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Anonymous wrote:Your August girl is going to feel really stupid in middle school when the girls with her same birthday are a year ahead. Be careful.

Curious why you think that—I don’t think I’ve seen any evidence that younger kids stay behind for long.

Anecdotal, but I was an Oct. bday, so pretty young. I can’t think of any way being younger affected me negatively. I had friends, was in G&T, scored well on standardized tests/SATs, etc. Why would I assume my Sept. bday child would fare poorly when I didn’t? She started on time and is doing well several years in?

I think the person you’re quoting meant the girl will feel dumb if she’s held back and there are kids with her same bday a grade ahead

Exactly. She turns 15 on the same day as a girl in the grade above her. Not a good look.

But there would be kids born just a couple weeks after her in the same grade, most likely in addition to other redshirt kids

To the OP: We seriously considered redshirting my late august DD and I drove myself nuts reading research supporting both sides. The last article I read was anti-redshirting saying that holding back a child wasn't helpful academically--I don't remember exactly what they said, but it somehow stuck in my mind that I would be doing my daughter a disservice academically. In preK my daughter was smart, but always the smallest in her cohort, shy, timid and easily overpowered by her bossier classmates. I feared for her ability to handle the social aspect of school and to make friends. She is now in 3rd grade and continues to excel in public school, is being considered for the gifted program, and is achieving in a competitive sport. However, she is still the smallest in her class (but not the youngest!), still easily overrun by her louder classmates and has not managed to make many friends. I don't regret our decision and my feeling is that even if we held her back, she would still struggle with making friends and her self confidence. If I was a different kind of mom--one who could commit to providing educational activities at home or who was willing to put my daughter in a very good full day preschool or even a private school, then I probably would have felt fine redshirting. To add to this, I am also a late august birthday and was also always the smallest and youngest in my class, but I excelled academically and was always quiet and socially awkward. I suffered no lasting trauma and even survived middle school relatively unscathed! I eventually found my way and turned out just fine. Good luck deciding!

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Anonymous wrote:Omg, another epic post where people weigh in with vehement opinions on other people’s lives.
So pathetic!

It's really only the anti-redshirt posters who fall into that bucket. Though they do tend to pitch a fit when their hypocrisy is observed and commented on.

Actually it’s the opposite. Your lack of faith in your kid’s ability means my six-year-old is in class with your eight-year-old. Believe me the second graders are absolutely talking about the kids who are “way too old.”

Is it too much to ask for basic math skills in these posts?

My son who turned seven in September started second grade at 6 with a classmate who was 8.

I know a number of kids turning nine in May or June. In 2nd grade class with classmates who are seven until later in the summer.

Just prentice in the part of the parents, and the kids are talking.

That should say pathetic on the part of the parents.

Yep or all summer like my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Your August girl is going to feel really stupid in middle school when the girls with her same birthday are a year ahead. Be careful.

Curious why you think that—I don’t think I’ve seen any evidence that younger kids stay behind for long.

Anecdotal, but I was an Oct. bday, so pretty young. I can’t think of any way being younger affected me negatively. I had friends, was in G&T, scored well on standardized tests/SATs, etc. Why would I assume my Sept. bday child would fare poorly when I didn’t? She started on time and is doing well several years in?

I think the person you’re quoting meant the girl will feel dumb if she’s held back and there are kids with her same bday a grade ahead

Exactly. She turns 15 on the same day as a girl in the grade above her. Not a good look.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg, another epic post where people weigh in with vehement opinions on other people’s lives.
So pathetic!

It's really only the anti-redshirt posters who fall into that bucket. Though they do tend to pitch a fit when their hypocrisy is observed and commented on.

Actually it’s the opposite. Your lack of faith in your kid’s ability means my six-year-old is in class with your eight-year-old. Believe me the second graders are absolutely talking about the kids who are “way too old.”

Is it too much to ask for basic math skills in these posts?

My son who turned seven in September started second grade at 6 with a classmate who was 8.

I know a number of kids turning nine in May or June. In 2nd grade class with classmates who are seven until later in the summer.

Just prentice in the part of the parents, and the kids are talking.

That should say pathetic on the part of the parents.

We did not because she was ready. DD is now in middle school and the youngest in her class. She is in private. Socially fine and academically 4.0 GPA and way above grade level according to standardized test scores. No regrets and she can do a gap year and still be on track for college graduation.

BFF has late August DS. They sent him to school on time but decided to repeat K due to social skills.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg, another epic post where people weigh in with vehement opinions on other people’s lives.
So pathetic!

It's really only the anti-redshirt posters who fall into that bucket. Though they do tend to pitch a fit when their hypocrisy is observed and commented on.

Actually it’s the opposite. Your lack of faith in your kid’s ability means my six-year-old is in class with your eight-year-old. Believe me the second graders are absolutely talking about the kids who are “way too old.”

