Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 21:07     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:I don't like beer or wine. I prefer a mixed drink. I also find water kind of boring but I don't expect them to have tons of options. I mean some people really love their wine and put a lot of care into choosing the wine for the evening, I may not be thinking beyond that. They're not thinking, let me screw over non-drinkers. They just think water is acceptable, and they're right.


Tough shit, my house isn’t a bar.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 20:21     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

I don't like beer or wine. I prefer a mixed drink. I also find water kind of boring but I don't expect them to have tons of options. I mean some people really love their wine and put a lot of care into choosing the wine for the evening, I may not be thinking beyond that. They're not thinking, let me screw over non-drinkers. They just think water is acceptable, and they're right.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 18:40     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok to have only one alcohol choice like... I have friends over and we have wine. But I also always have (and offer) filtered water, various seltzers, other non alcoholic choices. I'd be annoyed if someone expected I had a bar. I can't make you a vodka soda in a short glass three lemons, carcass out (iykyk).


😂😂😂


I will pick out a wine for dinner. I also often have a theme cocktail. If someone wants something else, I point them to the bar cart and let them know I have soda and tonic, and to have at it.


Yes, this is the point… you spend time and effort planning for drinkers, but you don’t plan a mocktail or anything remotely interesting for non drinkers. Hosting means that you think about the comfort and enjoyment of your guests. What if you came to my house for dinner and I offered only tap water with no wine? I bet you’d be on DCUM complaining…


Still or sparkling water, with or without lemon, is all you need *with* a formal dinner. BEFORE the dinner, during cocktail hour, is when you would serve a “mocktail,” and other non-alcoholic bar offerings like club soda with cranberry, ginger ale, etc.


OK - no wine when you come to my house. Only water; hope your happy.
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Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 18:39     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok to have only one alcohol choice like... I have friends over and we have wine. But I also always have (and offer) filtered water, various seltzers, other non alcoholic choices. I'd be annoyed if someone expected I had a bar. I can't make you a vodka soda in a short glass three lemons, carcass out (iykyk).


😂😂😂


I will pick out a wine for dinner. I also often have a theme cocktail. If someone wants something else, I point them to the bar cart and let them know I have soda and tonic, and to have at it.


Yes, this is the point… you spend time and effort planning for drinkers, but you don’t plan a mocktail or anything remotely interesting for non drinkers. Hosting means that you think about the comfort and enjoyment of your guests. What if you came to my house for dinner and I offered only tap water with no wine? I bet you’d be on DCUM complaining…


Still or sparkling water, with or without lemon, is all you need *with* a formal dinner. BEFORE the dinner, during cocktail hour, is when you would serve a “mocktail,” and other non-alcoholic bar offerings like club soda with cranberry, ginger ale, etc.


OK - no wine when you come to my house. Only water; hope your happy.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 16:45     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I host, I rarely offer anything other than wine, seltzer water and water on the table. Coffee for afterwards and a signature cocktail before. I think it's strange to want a flavored beverage to drink with a meal, like iced tea, lemonade or a soda.

I don't stock sodas but I do buy sodas for when I host kid birthday parties (for the parents to drink, not the kids). I usually get a diet and a regular soda.


So you would be upset if my kid grabbed a soda at your birthday party? Believe me, if they are around, he'll find them and enjoy them eschewing water like it's his job.


NP. Any kid “grabbing” things at a birthday party instead of waiting to be served, helping themselves to what is OFFERED when invited to do so, or at the very least ASKING FIRST will not be invited back.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 16:43     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Now that soda is pretty unpopular, I don’t stock it unless we’re having some kind of BBQ. For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.


We always offer flat and sparkling water, but I don’t consider soda and lemonade adult dinner drinks.


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 16:37     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:When I host, I rarely offer anything other than wine, seltzer water and water on the table. Coffee for afterwards and a signature cocktail before. I think it's strange to want a flavored beverage to drink with a meal, like iced tea, lemonade or a soda.

I don't stock sodas but I do buy sodas for when I host kid birthday parties (for the parents to drink, not the kids). I usually get a diet and a regular soda.


So you would be upset if my kid grabbed a soda at your birthday party? Believe me, if they are around, he'll find them and enjoy them eschewing water like it's his job.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 15:42     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok to have only one alcohol choice like... I have friends over and we have wine. But I also always have (and offer) filtered water, various seltzers, other non alcoholic choices. I'd be annoyed if someone expected I had a bar. I can't make you a vodka soda in a short glass three lemons, carcass out (iykyk).


😂😂😂


I will pick out a wine for dinner. I also often have a theme cocktail. If someone wants something else, I point them to the bar cart and let them know I have soda and tonic, and to have at it.


Yes, this is the point… you spend time and effort planning for drinkers, but you don’t plan a mocktail or anything remotely interesting for non drinkers. Hosting means that you think about the comfort and enjoyment of your guests. What if you came to my house for dinner and I offered only tap water with no wine? I bet you’d be on DCUM complaining…


Still or sparkling water, with or without lemon, is all you need *with* a formal dinner. BEFORE the dinner, during cocktail hour, is when you would serve a “mocktail,” and other non-alcoholic bar offerings like club soda with cranberry, ginger ale, etc.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2023 14:36     Subject: Re:When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:https://barefootcontessa.com/recipes/pomegranate-spritzers

Nonalcoholic ginger beer + fresh lime juice + mint

Grapefruit soda + fresh lemon juice + salted rim

Coconut water + fresh lime juice + soda water

Hibiscus iced tea + fresh lime juice + simple syrup

https://curiouselixirs.com/collections/cocktails

Nonalcoholic wine

etc...


Like wine is non caloric? This is for a dinner party or party...

Sounds like a way to drink your calories.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2023 13:49     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

I find it weird to be at a buffet at a hotel and they only have juice or coffee for drinks. Don't they want to save money?
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2023 13:48     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

If this keeps happening, bring a bouquet of flowers and a sparking lemonade or something. Hopefully the host will then put out the lemonade.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2023 13:46     Subject: Re:When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

I recently hosted a party and bought sodas and seltzers for people who didn't want wine. I was then stuck with those drinks (which no one drank BTW) after the party. I think I'll just offer wine and water next time. Maybe beer if I'm feeling generous.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2023 13:44     Subject: Re:When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:https://barefootcontessa.com/recipes/pomegranate-spritzers

Nonalcoholic ginger beer + fresh lime juice + mint

Grapefruit soda + fresh lemon juice + salted rim

Coconut water + fresh lime juice + soda water

Hibiscus iced tea + fresh lime juice + simple syrup

https://curiouselixirs.com/collections/cocktails

Nonalcoholic wine

etc...


Sounds like a way to drink your calories.


Sounds like a life well lived and enjoyed!
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2023 13:41     Subject: Re:When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

Anonymous wrote:https://barefootcontessa.com/recipes/pomegranate-spritzers

Nonalcoholic ginger beer + fresh lime juice + mint

Grapefruit soda + fresh lemon juice + salted rim

Coconut water + fresh lime juice + soda water

Hibiscus iced tea + fresh lime juice + simple syrup

https://curiouselixirs.com/collections/cocktails

Nonalcoholic wine

etc...


Sounds like a way to drink your calories.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2023 13:40     Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

When I host, I rarely offer anything other than wine, seltzer water and water on the table. Coffee for afterwards and a signature cocktail before. I think it's strange to want a flavored beverage to drink with a meal, like iced tea, lemonade or a soda.

I don't stock sodas but I do buy sodas for when I host kid birthday parties (for the parents to drink, not the kids). I usually get a diet and a regular soda.