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Anonymous wrote: I can't remember where i read it, but when this store broke,there was a someone who was quoted as saying that, relationships in these circles are very transactional.And it really hit on what i've long observed about the dynamics of relationships amongst this type of crowd.

Poverty is humiliating,isolating and detrimental to one's overall health.But,as a poor person, if you're lucky enough to have someone who cares for you then you know it's as authentic,genuine and sincere as it gets. The fact that this Brandon Miller guy didn't or thought he couldn't talk about the true state of their finances with his so-called wife is just so.....damning and revelatory of the kind of superficial relationships these people entertain.

I don’t think that’s it at all. When you’re in finance in ny, there are wild swings all the time. Look at some of the most successful real estate funds, and most have had moments when they’ve been underwater. Many of the successful managers are former athletes, across the board they’re either very cocky or on the spectrum. They always think there’s the next big thing and they usually have to double down to get there. I’ve seen some wild rides. Obviously they don’t usually end like this, but if every manager gave up when he was down, a lot of funds would fold. This one is more complicated w/ being the second generation, but look how he went after a bigger project when he was in debt. That’s what they do. It just generally doesn’t carry over into extremes in personal spending.
Nothing about their lifestyle was equal to the size of their fund, even if it had been successful. She was spending as if he were a manager at tiger or citadel, not some run of the mill 2nd tier RE fund.

Couple of things

-why didn't or couldn't he tell the wife their lifestyle wasn't sustainable in the short,medium or long term?

- The description of the NY real estate industry doesn't apply to him—he was never even a medium player, not even close.He was at the very bottom of the pole as far as NY real estate is concerned.

- Nothing has described this guy as being in finance. It's been said over and over again that he was in real estate .

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who knows people in their circle. I honestly find this situation so incredibly sad and disturbing. It's hard to stifle the schadenfreude- I am repulsed by people who brag and post like she did- but at the same time, I do believe that she was kept in the dark about the degree of financial trouble they were in. Not only does she have to manage her family's grief, but to be dragged through the mud and now sued? Ooof. That is not to say that she should not be accountable - she should. And her behavior and need to impress surely drove much of this. But man, this is a really sad situation.

She seems to be getting what she deserved. Spending and flaunting their “wealth” like she did - it’s disgusting.

True, but their kids don’t deserve it. They didn’t need or want all the opulence. They needed their dad, though. Poor girls.

Anonymous wrote:He's a coward of the worse kind. Suicide doesn't hurt the person dead it punishes the living. His young daughters will spend the rest of their lives mentally wounded. His wife will spend years trying to did out of this mess and will have to witness the mental anguish of her children. Life will be dark and unhappy for quite some time. As a man he should have owned up to his mistakes. Taken whatever punishment was coming his way and.......started over. That's the beauty of living in this country- you can reinvent yourself as many times as you want. He destroyed his entire family and his death solved nothing. He's a coward.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a sad situation but I think mostly we’re all interested because her social media persona seems like such an easy target. It makes us feel good about ourselves because it’s so vile.

I think that's always fascinating, yes! I didn't follow her but I've followed people who seemed "too good to be true", and then you feel validated when it turns out their life is a charade.

This one was more “too bad to be good,” I think? Maybe that’s what she was going for.

The weird part is she probably didn’t turn much of a profit if any. That’s the craziest part for me is when someone is exposes themselves and their family so much and doesn’t even get paid well for it. Privacy is worth a lot.

Anonymous wrote:Is the Hamptons house where he killed himself?

Anonymous wrote:Hamptons house is on the market: https://www.trulia.com/home/address-not-disclosed-water-mill-ny-11976-32733141

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I can't remember where i read it, but when this store broke,there was a someone who was quoted as saying that, relationships in these circles are very transactional.And it really hit on what i've long observed about the dynamics of relationships amongst this type of crowd.

Poverty is humiliating,isolating and detrimental to one's overall health.But,as a poor person, if you're lucky enough to have someone who cares for you then you know it's as authentic,genuine and sincere as it gets. The fact that this Brandon Miller guy didn't or thought he couldn't talk about the true state of their finances with his so-called wife is just so.....damning and revelatory of the kind of superficial relationships these people entertain.

I don’t think that’s it at all. When you’re in finance in ny, there are wild swings all the time. Look at some of the most successful real estate funds, and most have had moments when they’ve been underwater. Many of the successful managers are former athletes, across the board they’re either very cocky or on the spectrum. They always think there’s the next big thing and they usually have to double down to get there. I’ve seen some wild rides. Obviously they don’t usually end like this, but if every manager gave up when he was down, a lot of funds would fold. This one is more complicated w/ being the second generation, but look how he went after a bigger project when he was in debt. That’s what they do. It just generally doesn’t carry over into extremes in personal spending.
Nothing about their lifestyle was equal to the size of their fund, even if it had been successful. She was spending as if he were a manager at tiger or citadel, not some run of the mill 2nd tier RE fund.

Couple of things

-why didn't or couldn't he tell the wife their lifestyle wasn't sustainable in the short,medium or long term?

- The description of the NY real estate industry doesn't apply to him—he was never even a medium player, not even close.He was at the very bottom of the pole as far as NY real estate is concerned.

- Nothing has described this guy as being in finance. It's been said over and over again that he was in real estate .

He was at his dad’s real estate investment firm. His dad died at an inopportune time where the dad’s business had a lot of debt. Brandon was expecting to inherit 200 million I read, and the dad was in debt and essentially he got nothing. Then COVID happened and killed NYC real estate, especially commercial. They were spending like they were getting a 200mill inheritance and for whatever reason they couldn’t adjust lifestyle once it did not come to fruition. Whatever low 8 figure wealth they had sustained that lifestyle for like 6 years, but it ran out this year and he started swindling his peers, it spiraled over the course of like 6-10 months and ended in his suicide.