Anonymous wrote:

There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are.

You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

So you can say my family would be better off without me based on...I'm not sure... but women shouldn't describe their lazy and careless husbands accurately?

Anonymous wrote:

DP lol

She absolutely complains about you behind your back but she knows to make sure you don't know about it since you have such a victim complex.

Please have the courage to stop sock-puppeting. Your posts are easy to spot (lol), and you make yourself look even worse (if that is possible) when you pretend you are a new poster.

LOL. STBY.

Clearly they aren't since I am actually a DP but by all means convince yourself there aren't multiple people who think you are completely full of it.

There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are.

You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

DP lol

She absolutely complains about you behind your back but she knows to make sure you don't know about it since you have such a victim complex.

Please have the courage to stop sock-puppeting. Your posts are easy to spot (lol), and you make yourself look even worse (if that is possible) when you pretend you are a new poster.

LOL. STBY.

Anonymous wrote:Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?

-a wife

Agree with this. Even at the height of my xH’s laziness (and he was LAZY), I’d never tell him what to feed the kids because I wouldn’t want someone telling me what to feed them. That’s controlling.

Anonymous wrote:

I think you explained well what some people have been trying to say - the husband is the first one that is responsible for creating this situation. He did a careless thing - no sane adult would think it is ok to leave a massive watermelon in the fridge without cutting it up and putting it into a container. So he engaged in a thoughtless, rude act. OP then confronted him about it and explained the problem with what he had done. Her husband did not care. At that point, OP decided that she was done trying to communicate because, honestly, if her husband couldn't figure out that she'd be upset with his actions then he's a moron (or he's lazy, careless, uncaring, whatever else). At that point OP could have explained again, and in more detail, what the issue was, but I feel like those of you acting like at that point her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways are deluding yourselves. Most likely he would have continued to not care and then gone on his trip. As a result, OP decided it wasn't worth another conversation and decided to vent anonymously and see if anyone else had any similar stories. Just let her do that and save your sanctimony for your own lives, where I'm sure you would never do something as thoughtless as what OP's husband did and you would never complain about anything your spouse did to anyone ever.

Please quote any post where a poster wrote that "her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways". Instead, there are many posts focused on the truth you are ignoring, which is: the OP made, at the very least, a very unmannerly gesture by starting a thread titled "Lazy, careless DH stories" over the way her DH left a watermelon in her fridge.

Leaving the watermelon the way he did was inconsiderate. The time the OP has spent complaining about it, and justifying the tone of her complaints, is petty to the point of being vile. And, yes, I would never start a thread calling my spouse lazy and careless, and spend hours following up on it, if she did not properly store some fruit in our fridge.

There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Anonymous wrote:

I can't imagine your spouse ever has anything negative to say about you. You sound like a delight.

I have made plenty of mistakes in marriage, and my DW has every right to complain about them. However, she has far too much grace and poise to start a thread titled "Lazy, careless DH stories" and follow it around for days.

I am sure your DH wishes you were more like her.

DP lol

She absolutely complains about you behind your back but she knows to make sure you don't know about it since you have such a victim complex.

I can't imagine your spouse ever has anything negative to say about you. You sound like a delight.

I have made plenty of mistakes in marriage, and my DW has every right to complain about them. However, she has far too much grace and poise to start a thread titled "Lazy, careless DH stories" and follow it around for days.

I am sure your DH wishes you were more like her.

I think you explained well what some people have been trying to say - the husband is the first one that is responsible for creating this situation. He did a careless thing - no sane adult would think it is ok to leave a massive watermelon in the fridge without cutting it up and putting it into a container. So he engaged in a thoughtless, rude act. OP then confronted him about it and explained the problem with what he had done. Her husband did not care. At that point, OP decided that she was done trying to communicate because, honestly, if her husband couldn't figure out that she'd be upset with his actions then he's a moron (or he's lazy, careless, uncaring, whatever else). At that point OP could have explained again, and in more detail, what the issue was, but I feel like those of you acting like at that point her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways are deluding yourselves. Most likely he would have continued to not care and then gone on his trip. As a result, OP decided it wasn't worth another conversation and decided to vent anonymously and see if anyone else had any similar stories. Just let her do that and save your sanctimony for your own lives, where I'm sure you would never do something as thoughtless as what OP's husband did and you would never complain about anything your spouse did to anyone ever.

Please quote any post where a poster wrote that "her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways". Instead, there are many posts focused on the truth you are ignoring, which is: the OP made, at the very least, a very unmannerly gesture by starting a thread titled "Lazy, careless DH stories" over the way her DH left a watermelon in her fridge.

Leaving the watermelon the way he did was inconsiderate. The time the OP has spent complaining about it, and justifying the tone of her complaints, is petty to the point of being vile. And, yes, I would never start a thread calling my spouse lazy and careless, and spend hours following up on it, if she did not properly store some fruit in our fridge.

But your manners, on the other hand, are impeccable.

