Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 13:27     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
A mom I know (a generally sweet person despite her MLMness) has a college senior who made the dean's list. I wonder if this will ever end?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 11:44     Subject: Re:Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:A lot of people do social media announcements on national college decision day (May 1st)


I'd be careful about posting decisions for prestigious schools this early - admissions sabotage is real


You prefer aluminum or tin foil for that hat you got on?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 11:26     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess this mostly applies to ED students. So you expect an ED student who go into their dream school to hold onto that news for 2-3 more months to spare your feelings? A 17 yo? You must have done pretty delicate feelings. Are you sure you and your DC have what it takes for 4 years of college?


I think it is more about realizing that it's inconsiderate. Why does that news need to be shared over social media the instant that it happens? It reminds of those people who were sharing their vacation photos while people were locked down during the pandemic. It's just so tone deaf. There is a growing sensibility that the college admissions process has gotten out of control and that the mental health of teenagers has not been great during this time. Kids are stressing about whether they will get in, and parents may be stressing along with them. Why pile on with a social media post? Why not wait until most other kids have heard from schools in the spring?

Given those considerations, I chose to not broadcast the news about my DC's ED admission on social media.


But those are YOUR sensitivities; perhaps not shared by others.

Toughen up Mom!


Yeah. I guess this is just a fundamentally different way to seeing the world. Where there is a chance that something I do might make someone else uncomfortable, I balance the benefit to me against the chance for causing harm to others. In this case, I felt that the benefit of sharing this happy personal news on social media was outweighed by the chance that I'd be contributing to someone's stress about college admissions. Obviously you may feel differently.

Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 11:04     Subject: Re:Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
What is the big deal? Most people on my social media feeds are going to no-name places like central florida or southern connecticut or georgia, so no envy here.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 11:04     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:I love to see where my friends’ kids are heading. No to scholarship info and no to every acceptance


+100

I don't follow people I don't care about. Only very close friends/family.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 11:02     Subject: Re:Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
I am not a social media person. I never got a Facebook account. I have an Instagram account, but it is only family and a very few extremely close friends. Those family and friends share things about the kids and I am proud of my nieces/nephews, and close friends' kids. I love to see where they end up.

I think the reason not to have hundred of periphery people following you is because they will judge and take offense with anything you post.

I actually would find it odd not to see a post about this type of thing from my cousins.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 10:56     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess this mostly applies to ED students. So you expect an ED student who go into their dream school to hold onto that news for 2-3 more months to spare your feelings? A 17 yo? You must have done pretty delicate feelings. Are you sure you and your DC have what it takes for 4 years of college?


I think it is more about realizing that it's inconsiderate. Why does that news need to be shared over social media the instant that it happens? It reminds of those people who were sharing their vacation photos while people were locked down during the pandemic. It's just so tone deaf. There is a growing sensibility that the college admissions process has gotten out of control and that the mental health of teenagers has not been great during this time. Kids are stressing about whether they will get in, and parents may be stressing along with them. Why pile on with a social media post? Why not wait until most other kids have heard from schools in the spring?

Given those considerations, I chose to not broadcast the news about my DC's ED admission on social media.


But those are YOUR sensitivities; perhaps not shared by others.

Toughen up Mom!
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 10:30     Subject: Re:Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
A lot of people do social media announcements on national college decision day (May 1st)


I'd be careful about posting decisions for prestigious schools this early - admissions sabotage is real

Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 10:10     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:I guess this mostly applies to ED students. So you expect an ED student who go into their dream school to hold onto that news for 2-3 more months to spare your feelings? A 17 yo? You must have done pretty delicate feelings. Are you sure you and your DC have what it takes for 4 years of college?


I think it is more about realizing that it's inconsiderate. Why does that news need to be shared over social media the instant that it happens? It reminds of those people who were sharing their vacation photos while people were locked down during the pandemic. It's just so tone deaf. There is a growing sensibility that the college admissions process has gotten out of control and that the mental health of teenagers has not been great during this time. Kids are stressing about whether they will get in, and parents may be stressing along with them. Why pile on with a social media post? Why not wait until most other kids have heard from schools in the spring?

Given those considerations, I chose to not broadcast the news about my DC's ED admission on social media.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 10:10     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:Everyone ends up knowing who got perfect SAT ACT scores. And who got into HYPB etc. Word just gets around or the school paper publishes it. Grow a thicker skin. Your going to need it.


You mean "you're." Obviously it wasn't you who got the perfect SAT.

O, and in my circle, no, we don't know everybody's SAT scores. We know everybody dogs' names though!

Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 10:07     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:I guess this mostly applies to ED students. So you expect an ED student who go into their dream school to hold onto that news for 2-3 more months to spare your feelings? A 17 yo? You must have done pretty delicate feelings. Are you sure you and your DC have what it takes for 4 years of college?


Another obtuse poster. We're talking about parents, not kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 10:06     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?


Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great


OMG is anything more boring than dogs and babies on FB? That makes collage acceptances almost a cure for nausea.


You just lost all credibility. There's nothing on earth better than dogs and babies.


I can’t think of anything more boring. In fact I have noticed “doggie moms” are even more boring cooing over their dog than they were with the baby. But if you are part of the dog and baby talk world I guess that works for you. Some peoples lives are a bit more interesting but if that upsets you maybe trim your list?


Nice try. If you don't like dog pics, you're the problem.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 09:40     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Everyone ends up knowing who got perfect SAT ACT scores. And who got into HYPB etc. Word just gets around or the school paper publishes it. Grow a thicker skin. Your going to need it.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 09:36     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
I guess this mostly applies to ED students. So you expect an ED student who go into their dream school to hold onto that news for 2-3 more months to spare your feelings? A 17 yo? You must have done pretty delicate feelings. Are you sure you and your DC have what it takes for 4 years of college?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2022 09:31     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?


Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great


OMG is anything more boring than dogs and babies on FB? That makes collage acceptances almost a cure for nausea.


You just lost all credibility. There's nothing on earth better than dogs and babies.


I can’t think of anything more boring. In fact I have noticed “doggie moms” are even more boring cooing over their dog than they were with the baby. But if you are part of the dog and baby talk world I guess that works for you. Some peoples lives are a bit more interesting but if that upsets you maybe trim your list?