Anonymous
11/26/2021 14:25
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I am starting to get it now that I have a child.
Not having kids is just protecting oneself from setbacks and disappointments (some would call it lazy and cowardly but who knows).
One can have an SN child and all that it entails.
Or a child that just isn’t quite the inspiration and pride of their parents.
One can get stuck in a bad marriage due to shared kids
People just avoid vulnerability
One may call it lazy or one might call it smart
I think it’s great to have a choice
I'm.pretty sure I just don't want kids. Why is this so difficult for some people to accept?
And before someone asks why I'm on a parenting board, I'm also a nanny and that's how I discovered this place
I haven’t come across a single good reason to bring another human life into this world.
Anonymous
11/26/2021 12:56
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I am starting to get it now that I have a child.
Not having kids is just protecting oneself from setbacks and disappointments (some would call it lazy and cowardly but who knows).
One can have an SN child and all that it entails.
Or a child that just isn’t quite the inspiration and pride of their parents.
One can get stuck in a bad marriage due to shared kids
People just avoid vulnerability
One may call it lazy or one might call it smart
I think it’s great to have a choice
I'm.pretty sure I just don't want kids. Why is this so difficult for some people to accept?
And before someone asks why I'm on a parenting board, I'm also a nanny and that's how I discovered this place
Anonymous
11/26/2021 09:34
Subject: Re:Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous
11/26/2021 08:50
Subject: Re:Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous
11/26/2021 08:48
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
And if she knew how to use birth control, she wouldn't have to suffer so much.
Not having kids means having the luxury not to stay in situations that don't spark joy.
Not having kids means not feeling obligated to stay in abusive or unhappy marriages. Not wanting kids means not even feeling as much pressure to get married in the first place.
It's a beautiful life that provides more opportunity to pursue passions. It's easier to live a fulfilling life (whatever that means to you -- whether it's watching Netflix or saving the world) when your entire universe isn't focused around your own household. Parents are some of the most selfish, self-absorbed people around when it comes to having time, energy, and resources to give to anyone they didn't spawn.
OMG could you be any more obvious about being the snowflake she’s talking about?
So, a stranger on the internet shamed you. BFD. You’ll survive it. Ask your therapist to up your dose of Wellbutrin, Seroquel, or whatever prescription opioid they’re pacifying the masses with nowadays.
I will pray for you PP that you will find sympathy and love in your heart before it's too late. Maybe on Xmas Eve three spirits will visit you.
I pray that you’ll learn how to face life without medication and a therapist depleting your savings. Grow up!
Anger issues are a sign of Depression. Maybe you need to get screened.
Anonymous
11/26/2021 07:54
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but parents cannot take care of the kids that currently exist. I am a teacher and have made SO many CPS calls this year. My heart is sad helping children overcome so many burdens and obstacles to successful and happy lives. I have spent so much money on clothes, food and other things to help my children in need. I have no idea what is going on in the parents lives though. I try not to judge but they can return an email or phone call or pickup their sick kid from school. I am thankful that my kids will only have kids when they are 100% ready. My eldest never wants any.
I just wanted to say thank you for what you do.
Unfortunately it’s parents like you describe who will keep having kids because they are incentivized to do so and because that’s what they do best
Anonymous
11/26/2021 07:50
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Honestly, I am starting to get it now that I have a child.
Not having kids is just protecting oneself from setbacks and disappointments (some would call it lazy and cowardly but who knows).
One can have an SN child and all that it entails.
Or a child that just isn’t quite the inspiration and pride of their parents.
One can get stuck in a bad marriage due to shared kids
People just avoid vulnerability
One may call it lazy or one might call it smart
I think it’s great to have a choice
Not having kids is just protecting oneself from setbacks and disappointments (some would call it lazy and cowardly but who knows).
One can have an SN child and all that it entails.
Or a child that just isn’t quite the inspiration and pride of their parents.
One can get stuck in a bad marriage due to shared kids
People just avoid vulnerability
One may call it lazy or one might call it smart
I think it’s great to have a choice
Anonymous
11/26/2021 07:41
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My 2 older siblings are childless. 38 and 44. The holidays they spend watching Netflix and surfing Reddit. I am sad for them.
Don’t be. They made the choice they wanted. One of my sisters did and wouldn’t trade it.
