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Anonymous wrote:I recently turned 37 last week, and life has been fantastic for me as a heterosexual male. I was fortunate enough to be raised by a tiger mom to do really well in school, learned a lot of lifetime hobbies growing up, and was blessed with good looks from my Caucasian father and Asian mother. I make over 700k/yr in Fintech, and with my work schedule, I spend whatever time I have outside of work on my hobbies, such as music (guitar), sport (swimming and pickleball), photography, and Iron Man training.

I start my workday at 7am, and leave work at 5pm. After work, I go to Lifetime to swim for 60 minutes, play Pickleball at Lifetime with my friends for another 90 minutes, have dinner at 8:30pm, practice music for 45 minutes, and bedtime after that. On the weekend, I do Iron Man training for upcoming Iron Man events. I have a brother who is two years younger than I am, and he was raised exactly the same way I did, and he got married at the age of 29. I have to make an appointment with him anytime we want to get together, and he stopped all of his hobbies, same as mine when we were growing up, after he and his wife had kids.

I dated beautiful women between the ages of 22 and 26, and they all wanted me to be exclusive with them. However, I told them that I want to be FWB because I love my single life. I do want to have kids someday, and I might pay someone to make that happen for me.

Ah, yes, because so many rich sexy single men training for Iron Mans hang out on a forum for middle aged moms.

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Hmm, as a 40-something woman, I'm not sitting at home watching Netflix and binging ice cream.

It's more like, with the vast majority of men, I have to take charge on everything. I have to suggest meeting up, plan the date, make sure it's something he enjoys, get ready for it, keep the conversation going, etc.

If I'm going to put that much effort into an outing, I'd rather go do something I like. Go take a yoga or a ballet class, go hiking, or check out a museum or something. Which not many men are interested in doing. And I don't really want to waste an entire evening at a restaurant I don't like all that much (WHY do so many men only want to eat bar food??)

When they do initiate and plan dates, it's usually pretty lackluster (and often very last-minute). The last guy who asked me out invited me over for dinner, where he served me a single chicken breast and nothing else, put a Netflix movie on, and then tried to grope me the entire time. Yuck.

When a guy can actually plan ahead, plan an interesting date that I'd enjoy, and not use it as a ploy to get laid, I'll happily go out with him. But bare minimum effort isn't worth my time, when I can be doing the things I actually enjoy.

If men stop dating me because that's "picky", that's fine. We're both happier not wasting each others' time.

Anonymous wrote:I recently turned 37 last week, and life has been fantastic for me as a heterosexual male. I was fortunate enough to be raised by a tiger mom to do really well in school, learned a lot of lifetime hobbies growing up, and was blessed with good looks from my Caucasian father and Asian mother. I make over 700k/yr in Fintech, and with my work schedule, I spend whatever time I have outside of work on my hobbies, such as music (guitar), sport (swimming and pickleball), photography, and Iron Man training.

I start my workday at 7am, and leave work at 5pm. After work, I go to Lifetime to swim for 60 minutes, play Pickleball at Lifetime with my friends for another 90 minutes, have dinner at 8:30pm, practice music for 45 minutes, and bedtime after that. On the weekend, I do Iron Man training for upcoming Iron Man events. I have a brother who is two years younger than I am, and he was raised exactly the same way I did, and he got married at the age of 29. I have to make an appointment with him anytime we want to get together, and he stopped all of his hobbies, same as mine when we were growing up, after he and his wife had kids.

I dated beautiful women between the ages of 22 and 26, and they all wanted me to be exclusive with them. However, I told them that I want to be FWB because I love my single life. I do want to have kids someday, and I might pay someone to make that happen for me.

Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

Anonymous wrote:So many single men aren't interested in dating because women get pickier as they age. It's amazing how many 40 something women would rather stay home and watch TV and play with their cats than actually go on dates.

And then they have the nerve to blame the guys who actually ask them out. They get off on the ego boost of being asked on dates and then act like they can do better. While they stay home and binge on ice cream and Netflix. Some life to live in a great city like DC.

Your loss!

Anonymous wrote:Men are indeed dropping out of the dating scene. There aren't many quality women. There are three people in the relationship: them, the woman they are dating, and her therapist giving her really bad advice. No thanks.

Anonymous wrote:So many single men aren't interested in dating because women get pickier as they age. It's amazing how many 40 something women would rather stay home and watch TV and play with their cats than actually go on dates.

Anonymous wrote:...For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication...

Anonymous wrote:Men are indeed dropping out of the dating scene. There aren't many quality women. There are three people in the relationship: them, the woman they are dating, and her therapist giving her really bad advice. No thanks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

I was in your shoes and dating at 39.

Most of the women in the D.C. area seem to be struggling with one mental illness or another. Don’t need all that extra baggage before a relationship (potentially life-long) even gets started.

Also, from what I encountered, so many American women (at least around here) have other issues, not the least of which are their completely unrealistic expectations of men (their “6-6-6-6” rule, how 90% of women chase the top 5% of men and ignore the rest, etc.).

I lucked out. Married a terrific woman from Europe; one kid off to college in the Fall; another doing exceedingly well in HS. Have advised DS to try to marry a woman who was not raised in the USA.

I don't believe this. And you can't prove it

Anonymous wrote:This forum. Can you even read?