What is this craziness here? In my Asian culture, traditionally we did not have gifts for baby in a "baby shower". We have a religious ceremony which was to basically pamper the mom to be and pray for her safe delivery and her joyous news and throw a feast for the family and friends. We give cash gifts, gold, silver, diamond jewelry or silk sarees - but only to the mom. Usually nothing is bought for the baby because that was considered jinxing the baby before the birth. The ceremony is hosted by family members from both sides of the family. Also, the husband is a big part of the celebration (so I have never been to a baby shower for a single mom) and no one gives basic stuff like onesies etc. We assume that the family can buy these things themselves.

Now a days, Asian-Americans also call non-Asians friends to their baby shower and it has become a hybrid celebration. The non-Asians come bringing gifts from a registry because that's what is common practice here. Other than these two things - the rest of the celebration of having lots of food, fun games, music and dance, sweets, gifts for guests etc is the same.

Anyhow, baby shower is an important rite of passage for us and typically there is a huge spread of food and lots of people invited by the family.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

There is a difference between celebrating a new baby and throwing an event that is essentially a shakedown for presents.

Please tell us the proper way to celebrate a new baby then.

We have, pay attention. A “no gifts” party for babies after the first.

Women should have one bridal shower and one baby shower period. Preferably hosted by a non-relative.

Everyone knows you can't show up to a party without a gift. That's not a solution.

You can if the host puts “no gifts please” on the invitation. But most people aren’t doing that because it is, in fact, a gift grab. But tacky people have never minded being tacky. Nothing new there.

Yeah, tacky is showing up with no gift. But you knew that.

Tacky is having a shower and accepting gifts after your first child. But you knew that.

Also called having a supportive groups of friends who want to celebrate with you. But you knew that too...just can't relate.

We can celebrate you and be happy without buying you gifts on command.

Sigh. We get it no one had a shower for you. Your personality is the reason why.

No, they aren’t a grifter like you.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

There is a difference between celebrating a new baby and throwing an event that is essentially a shakedown for presents.

Please tell us the proper way to celebrate a new baby then.

We have, pay attention. A “no gifts” party for babies after the first.

Women should have one bridal shower and one baby shower period. Preferably hosted by a non-relative.

Everyone knows you can't show up to a party without a gift. That's not a solution.

You can if the host puts “no gifts please” on the invitation. But most people aren’t doing that because it is, in fact, a gift grab. But tacky people have never minded being tacky. Nothing new there.

Yeah, tacky is showing up with no gift. But you knew that.

Tacky is having a shower and accepting gifts after your first child. But you knew that.

Also called having a supportive groups of friends who want to celebrate with you. But you knew that too...just can't relate.

DP. I celebrate with friends occasionally, gifts are not compulsory. You are materialistic.

You mentioned gifts. Sounds you like are the materialistic one.

No dear, you criticized someone for saying it’s tacky to accept gifts. You are entitled and want gifts you materialistic leech.

Anonymous wrote:If it’s not a gift grab why not just say “no gifts”? Still haven’t gotten an answer to that one and we all know why.

Yes, I’ve been waiting for that answer.

If it’s not a gift grab why not just say “no gifts”? Still haven’t gotten an answer to that one and we all know why.