Anonymous
Post 11/27/2016 14:02     Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Im an attractive woman (let's say a solid 8) who has slept with about 35 men. (I mention attractiveness only because someone above suggested that only ugly women have high numbers lol).

Met my DH at 26.

I just love sex, today and in the past. I value monogamy and my DH is amazing, but I had a good time before I met him and I don't regret it whatsoever.

Contrary to the popular stereotype, I also didn't "settle" for my DH after a bunch of random sex with non-committal guys.

DH was simply the first person I met who I was insanely attracted to AND wanted to spend the rest of my life with.



you'll be cheating within a year. Leopards don't change spots.


Lol just came back to this thread and saw it. I have been married happily for 6, so your cheating prediction is off. And no, I won't be cheating, because I value monogamy and building a family, things that weren't on my agenda in my early 20's. Was there nothing that you did when you were young and free that don't fit into your long term life plan?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2016 03:16     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Has anyone slept with a man who was trangender and eventually became a woman? How do you count that?
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 23:29     Subject: How many men have you slept with?
14. Then I met DH. Been with him for 25 years now.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 23:21     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.


Be careful. Guys will think they can put the WHAM on you and get you dickmatized. And one might be able to if you don't always keep the upper hand and control of your emotions. Don't tell them you are a virgin.


I try not to tell them that I'm a virgin, but they always ask by the 3rd date. Do you think I should lie about it?

I'm not sure what it is about me that screams virgin.....


Tell them you are saving yourself for marriage. You don't have to mean it, you are testing the reaction. Or just give a vague answer like "I'm open sexually" or "sex is an experience and a journey." Then change the subject.


Lol. Yeah that's pretty vague. I like "sex is an experience and a journey." I'll use that on the next guy I date. Thanks.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 23:12     Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Slept with 2 men and 35-40 women. I am in my late 20s and engaged to a woman.


Does she know about the men you slept with?


Yes of course. She has slept with men too. Not a big deal for either of us.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 22:45     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.


Be careful. Guys will think they can put the WHAM on you and get you dickmatized. And one might be able to if you don't always keep the upper hand and control of your emotions. Don't tell them you are a virgin.


I try not to tell them that I'm a virgin, but they always ask by the 3rd date. Do you think I should lie about it?

I'm not sure what it is about me that screams virgin.....


Wow. I can't imagine this coming up in conversation on a date. The fact it does says there is something wrong and this is probably the reason you're single. You should try and figure it out asap and address.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 22:24     Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Three.

Met DH at 23. Married for almost 15 years.

The first was my HS/college boyfriend. We dated for almost 2 years before having sex.

The second was my best guy friend from high school. Happened after the HS/college boyfriend and I broke up. I was very drunk. So was he. It was terrible. He and I both felt like shit afterwards. Yes. I regret it.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 20:44     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.


Be careful. Guys will think they can put the WHAM on you and get you dickmatized. And one might be able to if you don't always keep the upper hand and control of your emotions. Don't tell them you are a virgin.


I try not to tell them that I'm a virgin, but they always ask by the 3rd date. Do you think I should lie about it?

I'm not sure what it is about me that screams virgin.....


Tell them you are saving yourself for marriage. You don't have to mean it, you are testing the reaction. Or just give a vague answer like "I'm open sexually" or "sex is an experience and a journey." Then change the subject.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 20:28     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.


I was a 22 year old virgin. I ended up finding a really hot guy who treated me super well, getting him to girlfriend me, and sleeping with him. This happened within about a month. It was great. He was really respectful, SUPER hot (like male model status) and kind of dumb. I dumped him a little while after because I always knew I just wanted the perfect, respectful person to "lose it to" who wouldn't break my heart or make me feel crazy strong emotions.

I would highly recommend this strategy if you are looking to just get rid of it. I feel like the guy is going to be much more caring and respectful if he is your BF rather than a random you meet off tinder or in a bar, and over the dating process you have the opportunity to make sure he's not some psycho or into S&M and gets off on the idea of you being in pain or some horrible BS (this is important because my first time hurt SO BAD and I needed someone who would retreat and be patient with me)

So, yeah. Good luck. I didn't tell him a virgin till a bit before we had sex, when he was wondering why we had waited so long, and I also think that was a good strategy. Keeps away the creeps who are after a virgin and yet gives him time to adjust to the idea that he's going to have to walk you through it, be gentle, all the stuff you need on your first time

And it was really NBD. Don't let me scare you away- I'm just saying I'm glad I orchestrated all that because it is your first time and you want it to go smoothly- and mine went perfectly.


I totally agree, and I plan on holding out until I get into a serious monogamist relationship. Many thanks for your input. I think I'll take your route about not disclosing that I am a virgin until we are about to have sex.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 20:20     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.


I was a 22 year old virgin. I ended up finding a really hot guy who treated me super well, getting him to girlfriend me, and sleeping with him. This happened within about a month. It was great. He was really respectful, SUPER hot (like male model status) and kind of dumb. I dumped him a little while after because I always knew I just wanted the perfect, respectful person to "lose it to" who wouldn't break my heart or make me feel crazy strong emotions.

I would highly recommend this strategy if you are looking to just get rid of it. I feel like the guy is going to be much more caring and respectful if he is your BF rather than a random you meet off tinder or in a bar, and over the dating process you have the opportunity to make sure he's not some psycho or into S&M and gets off on the idea of you being in pain or some horrible BS (this is important because my first time hurt SO BAD and I needed someone who would retreat and be patient with me)

So, yeah. Good luck. I didn't tell him a virgin till a bit before we had sex, when he was wondering why we had waited so long, and I also think that was a good strategy. Keeps away the creeps who are after a virgin and yet gives him time to adjust to the idea that he's going to have to walk you through it, be gentle, all the stuff you need on your first time

And it was really NBD. Don't let me scare you away- I'm just saying I'm glad I orchestrated all that because it is your first time and you want it to go smoothly- and mine went perfectly.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 20:20     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.


Be careful. Guys will think they can put the WHAM on you and get you dickmatized. And one might be able to if you don't always keep the upper hand and control of your emotions. Don't tell them you are a virgin.


I try not to tell them that I'm a virgin, but they always ask by the 3rd date. Do you think I should lie about it?

I'm not sure what it is about me that screams virgin.....
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 20:13     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.


Be careful. Guys will think they can put the WHAM on you and get you dickmatized. And one might be able to if you don't always keep the upper hand and control of your emotions. Don't tell them you are a virgin.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 20:10     Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 20:03     Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Around 20, maybe 25. I married at 29 then divorced. I suspect a lot of women are afraid to admit their real number, but it's whatever. As long as you have a clean bill of health, I feel it's irrelevant.


It's certainly relevant on the sluttiness scale.





Lmao! I'm literally in tears right now. Thanks for making my day.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2016 19:31     Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Two. Met DH at 24, married him at 28. We broke up for awhile, but being a bit lazy and uptight, I went back to the one other man I slept with before him during that time.