Anonymous wrote:If I'm ever in a position or I feel the need to track my spouse's whereabouts without them knowing, then I feel it's time to bow out of that relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you not understand that a call or a text is allowing the person to decide if they want to engage with you or not..... My husband has never declined a text or a call from me and our cars have to capability to answer phones remotely or to talk to text.....
My issue with tracking is you're doing it without their knowledge.... If you said I'm going to track you tonight to see when you're going to be home and he is like okay. Sounds good then. Yeah there's nothing wrong with that but you're just looking up there whereabouts to be nosy which is wrong on so many levels. Can I read my husband's email because I have the password. Yes I can but I never would unless I thought that he was cheating or something was going on. The fact that you think there is no problem with violating privacy is crazy to me and not a relationship I would ever want to be in.... inFact I would feel quite suffocated

But what is a violation of privacy to you isn’t to others. It has never even occurred to me to think that my husband looking at my location on find my phone, which I voluntarily share and could stop sharing at any time, would be a violation of my privacy. You have to start realizing that people are different.

So do you.

Anonymous wrote:You guys are really trying to rationalize pretty hard tracking your spouse. If you honestly trusted each other you would let each other know what time you were going to be home and if it wasn't the exact minute it really wouldn't be that big of deal. I can't think of any meal important enough that I had to know the exact time my husband was going to walk in the door that I have made in the past 15 years. You know you can turn the stove to simmer, right? You don't need to keep boiling your pasta for the next 20 minutes waiting for him. Keep rationalizing all you want but it says something about your marriage that you feel the need to do this

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Anonymous wrote:PSA: Apple tags aren’t always accurate. I checked my husband’s location once when he didn’t pick up and we’d been having a rough week - it said he was at some random location for 30 minutes. I asked him when he got back where he was (the grocery store) and I told him I saw he had been elsewhere at that time. He asked me to see what it said about the car’s location at this very minute and it showed it was still at that location although it was parked in front of our house. It was just a street he passed by on his way to the store. Anyways I felt silly. I put it in my car because I’m in DC where carjackings are more common occurrences and will keep to that instead of tracking my husbands whereabouts.

Just FYI- when my ex was having an affair every now in then it looked like his iPhone was stuck somewhere—like he was at home but still showed at work. One time it showed him halfway around the beltway and when I called/texted to ask where he was—all the sudden the locator showed him back near his office.

You can change your iPhone location through your laptop- some hack, you have to be at the place set the location and then when u go elsewhere it won’t move until u physically move the location through the laptop so it appears u are somewhere you are not. Ex would drive near office set that location and then go bang his married whore at her house halfway around the beltway.

I remember thinking oh Apple is just glitchy as he told me. Let me tell you: Apple ain’t glitchy. It’s always near where u are and does not just “get stuck” somewhere or randomly show you somewhere mikes from where you really are.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you not understand that a call or a text is allowing the person to decide if they want to engage with you or not..... My husband has never declined a text or a call from me and our cars have to capability to answer phones remotely or to talk to text.....
My issue with tracking is you're doing it without their knowledge.... If you said I'm going to track you tonight to see when you're going to be home and he is like okay. Sounds good then. Yeah there's nothing wrong with that but you're just looking up there whereabouts to be nosy which is wrong on so many levels. Can I read my husband's email because I have the password. Yes I can but I never would unless I thought that he was cheating or something was going on. The fact that you think there is no problem with violating privacy is crazy to me and not a relationship I would ever want to be in.... inFact I would feel quite suffocated

DP. You do know how the iPhone family sharing app works, right? No one is “violating” anyone’s privacy. When you turn on the location sharing feature on your iPhone, you are giving your family express permission to see your location. And some of us do this because we *want* our family to know where we are (I know. I know. Crazy concept to some of you). DH and I aren’t using this feature because we want to be “nosy”. We are using it because Larla and Larlo are starving, one of us is on dinner duty, and if we don’t get some semblance of a hot dinner on the table stat, someone is going to die… but swim practice went late. I’m carrying 2 swim bags. 4 fins. 20 pairs of goggles. And a partridge in a pear tree. And I don’t feel like answering my effing phone when DH calls to ask me where I am.

Anonymous wrote:If I'm ever in a position or I feel the need to track my spouse's whereabouts without them knowing, then I feel it's time to bow out of that relationship.

