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Anonymous wrote:Our upper school daughter was told she had to “pick a group” to join. When she didn’t fit into a group for someone of color or who identified as LBTGQ the only remaining group left was “white accountability”. What kind of name is that? We as parents are horrified. We attend lots of unconscious bias training for our careers. We are not segregated at those trainings. SMH.

My US daughter was also in a white accountability group and didn't feel threatened in the slightest. I think parents are getting too hung up on the name of the group rather than what the focus of the group was. The group learned what white privilege is, that it gives them an advantage in certain areas of life because of their skin color, and ways that they could try to address racism in our country. My daughter didn't mind the name too much because as she said, "what would we have instead, a White Pride breakout session?"

Too hung up on the name? Well, yes we are when the name has such a negative connotation. Oh and also that they segregated groups this way. So much for a unified sisterhood.

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Anonymous wrote:The bait and switch of not being a Catholic School in line with their advertising, then dumping the new social curriculum that takes time away from academic work, is infact dirty pool.

The DEI work at Stone Ridge does not take away from academic work. It usually takes place on Wednesdays, which are reserved for social action days, student advisory sessions or school-wide meetings or assemblies. not during regular classwork that takes place the other 4 days of the week.

You just made my point. Thanks.

How in the world did I make your point? You claimed it takes away from academics and I said it doesn't. SR has long had social action days on Wednesdays, where the students go out and volunteer in the community in many different areas. They have tried to do that virtually this year too. The topics of the social action days changing form week to week - they focus on hunger one day, homelessness the next, learning how to help children with disabilities, etc. It is not all DEI work. I was only saying when they do focus on DEI that they do so on Wednesdays, when the girls would normally not be in regular class anyway.

Anonymous wrote:Our upper school daughter was told she had to “pick a group” to join. When she didn’t fit into a group for someone of color or who identified as LBTGQ the only remaining group left was “white accountability”. What kind of name is that? We as parents are horrified. We attend lots of unconscious bias training for our careers. We are not segregated at those trainings. SMH.

The LGBTQ banner is lifted high at SR. It has become quite the thing to be lesbian, bi, or trans in the Middle School.

Anonymous wrote:Our upper school daughter was told she had to “pick a group” to join. When she didn’t fit into a group for someone of color or who identified as LBTGQ the only remaining group left was “white accountability”. What kind of name is that? We as parents are horrified. We attend lots of unconscious bias training for our careers. We are not segregated at those trainings. SMH.

My US daughter was also in a white accountability group and didn't feel threatened in the slightest. I think parents are getting too hung up on the name of the group rather than what the focus of the group was. The group learned what white privilege is, that it gives them an advantage in certain areas of life because of their skin color, and ways that they could try to address racism in our country. My daughter didn't mind the name too much because as she said, "what would we have instead, a White Pride breakout session?"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bait and switch of not being a Catholic School in line with their advertising, then dumping the new social curriculum that takes time away from academic work, is infact dirty pool.

The DEI work at Stone Ridge does not take away from academic work. It usually takes place on Wednesdays, which are reserved for social action days, student advisory sessions or school-wide meetings or assemblies. not during regular classwork that takes place the other 4 days of the week.

You just made my point. Thanks.

Anonymous wrote:The bait and switch of not being a Catholic School in line with their advertising, then dumping the new social curriculum that takes time away from academic work, is infact dirty pool.

The DEI work at Stone Ridge does not take away from academic work. It usually takes place on Wednesdays, which are reserved for social action days, student advisory sessions or school-wide meetings or assemblies. not during regular classwork that takes place the other 4 days of the week.

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Anonymous wrote:We are happy overall but not thrilled about the amount of DEI stuff and at times more than a little troubled by it. But every school has to be considered as a total picture. I also wonder about what the future will hold. Will schools like SR dial it back due to parent concerns, and will others jump on the bandwagon? It is all hard to determine. I would say look at a school whose educational program is a good fit for your child. Because DD entered in high school, the considerations were clearer for us.

