Anonymous wrote:Sex is so overrated. Marriage is so much more than sex.

We are in our 40s and have sex 1-2 times a year. This is plenty for both of us.

This is not common. At all.

Sex is so overrated. Marriage is so much more than sex.

We are in our 40s and have sex 1-2 times a year. This is plenty for both of us.

Anonymous wrote:Yes absolutely. I haven't had sex in seven years with my husband.

How do you define success here?
This is what you both want and are happy?
This is what you want and you’re happy and he hasn’t cheated?
This is what he wants and is happy and you haven’t cheated?
Neither of you is cheating/open and you’re both unhappy but you’re together and raising kids?
Or something else?

Yes absolutely. I haven't had sex in seven years with my husband.

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

We do that sometimes. But to be fair, the attachment is no bigger around than I am.

Anonymous wrote:While dating my husband worked outside the house played in different sports leagues showered every day looked presentable asked how my day was we went to date movies took trips and yeah we had a ton of sex. Once married he started working from home showers once a week stopped his sports leagues this is pre-covid doesn't do his fair share of the housework now that we have kids and yeah we no longer have as much sex. We haven't been on a trip in 5 years. So if he wants to go back to the guy was dating yeah I'll have sex with that guy as much as he wants.

Same. Men never consider that they’ve changed too. Like they could get away with that while dating.

Women are wired to seek out quality not quantity. You may no longer be considered quality.

Anonymous wrote:I've almost accepted that we're in a sexless marriage. It's like we had kids and suddenly it's one thing or another. Occasionally i get sympathy stuff but even that feels weird. I'm just focused on being a good dad right now. I'd say good husband too but I know she'd just give one of the thousand excuses she uses to not have sex. Not interested in a free pass either. I'm just resigned to working out and staying in shape. Hopefully that is enough to keep me sane.

same here. however the thing that I am anxious about is ... from what I read here and on other blogs/books .. married females lose sexual interest in their long-term spouse/partner but are likely to be horny as ever with a new romantic interest .. and so as susceptible as a man stuck in a sexless marriage to have an affair. at which point she will justify her affair by saying well i never got attention from my husband so i needed that outside man to bone me (conveniently forgetting the hundreds of times she rebuffed her mans affection (not just sexual advances)) ..

No. Chances are she has cheated already so you might as well start cheating now to make up for it.

Age changes things for many couples.

After a very active sex life for 27 years, menopause hit me and medications took a toll on him.

So yes, our marriage is technically sexless. There are no affairs and we are happily planning our retirement. One of the sisters' marriages is similar.

While dating my husband worked outside the house played in different sports leagues showered every day looked presentable asked how my day was we went to date movies took trips and yeah we had a ton of sex. Once married he started working from home showers once a week stopped his sports leagues this is pre-covid doesn't do his fair share of the housework now that we have kids and yeah we no longer have as much sex. We haven't been on a trip in 5 years. So if he wants to go back to the guy was dating yeah I'll have sex with that guy as much as he wants.

Anonymous wrote:I've almost accepted that we're in a sexless marriage. It's like we had kids and suddenly it's one thing or another. Occasionally i get sympathy stuff but even that feels weird. I'm just focused on being a good dad right now. I'd say good husband too but I know she'd just give one of the thousand excuses she uses to not have sex. Not interested in a free pass either. I'm just resigned to working out and staying in shape. Hopefully that is enough to keep me sane.

You are obviously new to the sexless marriage thing. Come back in 9 months and tell us about your girlfriend-on-the-side.

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

You know absolutely nothing about sex or relationships if you asked that question. It’s not witty or funny...just a sad statement about you.

I've almost accepted that we're in a sexless marriage. It's like we had kids and suddenly it's one thing or another. Occasionally i get sympathy stuff but even that feels weird. I'm just focused on being a good dad right now. I'd say good husband too but I know she'd just give one of the thousand excuses she uses to not have sex. Not interested in a free pass either. I'm just resigned to working out and staying in shape. Hopefully that is enough to keep me sane.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

Hell yes.

DCUM sexless harpy wife: "men would you do ___some_absurd_sexual_act____ for the sake of marriage?"

Men: "hell yes"

Lol.

Another Man here and when I read the question I knew it wasn’t going to go the way she thought it would.