cruelly - and she was suffering physical and mental health issues, was recently unemployed and consequently feeling devalued in general, and he’d moved her far from friends and family. It isn’t a surprise that she snapped and plotted the murder-suicide.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 21:44
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:And who did the wife care about? She was not a victim. She was an idiot thinking her worth was attached to a piece of slime. She was the biggest idiot of the three of them. Who kills over a man? I wouldn't even quarrel with another woman over a man. That's not love: it's obsession.
You have a REALLY odd way of looking at things. Bizarre.
NP. What is bizarre about the above post? The poster is saying that the wife was the biggest idiot of the three because she could have taken the high road and bowed out gracefully when her husband’s shameful actions were revealed. But instead (1) she murdered the OW, (2) she killed herself, (3) all because of a dipsh*t man who probably didn’t really care about either one of them and went on to live the rest of his life repercussion-free. A smart woman would not have taken this as an affront to her, but rather seen this as a serious character flaw in him that she chooses not to tolerate.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 21:05
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
And who did the wife care about? She was not a victim. She was an idiot thinking her worth was attached to a piece of slime. She was the biggest idiot of the three of them. Who kills over a man? I wouldn't even quarrel with another woman over a man. That's not love: it's obsession.
You have a REALLY odd way of looking at things. Bizarre.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 19:18
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:^ “Most” people do not experience cheating. You must associate with crappy people. The wife was most definitely a victim in this case - of her husband and the OW, who cares only about themselves. The OW was also a victim, but a much less sympathetic one.
And who did the wife care about? She was not a victim. She was an idiot thinking her worth was attached to a piece of slime. She was the biggest idiot of the three of them. Who kills over a man? I wouldn't even quarrel with another woman over a man. That's not love: it's obsession.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 19:15
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wife and Mistress
Or, and I'm just spit-balling here, murderer and victim.
murderer and cheater
If it was a murderer and his drug dealer, we would say that.... just say it how it is.
Nobody deserves to be murdered, but she was not an innocent victim, she engaged in risky behavior and paid the ultimate price.
Thank you.
You people must be crazy to call this murderer a victim. She could walk away. She wasted her life on this idiot of a man. She is an idiot herself.
Are you completely f****** insane? The ultimate price for cheating and adultery is not murder. It Is not death. We are not some backwards country halfway across the world. Holy s***. I just...wow. She is a murder victim.
The wife was also a victim. When the OW set out to destroy her life she should have expected consequences. She was her husbands boss as well, just one big mess.
The wife was not a victim. Yes, being cheated on sucks- it’s also something many, if not most people experience at some point. You can move on. These women can’t now- the wife ended that chance for both of them.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 18:39
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
^ “Most” people do not experience cheating. You must associate with crappy people. The wife was most definitely a victim in this case - of her husband and the OW, who cares only about themselves. The OW was also a victim, but a much less sympathetic one.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 18:15
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wife and Mistress
Or, and I'm just spit-balling here, murderer and victim.
murderer and cheater
If it was a murderer and his drug dealer, we would say that.... just say it how it is.
Nobody deserves to be murdered, but she was not an innocent victim, she engaged in risky behavior and paid the ultimate price.
Are you completely f****** insane? The ultimate price for cheating and adultery is not murder. It Is not death. We are not some backwards country halfway across the world. Holy s***. I just...wow. She is a murder victim.
The wife was also a victim. When the OW set out to destroy her life she should have expected consequences. She was her husbands boss as well, just one big mess.
The wife was not a victim. Yes, being cheated on sucks- it’s also something many, if not most people experience at some point. You can move on. These women can’t now- the wife ended that chance for both of them.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 17:37
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:I bet she’s been declining mentally for years and that’s why the marriage fell apart.
No there wasn't anything to point to that. Actually it seemed like his behavior, and poor judgement was always the problem. She had to be the parent in the relationship. He's on FB, and still doesn't have a real job with a real retirement. Whereas she was more grounded in finances. By all accounts their marriage was fairly decent until he met the OW. On his FB he had glowing compliments toward his wife. He couldn't rewrite that history.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 17:27
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mark and Meredith were disgusting people. Jennair’s actions are not justified but they are understandable, she was treated extremely cruelly by her husband and his nasty girlfriend. I hope she is resting in peace. No sympathy for the cheaters.
