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Anonymous wrote:I hope he realizes he’s been blocked and runs like hell. 4 months in, they’re exclusive, spend several nights a week together, have met each other’s friends.. sounds like a committed relationship of 4 (or more)months duration to me.


He’s probably feeling blindsided, and I feel bad for him. I’d be grasping too, thinking I *had* been in a happy, (appropriately) committed relationship.

I mean, good for OP to sticking to her ideals, but sometimes yiu have to realize the reality of your situation.

Op said she never met his friends, only introduced him to hers. He never called and didn’t make plans with op. It does not sound like he regarded op as his gf, just a hookup.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you did the right thing OP. I'm with a guy now who was like this for four months, unwilling to be exclusive even, until we got to four months. I was ready to be exclusive by the end of the first month. We've now been together for a year now, and while I do really like him and spending time with him, his inability to "want" to be with just me for so long really colored the rest of the relationship. Now he's really into me, but I can't really return his enthusiasm for the relationship because of how it started. So, this probably won't last forever.

Nuts. Of course he's into you now, he's had a year to get to know you. How do you know anyone after just one month??

Anonymous wrote:I hope he realizes he’s been blocked and runs like hell. 4 months in, they’re exclusive, spend several nights a week together, have met each other’s friends.. sounds like a committed relationship of 4 (or more)months duration to me.


He’s probably feeling blindsided, and I feel bad for him. I’d be grasping too, thinking I *had* been in a happy, (appropriately) committed relationship.

I mean, good for OP to sticking to her ideals, but sometimes yiu have to realize the reality of your situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, he's tried several times to reach out to you and you continuously shut him down?

That should be a red flag for him. I wouldn't be surprised if he he said he was confused by your definition of "commitment" but understands now, was willing to do it, but your harsh hard-line stubbornness and personal pride and lack of communication/extend an olive branch made him change his mind.

If you react like this to this type of situation, how unreasonable will you be for the larger things in life, other big permanent decisions, and curve balls life throws at you?

This this this

- I want another child NOW
- I want a better car NOW
- I want a bigger house NOW
- I want you to make more money NOW
- I want you to spend less time at work NOW

You don't think 4 MONTHS is a long enough time just to decide if you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend? A lot of these guys are time wasters or only in it for the sex, and it's smart to weed them out.

+1. I’d be offended if after 4 months of 2-3 dates per week someone said they were only 80% sure they wanted to date me.

yeah eff that

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OP: I didn't respond to him saying he wanted to keep building and then deleted his number. He sent me an email saying he would like to go away together after Christmas (that was one of my issues). Do you think there's ANY way he's a sincere guy? Or am I being taken advantage of?

How come he wrote you an email?
You mean: he noticed that you're not responding via text, concluded right away that he was blocked and immediately decided to email you instead?!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, he's tried several times to reach out to you and you continuously shut him down?

That should be a red flag for him. I wouldn't be surprised if he he said he was confused by your definition of "commitment" but understands now, was willing to do it, but your harsh hard-line stubbornness and personal pride and lack of communication/extend an olive branch made him change his mind.

If you react like this to this type of situation, how unreasonable will you be for the larger things in life, other big permanent decisions, and curve balls life throws at you?

This this this

- I want another child NOW
- I want a better car NOW
- I want a bigger house NOW
- I want you to make more money NOW
- I want you to spend less time at work NOW

You don't think 4 MONTHS is a long enough time just to decide if you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend? A lot of these guys are time wasters or only in it for the sex, and it's smart to weed them out.

+1. I’d be offended if after 4 months of 2-3 dates per week someone said they were only 80% sure they wanted to date me.

Anonymous wrote:Why the heck are you deleting his number as if he’s some jerk who wronged you? And PPs are encouraging this? Why such a black-and-white, extreme response?? You have been with him four measly months! He may just be a guy who prefers to take things a bit slower (an equally valid need!).

You expressed your feelings, he gave you an honest response and wanted to continue to conversation and then you shut things down and deleted his number. I don’t get it.

Of course he might be sincere. He obviously wants to try to find a happy medium (which is appropriate at 4 months; you have not been dating a year+, which is a point where it’s more reasonable to break off a relationship like this). I think it’s worth a try.

Deleting his number is so extreme and makes no sense to me in this context. What exactly has he done wrong? Geez.

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Anonymous wrote:You obviously didn’t care about him if this is the way you are treating him. Nobody ends an amazing relationship by deleting/blocking.

She has communicated with him twice now that things are over. He is not accepting or respecting that.

Anonymous wrote:You obviously didn’t care about him if this is the way you are treating him. Nobody ends an amazing relationship by deleting/blocking.