Certainly easier than having 2 SN kids like the immigrant PP. she has to be tough because that’s what all mothers of SN kids face. Had she stopped at one her life would be easier. (Not saying she should have as it’s not my business but just stating the fact)
Anonymous
11/26/2021 07:38
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fine by me. I’ve always wanted 4 kids, so if people want to have fewer to offset my strong drive to reproduce, it’s a win for us all.
YOu call it a strong drive to reproduce, I call it a breeding fetish.
Anonymous
11/26/2021 07:25
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Fine by me. I’ve always wanted 4 kids, so if people want to have fewer to offset my strong drive to reproduce, it’s a win for us all.
YOu call it a strong drive to reproduce, I call it a breeding fetish.
Anonymous
11/26/2021 07:23
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The responses in this thread are just proving the immigrant PP right.
She’s saying stand up, work hard, and don’t be a victim. What sane person can really disagree with that?
You’re all overreacting because she didn’t say it nicely and kiss your ass. We’ve become a nation of oversensitive snowflakes.
Exactly. So well said. Frankly, as an American, it's embarrassing.
People would rather attack than accept some uncomfortable truths about themselves.
I’m not sure how Americans not wanting to have children translates to “Americans are lazy”.
Precisely.
Anonymous
11/26/2021 06:57
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Fine by me. I’ve always wanted 4 kids, so if people want to have fewer to offset my strong drive to reproduce, it’s a win for us all.
Anonymous
11/26/2021 06:56
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The responses in this thread are just proving the immigrant PP right.
She’s saying stand up, work hard, and don’t be a victim. What sane person can really disagree with that?
You’re all overreacting because she didn’t say it nicely and kiss your ass. We’ve become a nation of oversensitive snowflakes.
Calling people lazy, quitters and showing disdain for American people does not prove her right. Its not sensitive or an overreaction to call out rude people who make rude comments. People can discuss things without resorting to name calling which is rude amongst other things.
[/b]Immigrant PP is not kicking anyone's ass, I think her contempt and anger are evident in her language and posts, she is not a happy person, does not have a happy marriage and is probably being crushed by all her responsibilities. This is why she doesn't speak nicely, her resentment boils over and whilst others can see it, she can't and neither can you.[b]
Exactly.
Agree. From reading her post, she sounds like someone who has been deeply traumatized and is suffering. I also remember reading her posts in relationships about the problems with her husband. Also sounds like she comes from a culture where women are valued mostly for their ability to reproduce. What she needs is more help and support, not to just try to pull herself up by her bootstraps and keep chugging along. Also some therapy. And if she really wanted her H to change, she would hold him accountable and work towards separation/divorce, rather than feel some sense of obligation to stay with him because omg, marriage!
Anonymous
11/26/2021 00:07
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The responses in this thread are just proving the immigrant PP right.
She’s saying stand up, work hard, and don’t be a victim. What sane person can really disagree with that?
You’re all overreacting because she didn’t say it nicely and kiss your ass. We’ve become a nation of oversensitive snowflakes.
Exactly. So well said. Frankly, as an American, it's embarrassing.
People would rather attack than accept some uncomfortable truths about themselves.
I’m not sure how Americans not wanting to have children translates to “Americans are lazy”.
You’re obviously too lazy to read immigrant PP’s post. She explained it in plain English. Do better.
We read it. It’s laughable and clueless, and if you agree with her, so are you.
Anonymous
11/26/2021 00:06
Subject: Growing share of childless adults in U.S. don’t expect to ever have children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The responses in this thread are just proving the immigrant PP right.
She’s saying stand up, work hard, and don’t be a victim. What sane person can really disagree with that?
You’re all overreacting because she didn’t say it nicely and kiss your ass. We’ve become a nation of oversensitive snowflakes.
Calling people lazy, quitters and showing disdain for American people does not prove her right. Its not sensitive or an overreaction to call out rude people who make rude comments. People can discuss things without resorting to name calling which is rude amongst other things.
[/b]Immigrant PP is not kicking anyone's ass, I think her contempt and anger are evident in her language and posts, she is not a happy person, does not have a happy marriage and is probably being crushed by all her responsibilities. This is why she doesn't speak nicely, her resentment boils over and whilst others can see it, she can't and neither can you.[b]
Exactly.