Anonymous wrote:Women who think being a doctor's wife makes THEM a doctor/expert on healthcare/how hospitals operate.

Similarly women who gave up biglaw as an associate bc they couldn't handle it and their biglaw boyfriend proposed and then when biglaw husband makes partner, THEY feel they made partner; uh sweetie congrats to your man, but YOU are not a partner at this firm, so we don't need YOUR opinion on how things should be done.

Wow that one sounds personal, Susan.

-People who pride themselves on being “quirky”
-Adults who talk about their high school activities

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Anonymous wrote:Making your high school or college part of your identity. Even worse are the parents of the students who make their child’s educational choices part of their identity.

Omg this a million times. The parents who have more school spirit for their kid’s college than I ever had while I was actually in school. And people who graduated 10 years ago but still wear their school sweatshirts, hats, license plate frame, key chain, baby onesies, etc. for their Ivy all while pretending they’re not hung up on status.

I have neighbors in their 40s who recently redid their basement in a full on Penn State theme. You went there for 4 years 25 years ago. You don’t need 1000 square feet of your house dedicated to it.

Penn State is an entire personality type though.

I know more than a few people who went there who are aged 45+ who are obsessed with it in a way that is just weird. Football, basketball, wrestling, keeping up with campus happenings as if they are still living on campus. Some of it is about brainwashing their own kids starting at birth including by going up there 10 times/semester for sporting events (when they know no one playing on those teams and it's a 3+ hr drive one way) so that when it comes time for their HS junior to pick colleges, Penn State is the one and only school on the list. And viola mom and dad get to re-live their glory days thru their kids for 4 more years - I'm sure the kids love mom and dad showing up at every drunken tailgate.

Omg this is so accurate. And I didn’t even go there, but I’ve heard all about “Thon” than was ever necessary. I mean I’m sure it raises a lot of money for a good cause, but dear lord, no one else goes around bragging years later about doing some fundraising.

"They are only young once" moms who need to engineer every experience in their young children's lives and also post about it. Christmas countdowns, class parties, summer bucket lists, themed everything for every holiday. The magic of childhood 24x7.

Hokies

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Anonymous wrote:So basically anything anybody posts on this fictitious website but we continue to read it

This is about people making something their whole personality not just Random Annoying Things. People who post on this website are doing a service to their friends because they don't have to hear it ad nauseum.

+1. Some people are using the thread to complain about random annoying things, but the thread is actually more specific than that. Like I love food and cooking and going to restaurants and I don't find it annoying at all when I encounter other people who like those same things. In fact it's great to find out we have that in common. But when I encounter people who make a huge deal out of "being a foodie" and who need every conversation to revolve around the idea that they are a foodie, I find it incredibly tedious. Because at that point we're no longer bonding over liking the same restaurant or exchanging recipes, we're just talking about how we like food/know more about food more than other people. Which is actually boring. I like food because I like it, not because I think liking it makes me superior to people who aren't as interested in it as I am. My kids, for instance, are the opposite of foodies and they are great.

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Anonymous wrote:“I don’t own a tv” people. Not owning a TV isn’t a personality and it doesn’t even count if you still watch everything just on a computer or phone.

Yes! My friend has a sibling like this. She visits often so I’ve hung out multiple times. I was impressed by the no TV thing until years later I found out she had a DvD player and then later multiple streaming services (literally like 5-6 of them)! But, yet I must have heard 30+times over the years from her that she had no TV. I realize now why my friend was silent when this came up.

+2

My neighbors kids are constantly gathered at the computer monitor watching shows, but proud to "not have a television". LOL. The other neighborhood kids tell on them because you can see it from the street.

+3.

We've also discovered that some people younger than us (we're mid 40s but some of the parents we know through kids school are a decade younger) are very anti traditional TV but spend enormous amounts of time on screens in ways that are definitely no better than what we do.

For instance, one of these couples doesn't have a TV in their living room. They used to, but it broke and they proudly declared they "barely noticed" and chose not to replace it. If you mention a TV show around them, they'll make a great show of explaining they have not seen it because "we don't have TV."