Thanks. We are going to pass. Hopefully they will get it together quickly. Just not quite quick enough for us. There are too many options without this controversy. It is stupid to jump in a dirty pool for $45000/year. Good luck to those stuck navigating this mess. I truly am sorry you are dealing with this.

"Jump in a dirty pool"???Seriously? Yes. I could see why the DEI work would not be a fit for you. Sheesh. Unfortunate metaphor.

All the privates are doing extensive DEI work. It comes with the territory. Good luck finding one that's not.

Actually, it should be pretty easy. Where there is a market demand ( and there is) some school will provide the service.

The bait and switch of not being a Catholic School in line with their advertising, then dumping the new social curriculum that takes time away from academic work, is infact dirty pool.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are happy overall but not thrilled about the amount of DEI stuff and at times more than a little troubled by it. But every school has to be considered as a total picture. I also wonder about what the future will hold. Will schools like SR dial it back due to parent concerns, and will others jump on the bandwagon? It is all hard to determine. I would say look at a school whose educational program is a good fit for your child. Because DD entered in high school, the considerations were clearer for us.

Thanks. We are going to pass. Hopefully they will get it together quickly. Just not quite quick enough for us. There are too many options without this controversy. It is stupid to jump in a dirty pool for $45000/year. Good luck to those stuck navigating this mess. I truly am sorry you are dealing with this.

"Jump in a dirty pool"???Seriously? Yes. I could see why the DEI work would not be a fit for you. Sheesh. Unfortunate metaphor.

All the privates are doing extensive DEI work. It comes with the territory. Good luck finding one that's not.

Anonymous wrote:Since when is Catholic School down with LBTGQ? No complaining but they don't sound like a Catholic SC.

Stone Ridge is a Catholic school in name only. That has been true for a long time.

At this point it is a branding exercise, nothing more.

Anonymous wrote:Our upper school daughter was told she had to “pick a group” to join. When she didn’t fit into a group for someone of color or who identified as LBTGQ the only remaining group left was “white accountability”. What kind of name is that? We as parents are horrified. We attend lots of unconscious bias training for our careers. We are not segregated at those trainings. SMH.

This is the kind of info I needed to know to assess the school. Doesn't seem like a good fit for us. When you gave your feedback to the administration, how was it received?

Since when is Catholic School down with LBTGQ? No complaining but they don't sound like a Catholic SC.

Anonymous wrote:Our upper school daughter was told she had to “pick a group” to join. When she didn’t fit into a group for someone of color or who identified as LBTGQ the only remaining group left was “white accountability”. What kind of name is that? We as parents are horrified. We attend lots of unconscious bias training for our careers. We are not segregated at those trainings. SMH.

Wow. This is not ok.

Our upper school daughter was told she had to “pick a group” to join. When she didn’t fit into a group for someone of color or who identified as LBTGQ the only remaining group left was “white accountability”. What kind of name is that? We as parents are horrified. We attend lots of unconscious bias training for our careers. We are not segregated at those trainings. SMH.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are happy overall but not thrilled about the amount of DEI stuff and at times more than a little troubled by it. But every school has to be considered as a total picture. I also wonder about what the future will hold. Will schools like SR dial it back due to parent concerns, and will others jump on the bandwagon? It is all hard to determine. I would say look at a school whose educational program is a good fit for your child. Because DD entered in high school, the considerations were clearer for us.

Thanks. We are going to pass. Hopefully they will get it together quickly. Just not quite quick enough for us. There are too many options without this controversy. It is stupid to jump in a dirty pool for $45000/year. Good luck to those stuck navigating this mess. I truly am sorry you are dealing with this.

Thanks - although as a parent of a new 9th grader, there's really no mess to navigate and we and our daughter are enjoying the school. If you are relying on this DCUM thread as your information about the school's DEI efforts, you are really getting a skewed picture by a few folks who are bothered by it.