Is it too much to ask for basic math skills in these posts?

My son who turned seven in September started second grade at 6 with a classmate who was 8.

I know a number of kids turning nine in May or June. In 2nd grade class with classmates who are seven until later in the summer.

Just prentice in the part of the parents, and the kids are talking.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg, another epic post where people weigh in with vehement opinions on other people’s lives.
So pathetic!

It's really only the anti-redshirt posters who fall into that bucket. Though they do tend to pitch a fit when their hypocrisy is observed and commented on.

Actually it’s the opposite. Your lack of faith in your kid’s ability means my six-year-old is in class with your eight-year-old. Believe me the second graders are absolutely talking about the kids who are “way too old.”

Is it too much to ask for basic math skills in these posts?

My son who turned seven in September started second grade at 6 with a classmate who was 8.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg, another epic post where people weigh in with vehement opinions on other people’s lives.
So pathetic!

It's really only the anti-redshirt posters who fall into that bucket. Though they do tend to pitch a fit when their hypocrisy is observed and commented on.

“I didn’t redshirt, though.”

It’s so odd for anyone in general to be rabidly pro redshirting. One of my BFFs has a child who is the literal youngest in an insanely competitive school. And they didn’t opt for it. There are other ways to go about life.

People aren't rabidly pro-redshirting. What they are want, at most, is a proocess where there aren't rigid cutoffs and there is greater parental discretion. It's the anti-redshirts that are rabid on DCUM, all without any real evidence to back their positions.

I didn't redshirt. But I find the topic interesting, and follow the discussions, such as they are.

There are no rabid pro redshirters bc the red-shirting parents don’t want everyone to redshirt. Then they’d be in the same boat as if they didn’t redshirt their kid.

+1

Despite what they claim, this is all absolutely about having their child be one of the strongest (or at least not the weakest), relatively speaking. They cheat to try to ensure that there will always be kids below their own. It’s disgusting.

My sister graduated HS at 17. It was fine. I'm not redshirting my Sept birthday boy.

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Anonymous wrote:Your August girl is going to feel really stupid in middle school when the girls with her same birthday are a year ahead. Be careful.

Curious why you think that—I don’t think I’ve seen any evidence that younger kids stay behind for long.

Anecdotal, but I was an Oct. bday, so pretty young. I can’t think of any way being younger affected me negatively. I had friends, was in G&T, scored well on standardized tests/SATs, etc. Why would I assume my Sept. bday child would fare poorly when I didn’t? She started on time and is doing well several years in?

What was the cutoff back then? We are talking about an August birthday/September 1 cutoff here

Right, but I was even younger and still did fine. I’m saying it’s possible that young kids do fine, and isn’t always the catastrophe that some people seem to be worried about here.

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Anonymous wrote:Your August girl is going to feel really stupid in middle school when the girls with her same birthday are a year ahead. Be careful.

Curious why you think that—I don’t think I’ve seen any evidence that younger kids stay behind for long.

Anecdotal, but I was an Oct. bday, so pretty young. I can’t think of any way being younger affected me negatively. I had friends, was in G&T, scored well on standardized tests/SATs, etc. Why would I assume my Sept. bday child would fare poorly when I didn’t? She started on time and is doing well several years in?

Whoops, didn’t mean to put a ? at the end.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg, another epic post where people weigh in with vehement opinions on other people’s lives.
So pathetic!

It's really only the anti-redshirt posters who fall into that bucket. Though they do tend to pitch a fit when their hypocrisy is observed and commented on.

Actually it’s the opposite. Your lack of faith in your kid’s ability means my six-year-old is in class with your eight-year-old. Believe me the second graders are absolutely talking about the kids who are “way too old.”

Is it too much to ask for basic math skills in these posts?

Apparently

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg, another epic post where people weigh in with vehement opinions on other people’s lives.
So pathetic!

It's really only the anti-redshirt posters who fall into that bucket. Though they do tend to pitch a fit when their hypocrisy is observed and commented on.

Actually it’s the opposite. Your lack of faith in your kid’s ability means my six-year-old is in class with your eight-year-old. Believe me the second graders are absolutely talking about the kids who are “way too old.”

Is it too much to ask for basic math skills in these posts?

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Anonymous wrote:Your August girl is going to feel really stupid in middle school when the girls with her same birthday are a year ahead. Be careful.

Curious why you think that—I don’t think I’ve seen any evidence that younger kids stay behind for long.

Anecdotal, but I was an Oct. bday, so pretty young. I can’t think of any way being younger affected me negatively. I had friends, was in G&T, scored well on standardized tests/SATs, etc. Why would I assume my Sept. bday child would fare poorly when I didn’t? She started on time and is doing well several years in?

What was the cutoff back then? We are talking about an August birthday/September 1 cutoff here