But they watch literally hours of YouTube a day. They'll sit up in bed with a laptop watching old episodes of shows like Golden Girls (which I watched as a kid but they were too young for, and now they find kitschy and endearing) on YouTube. Which is fine, do what you want, but it's so strange to me that they don't think of this as "TV" or think it's somehow better to watch old television shows on a little screen in bed than to watch, like, an episode of Fargo on your regular TV via a streaming service. Just a strange value set that doesn't really make sense to me.

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Anonymous wrote:The kind of cancer survivors who use it as a trump card or demand that everybody praise their courage. Persevering through medical treatment is an amazing thing, I am sincerely happy for them and wish all the best. But people survive all kinds of life threatening conditions without making it their identity.

Wear pink every day, go on every single walk / funraiser.

I don’t begrudge people this. I keep my diagnosis private, but whatever people need to get through something that will forever haunt them. Such unkindness in this thread.

Anonymous wrote:So basically anything anybody posts on this fictitious website but we continue to read it

This is about people making something their whole personality not just Random Annoying Things. People who post on this website are doing a service to their friends because they don't have to hear it ad nauseum.

The university they graduated from 20+ years ago.

I've seen this from the hyper prestige types who need to bring their kid to the park sporting an MIT sweatshirt, sweatpants, and hat as they jump out of a car with an MIT bumper sticker. And I've seen this from the state flagship u types too esp schools with a sports culture - Penn State or UNC anyone?

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Whatever people are who still mask indoors

It’s a Jeep thing

Parents with kids on travel leagues

A person with cancer (masking indoors). F off.

Women who think being a doctor's wife makes THEM a doctor/expert on healthcare/how hospitals operate.

Similarly women who gave up biglaw as an associate bc they couldn't handle it and their biglaw boyfriend proposed and then when biglaw husband makes partner, THEY feel they made partner; uh sweetie congrats to your man, but YOU are not a partner at this firm, so we don't need YOUR opinion on how things should be done.

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Anonymous wrote:Making your high school or college part of your identity. Even worse are the parents of the students who make their child’s educational choices part of their identity.

Omg this a million times. The parents who have more school spirit for their kid’s college than I ever had while I was actually in school. And people who graduated 10 years ago but still wear their school sweatshirts, hats, license plate frame, key chain, baby onesies, etc. for their Ivy all while pretending they’re not hung up on status.

I have neighbors in their 40s who recently redid their basement in a full on Penn State theme. You went there for 4 years 25 years ago. You don’t need 1000 square feet of your house dedicated to it.

Penn State is an entire personality type though.

I know more than a few people who went there who are aged 45+ who are obsessed with it in a way that is just weird. Football, basketball, wrestling, keeping up with campus happenings as if they are still living on campus. Some of it is about brainwashing their own kids starting at birth including by going up there 10 times/semester for sporting events (when they know no one playing on those teams and it's a 3+ hr drive one way) so that when it comes time for their HS junior to pick colleges, Penn State is the one and only school on the list. And viola mom and dad get to re-live their glory days thru their kids for 4 more years - I'm sure the kids love mom and dad showing up at every drunken tailgate.

Anonymous wrote:The many many many men I come across at work who played football in High School. Who cares about your 40 year old football story???

I've long had a theory that men who play football in HS/college are fundamentally changed by that experience and it informs their identity throughout their lives

-no other HS/college athlete talks about their sport nearly as much (including me )

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CrossFitter
“Traveler” (I am very well-traveled - this is not a personality trait, but a combination of adventurousness plus enough money and time to travel)
Diet identification: vegan, gluten-free, carnivore, keto, paleo, whole 30 etc
Profession identification

The fact is, a lot of people don’t have interesting personalities so they have to use their interests and hobbies as a stand in

And what is your definition of an interesting personality, o sage one? Posting on an anonymous mommy message board to insult strangers with your spare time?

Anonymous wrote:So many of these personalities are people who are sympathy-seeking or attention-seeking. I think that's what it comes down to. People who demand more attention than anyone else, and/or want you to feel sorry for them or think they have it tougher than other people. It's so frustrating and the older I get, the less patience I have for this behavior.

Also, people like this often have little to no empathy for others. So it's all take and no give.

+1

Yes! This! Self created situations that people refuse to take responsibility for, and often use their kids as pawns. My kids go through the same exact thing, and no one bails us out, time to step up and parent, since you chose to bear children. GMAFB.