I generally hear "bitch" being used as a verb. I *rarely* hear men calling women bitches: men often call other men bitches instead.

Anonymous wrote:As an adult man, I just want to ask who are these guys who use the word "bitch" so frequently? No men I know ever use this word in conversation.

I gotta say using the word "bitch" seems really weak and immature to me. Am I alone in this?

Guy here--

I usually use the word "bitch" in terms of whining. "Stop your bitching," for example. I rarely, if ever, use it in terms of a woman. Unless she really deserves it.

As an adult man, I just want to ask who are these guys who use the word "bitch" so frequently? No men I know ever use this word in conversation.

I gotta say using the word "bitch" seems really weak and immature to me. Am I alone in this?

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Anonymous wrote:Beautiful women never, ever have trouble finding men. 'Cause they're beautiful. Some unattractive women have trouble finding men though.

When an attractive woman says that she can't find a man, what she really means is that she finds plenty of men... undesirable.

Virtually all attractive women get hit on constantly. The youthful dating experience is completely different for men and women.

Women hold most cards in dating.

Only if they're attractive. Ugly women post on DCUM about why they can't find men in DC.

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Marriage is a financial liability to men, that's my point.

How so? I make more than my husband. It's only a liability if they marry a low earner or a SAHW.

A blind squirrel finds a nut once in a while. There's an exception to every rule.

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Beautiful women never, ever have trouble finding men. 'Cause they're beautiful. Some unattractive women have trouble finding men though.


When an attractive woman says that she can't find a man, what she really means is that she finds plenty of men... undesirable.

Virtually all attractive women get hit on constantly. The youthful dating experience is completely different for men and women.


Women hold most cards in dating.

When they are under 30, after that it switches.

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Anonymous wrote:Beautiful women never, ever have trouble finding men. 'Cause they're beautiful. Some unattractive women have trouble finding men though.

When an attractive woman says that she can't find a man, what she really means is that she finds plenty of men... undesirable.

Virtually all attractive women get hit on constantly. The youthful dating experience is completely different for men and women.

Women hold most cards in dating.

It continues to boggle my mind that women can live on this Earth for 30-40 years and STILL not understand that men are not attracted to the same exact qualities that women are. If you're "hyperdriven" and "ambitious" as a woman you better compensate with a toned body and some cooking skills.

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Anonymous wrote:Mid 30's single professional guy here (though I'm in NYC - I know I'm not the only one here). As others stated, we really don't care how "successful" you are at your jobs. It's not really a negative for me, but might be for other guys. Most smart guys, though, DO want a smart and educated woman, just not one that uses her job to act superior to others. A B.A. from a decent school is quite enough - if you have a Harvard JD or MBA that's cool with me - but it doesn't make you more attractive. Being in good shape, fun, and nice do.

Yep. Once I learned this I found my spouse. He is happy I'm smart and I think he appreciates the income I bring home a little too much. That being said, we have a great time together and he's attracted to me. I love to cook for him, have sex, dress up for him to go out, decorate our home and plan our social life. I'm sure he appreciates these things a lot more than my career success.

The problem is that I don't really want to fit his idea of "fun and nice." I just want to be me, the hyper driven, educated, ambitious me. Oh well.

So find a guy whose idea of fun and nice is the same as yours. I'm hyper driven, educated, and ambitious, and married. So are many, many other women in the DC area.

Exactly. I'm the PP. Sorry but most men aren't going to ask you out because you're "driven." Instead, they will be drawn to your personality and your looks. Not to mention there are sooooo many smart and educated women in DC. I doubt the men you've been going on dates with have been previously dating women without solid careers or am education. Your looks and personality are what stand out. Sorry but if you aren't nice and fun - men won't be interested. Would you want to date a man that isn't nice and fun? You prefer a mean man that's a drag?

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Anonymous wrote:Mid 30's single professional guy here (though I'm in NYC - I know I'm not the only one here). As others stated, we really don't care how "successful" you are at your jobs. It's not really a negative for me, but might be for other guys. Most smart guys, though, DO want a smart and educated woman, just not one that uses her job to act superior to others. A B.A. from a decent school is quite enough - if you have a Harvard JD or MBA that's cool with me - but it doesn't make you more attractive. Being in good shape, fun, and nice do.

Yep. Once I learned this I found my spouse. He is happy I'm smart and I think he appreciates the income I bring home a little too much. That being said, we have a great time together and he's attracted to me. I love to cook for him, have sex, dress up for him to go out, decorate our home and plan our social life. I'm sure he appreciates these things a lot more than my career success.

The problem is that I don't really want to fit his idea of "fun and nice." I just want to be me, the hyper driven, educated, ambitious me. Oh well.

So find a guy whose idea of fun and nice is the same as yours. I'm hyper driven, educated, and ambitious, and married. So are many, many other women in the DC area.

Truly beautiful women get hit on all day every day by many different types of men - Young ones, old ones, rich ones, poor ones, smart ones, dumb ones. Those truly beautiful women can pick from the largest pool of men. They can always find a desirable man. The less attractive a woman is, the smaller the pool is that she gets to choose from. If a woman thinks she's beautiful but only attracts men that she finds undesirable, she's not truly beautiful. The less beautiful tend to attract people of similar attractiveness. Sorry OP. You and your friends need to reassess. You'll be fine. Ugly blue-collar guys can be very cool.

Anonymous wrote:Beautiful women never, ever have trouble finding men. 'Cause they're beautiful. Some unattractive women have trouble finding men though.

When an attractive woman says that she can't find a man, what she really means is that she finds plenty of men... undesirable.

Virtually all attractive women get hit on constantly. The youthful dating experience is completely different for men and women.

Beautiful women never, ever have trouble finding men. 'Cause they're beautiful. Some unattractive women have trouble finding men though.

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Anonymous wrote:Single guy in late 20's here - was out in seattle and portland - you dc girls crush your competition out there.

even just browse on okc - the 6-8 on the attractiveness scale, hyper-educated, driven, ambitious group of women are a dime a dozen around here - there is a real paucity of your type out in the pacnw.

As a sociological tool, okc is super interesting - just browsing different cities on it, you start to get an idea of the distribution of the type of women in a particular area.

These aren't really positives in a woman.

PP you quoted. not a positive or a negative - jut saying there's too many of a certain 'type' here and not enough out there. variety would help the dating pool.

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

Must not be as beautiful as you think