Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:54     Subject: Re:Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Wearing well worn inherited diamonds, sapphires or emerald rings in PLATINUM ONLY, particularly square cut (which was traditionally the most expensive cut.). Bonus points if your hands are particularly gnarled from years at the pottery wheel or gardening.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:48     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:
A lot of confusion here because a lot of things rich people do to demonstrate, intentionally or not, their wealth like homemade organic baby foods or wearing shabby but quality clothes are also things poor people do. It's about whether you have a choice. Being poor takes away a lot of choices and takes a lot of time because you can't pay for convenience.

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This is false argument. Intention has zero to do with means. The way you describe it the rich always have a way out by explaining their actions as "because I can"

The bottom line is some people do things for show others just do and have nothing to prove. This goes for the rich as well as the poor.

It can be hard to identify intention in some cases but flashy cars, brand names, trend follow, etc demonstrates a pattern.[
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:47     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.

A lot of confusion here because a lot of things rich people do to demonstrate, intentionally or not, their wealth like homemade organic baby foods or wearing shabby but quality clothes are also things poor people do. It's about whether you have a choice. Being poor takes away a lot of choices and takes a lot of time because you can't pay for convenience.


This is false argument. Intention has zero to do with means. The way you describe it the rich always have a way out by explaining their actions as "because I can"

The bottom line is some people do things for show others just do and have nothing to prove. This goes for the rich as well as the poor.

It can be hard to identify intention in some cases but flashy cars, brand names, trend follow, etc demonstrates a pattern.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:45     Subject: Re:Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:being extremely well traveled by the references you make about places in Europe or Asia or other international destinations.

I fit in very well with the private school/club crowd but when people start sharing stories about that "little hotel in Venice" or the pyramids or other exotic locations I really feel out of my element.


Ugh, I give up.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:43     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Being the last person to RSVP to an evite
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:43     Subject: Re:Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:Wearing not only slippers but your bathrobe to a daytime function at your grandchild's elite private school.


ABSOLUTELY. Bonus points if grandparent is wearing full stage make-up and twisted turban made of expensive christmas wrapping paper. Nothing says money like the embrace of inappropriately dressed eccentric relatives. A riding crop and a cigarette holder between the teeth says: "I'm old, I've spent time in some extremely expensive mental hospitals and nothing and no one is going to stop me going on doing as I please."
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:42     Subject: Re:Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Spending $3000+ for your kids to "volunteer" overseas.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:40     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain how international adoption is an unintentional status symbol? The people I know who have adopted internationally (including me) are generally middle class who have scraped together money or taken out loans to adopt.


It's only a status symbol if the 1st 2 children are biological.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:38     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Old oil painting of a 19th century great great grandfather/senator hanging in the dining room, framed letter from George Washington to relative hanging in home office…


In the dining room in 2014? Pompous…grasping, etc…but having these things in a den or home office, very cool.


Are dining rooms pompous? And what if you have the painting but not a home office or den?
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:37     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:Having your child reject juice on a play date. "Larla doesn't drink juice."

My kid doesn't drink juice because she has a genetic predisposition to cavities. She's the only one of her cousins without cavities right now. It's water or the drill.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:34     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:Jotting quick notes to the teacher on properly monogrammed stationery.

RSVP'ing to a wedding on same rather than sending back the little "check fish or chicken" cards.


I read this as replying on the invitation and thought "Who does that?"

Is bad reading comprehension a status symbol?
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:31     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:Old oil painting of a 19th century great great grandfather/senator hanging in the dining room, framed letter from George Washington to relative hanging in home office…


In the dining room in 2014? Pompous…grasping, etc…but having these things in a den or home office, very cool.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:28     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hiring Doody Calls to clean the dog poop in the yard.


Dear Gawd I hope to get to that level someday.


It's ridiculously inexpensive.

Or, uh, so I've heard...


yes it is inexpensive and totally worth it
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:28     Subject: Re:Things that are unintentional status symbols.
being extremely well traveled by the references you make about places in Europe or Asia or other international destinations.

I fit in very well with the private school/club crowd but when people start sharing stories about that "little hotel in Venice" or the pyramids or other exotic locations I really feel out of my element.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2014 14:28     Subject: Things that are unintentional status symbols.
Anonymous wrote:Jotting quick notes to the teacher on properly monogrammed stationery.

RSVP'ing to a wedding on same rather than sending back the little "check fish or chicken" cards.


That was the way they did it in the old days. Wedding invites never came with a reply card, proper people knew to whip out their stationery and write a hand written response. When I got married in 2000, my mother was horrified by the thought of having a reply card in the invite so it didn't happen. Guess who had to call a lot of invitees to see if they were coming to my wedding or not?