Anonymous wrote:How do you not understand that a call or a text is allowing the person to decide if they want to engage with you or not..... My husband has never declined a text or a call from me and our cars have to capability to answer phones remotely or to talk to text.....
My issue with tracking is you're doing it without their knowledge.... If you said I'm going to track you tonight to see when you're going to be home and he is like okay. Sounds good then. Yeah there's nothing wrong with that but you're just looking up there whereabouts to be nosy which is wrong on so many levels. Can I read my husband's email because I have the password. Yes I can but I never would unless I thought that he was cheating or something was going on. The fact that you think there is no problem with violating privacy is crazy to me and not a relationship I would ever want to be in.... inFact I would feel quite suffocated

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Anonymous wrote:How do you not understand that a call or a text is allowing the person to decide if they want to engage with you or not..... My husband has never declined a text or a call from me and our cars have to capability to answer phones remotely or to talk to text.....
My issue with tracking is you're doing it without their knowledge.... If you said I'm going to track you tonight to see when you're going to be home and he is like okay. Sounds good then. Yeah there's nothing wrong with that but you're just looking up there whereabouts to be nosy which is wrong on so many levels. Can I read my husband's email because I have the password. Yes I can but I never would unless I thought that he was cheating or something was going on. The fact that you think there is no problem with violating privacy is crazy to me and not a relationship I would ever want to be in.... inFact I would feel quite suffocated

But what is a violation of privacy to you isn’t to others. It has never even occurred to me to think that my husband looking at my location on find my phone, which I voluntarily share and could stop sharing at any time, would be a violation of my privacy. You have to start realizing that people are different.

Anonymous wrote:How do you not understand that a call or a text is allowing the person to decide if they want to engage with you or not..... My husband has never declined a text or a call from me and our cars have to capability to answer phones remotely or to talk to text.....
My issue with tracking is you're doing it without their knowledge.... If you said I'm going to track you tonight to see when you're going to be home and he is like okay. Sounds good then. Yeah there's nothing wrong with that but you're just looking up there whereabouts to be nosy which is wrong on so many levels. Can I read my husband's email because I have the password. Yes I can but I never would unless I thought that he was cheating or something was going on. The fact that you think there is no problem with violating privacy is crazy to me and not a relationship I would ever want to be in.... inFact I would feel quite suffocated

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Anonymous wrote:PSA: Apple tags aren’t always accurate. I checked my husband’s location once when he didn’t pick up and we’d been having a rough week - it said he was at some random location for 30 minutes. I asked him when he got back where he was (the grocery store) and I told him I saw he had been elsewhere at that time. He asked me to see what it said about the car’s location at this very minute and it showed it was still at that location although it was parked in front of our house. It was just a street he passed by on his way to the store. Anyways I felt silly. I put it in my car because I’m in DC where carjackings are more common occurrences and will keep to that instead of tracking my husbands whereabouts.

Just FYI- when my ex was having an affair every now in then it looked like his iPhone was stuck somewhere—like he was at home but still showed at work. One time it showed him halfway around the beltway and when I called/texted to ask where he was—all the sudden the locator showed him back near his office.

You can change your iPhone location through your laptop- some hack, you have to be at the place set the location and then when u go elsewhere it won’t move until u physically move the location through the laptop so it appears u are somewhere you are not. Ex would drive near office set that location and then go bang his married whore at her house halfway around the beltway.

I remember thinking oh Apple is just glitchy as he told me. Let me tell you: Apple ain’t glitchy. It’s always near where u are and does not just “get stuck” somewhere or randomly show you somewhere mikes from where you really are.

Anonymous wrote:PSA: Apple tags aren’t always accurate. I checked my husband’s location once when he didn’t pick up and we’d been having a rough week - it said he was at some random location for 30 minutes. I asked him when he got back where he was (the grocery store) and I told him I saw he had been elsewhere at that time. He asked me to see what it said about the car’s location at this very minute and it showed it was still at that location although it was parked in front of our house. It was just a street he passed by on his way to the store. Anyways I felt silly. I put it in my car because I’m in DC where carjackings are more common occurrences and will keep to that instead of tracking my husbands whereabouts.

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Anonymous wrote:If he really wanted to cheat on you he could just leave his phone in his office and give the mistress a burner phone or Google number to communicate with him and rendezvous at a hotel after work. You’d think he was at the office.

Friend with an AP does this.