I assume this is a troll but it’s not even a good troll. Not plausible.
No I think pp called it right from everything I've read.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 17:26
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:Mark and Meredith were disgusting people. Jennair’s actions are not justified but they are understandable, she was treated extremely cruelly by her husband and his nasty girlfriend. I hope she is resting in peace. No sympathy for the cheaters.
I agree. She could have easily have a great future, but when someone is having a break down they don't have the mental facilities to see that.
I got his book from Kindle (free), and honestly not much he could really say that was bad about her. It seems like after the cheating is when she became obsessive with finding out if and when he was seeing the OW. He promised to go to counseling to work on the marriage, and yes she kept tabs on him to see if he was keeping his word. Which of course he wasn't. She was having health problems at the time, and scheduled to undergo a hysterectomy so a lot going on most didn't know. Another tidbit, he had cheated on her years earlier when he was overseas so he alone messed up the trust she had for him. At the end of the day, he wasn't a decent guy and she hung in there for whatever reason.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 16:50
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:Mark and Meredith were disgusting people. Jennair’s actions are not justified but they are understandable, she was treated extremely cruelly by her husband and his nasty girlfriend. I hope she is resting in peace. No sympathy for the cheaters.
I assume this is a troll but it’s not even a good troll. Not plausible.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 16:49
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
I bet she’s been declining mentally for years and that’s why the marriage fell apart.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 16:46
Subject: Re:Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Mark and Meredith were disgusting people. Jennair’s actions are not justified but they are understandable, she was treated extremely cruelly by her husband and his nasty girlfriend. I hope she is resting in peace. No sympathy for the cheaters.
Anonymous
01/03/2022 14:23
Subject: Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fu(king nuts... no wonder the husband was having an affair!!
You know that he was married to her for 25 years, right?
And if it was so obvious that she was "fu(king nuts", why he didn't call 911 to protect the OW?
+1
Probably because not every thing is black or white. In relationships most sh!t is grey..... well until someone decides to bring a 40 caliber in the mix. Then it’s all red.
She was probably really normal until he moved her away from friends and continued to live with her while cheating and planning a divorce.
Who does that?
Move out if you are sooooooo unhappily married and she is such a psycho. But she wasn't psycho and he wasn't unhappy, he hedged his bets, keeping her in the wings while he worked on the new chick. I doubt this as his 1st affair, he looks and seems creepy.
She was never a psycho otherwise he wouldn't have stayed for 25 years!! I'm sure she had a dependent personalty, a lot of her self worth depended on him. And I suspect all the conditions pushed her in a awful direction. I guess when two people are poking, and poking someone it's not going to end well. Read the comments below the video, most people under his and Meredith's role.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0RtxihTFyI
Now there's tapes I imagine Mark released. One is of Meredith crying and acting hysterically because he's doing stuff with his wife. And she wants help moving. Obviously she has mental issues herself, and another from his book he states Meredith was rocking back and forth after Jennair told her she would go to hell. Even Mark saw Meredith's cracks, and told his wife he may not last the year with Meredith. The wife makes fun of that on the tape from the postcast.
I feel like this story was more about 2 bullies. Like teasing a dog over and over and not expecting it to bite. Here are the tapes if anyone is interested:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bad-bad-thing/id1572318891
Honestly, this just emphasizes that the husband is the one who is repugnant. Just can't believe 2 women fight over a man like this. Hopefully this guy doesn't make money on this situation that he caused.
Yes it showed me the only victim was the deceased wife. The OW was a horrible woman, and the husband who kept gaslighting her. If you listen to the last week of the tape it's apparent the wife is going through a nervous breakdown. Warning it's really difficult to listen to, but she talks about how horrible he is. Calls him a man child, and so on.
What really floored me was how the OW kept pursuing her spouse after getting fired from her job. The wife telling the Ow's husband, and yet she kept doing her best to ruin this woman's life. It certainly shows there are many educated people that are truly stupid, and immoral.