In this case, my manners are much better than those of a woman who uses a website to call her husband lazy and careless, and then follows these insults by inviting other women to bash their spouses as well.

You have already shown that you can insult your spouse in a public manner.

Do you do this with your children as well?

Anonymous wrote:

What OP's DH did was lazy and careless. Those are accurate words to describe his actions.

There are mountains of research showing that women spend more time on childcare and housework than fathers and less time in leisure activities. I get that you just want to blame the women for this for not communicating effectively or whatever, but the rest of us respect ourselves enough to know we are not here to parent our husbands. It takes a lot of time to "communicate" to people that the way they were raised is not going to work in a modern household. In the meantime, you bet I am going to find humor and solidarity with other women who experience similar ridiculous behaviors from our husbands. Sorry (not sorry) you don't like that.

What OP's DH did might have been lazy or careless. However, we have no idea whether he can be labeled as "lazy" or "careless." That you cannot understand the difference speaks volumes.

The fact that women spend more time on childcare has nothing to do with the fact that the OP showed deplorable taste when she labeled her DH as lazy and careless. Asking others to join in a sisterhood of husband-bashing shows equally poor taste.

Finally, the fact that you want to show "solidarity" with other women regarding how ridiculous you find your husbands' behaviors shows your true intent of belittling those you claim (or claimed at one time) to love.

I can't imagine your spouse ever has anything negative to say about you. You sound like a delight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DP As he should be.

Did the process involve action, meaning a legal proceeding and follow through? Or did you anonymously vent until, magically, you were divorced and able to pursue happiness with a considerate and respectful partner?

You took action. Good on you.

DP it's hilarious how you have spent so much time insisting it is horrible to vent about your husband and it all rests on the absurd notion that people who vent are not taking action to solve their problems.

DP - You are responding to one post. However, the idea that it is awful to complain about your husband in derogatory terms has been advanced by several other posters, including me.

You seem to excuse using derogatory language (e.g., "lazy", "careless") about your husband by calling it "venting". What does this mean, exactly? Are you a steam engine, such that venting is a regular part of your day-to-day operations? Venting implies that a system has built up enough pressure that, unless the pressure is released, the system will be damaged.

Most likely, you do not have control of your emotions and need to lash out when you are upset. Calling it venting makes it easier to justify, since the implication is that your DH caused all of the problems you need to "vent" about and you can blame him (or others) for your lack of emotional control.

What OP's DH did was lazy and careless. Those are accurate words to describe his actions.

There are mountains of research showing that women spend more time on childcare and housework than fathers and less time in leisure activities. I get that you just want to blame the women for this for not communicating effectively or whatever, but the rest of us respect ourselves enough to know we are not here to parent our husbands. It takes a lot of time to "communicate" to people that the way they were raised is not going to work in a modern household. In the meantime, you bet I am going to find humor and solidarity with other women who experience similar ridiculous behaviors from our husbands. Sorry (not sorry) you don't like that.

I think you explained well what some people have been trying to say - the husband is the first one that is responsible for creating this situation. He did a careless thing - no sane adult would think it is ok to leave a massive watermelon in the fridge without cutting it up and putting it into a container. So he engaged in a thoughtless, rude act. OP then confronted him about it and explained the problem with what he had done. Her husband did not care. At that point, OP decided that she was done trying to communicate because, honestly, if her husband couldn't figure out that she'd be upset with his actions then he's a moron (or he's lazy, careless, uncaring, whatever else). At that point OP could have explained again, and in more detail, what the issue was, but I feel like those of you acting like at that point her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways are deluding yourselves. Most likely he would have continued to not care and then gone on his trip. As a result, OP decided it wasn't worth another conversation and decided to vent anonymously and see if anyone else had any similar stories. Just let her do that and save your sanctimony for your own lives, where I'm sure you would never do something as thoughtless as what OP's husband did and you would never complain about anything your spouse did to anyone ever.

Anonymous wrote:

Don't you think it's a little sad that multiple posters are trying to find ways to lob petty insults in response to the same post? Do you get how desperate that makes you look?

The really sad part is that the irony of your post completely escapes you. LOL.

The "just" sad part is that you will spat with multiple posters defending the fact that you enjoy insulting your husband. You are not lazy, I will give you that. You watch for any slight like a hawk.

However, you are careless with your manners and your loyalty to your family.

But your manners, on the other hand, are impeccable.

You need to give "lol" a rest. You are an adult now, or you are at least more than old enough to act like one.

Oh this was so clever, LOL

OMG. THX!

STBY.

Don't you think it's a little sad that multiple posters are trying to find ways to lob petty insults in response to the same post? Do you get how desperate that makes you look?

The really sad part is that the irony of your post completely escapes you. LOL.

The "just" sad part is that you will spat with multiple posters defending the fact that you enjoy insulting your husband. You are not lazy, I will give you that. You watch for any slight like a hawk.

However, you are careless with your manners and your loyalty to your family.