"As someone with a "career" even I understand that not everyone is definied in life by their "career" or what school they attended. "

So your mom is defined by her kids? Hobbies? Volunteer work? What? And my career means much more to me than just taking care of my kids financially.

Have them when you are 20, out of the house when you are 40
Then go and travel the world

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Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 26 and third at 31. I feel like it was exactly the wrong timing! My parents had kids young. I was the youngest of three and my mom was 23 when I was born. DH was 34 when our first was born. so, DH had his 20s to spend money, travel, build his career. My parents were empty-nesters when they were in their 40s, so they were still young and energetic for many years and had the time of their lives. As for me, I had just started out in my career when I quit working to stay home with my kids. by the time we get our kids through college, I will be in my mid 50s. Also, this sounds stupid, but DH being older than me makes me feel older somehow. I'm 37, but I feel like I'm 44 by marriage! Lol!

But your mother obviously didn't go to college or have a career. What's so great for her about having had 3 kids by age 23 and being an empty nester in her 40s? What did she do with her life after that point?

As someone with a "career" even I understand that not everyone is definied in life by their "career" or what school they attended.

I hope you gain happiness in life out of something other than the diploma you have on the wall and the name on the top of your office building. Even as a "career" mom, my greatest happiness, accomplishment, and satisfaction I get out of life is my children. I love every second of being a mom-even the hard parts. All a "career" affords me is the comfort in knowing that my kids are well taken care of and have the best that money can buy.

Oh, and if I were an empty nester in my 40s, I could find pleanty of things to do in my life to make it meaningful, career or not. You do not stop being a mom, when the children leave home. I'm very close to my young mom and talk to her daily. She is a huge part of my life and for that I'm forever grateful. She has no "career", but her life is full. Probably fuller than yours ever will be with that sour attitude of yours.

Anonymous wrote:Exaclty
High powered career women have kids that are raised by nannies
Why have a kid at all?

Spoken like someone with a GED who doesn't know any women with high powered careers.

Anonymous wrote:Just admit it, young mothers are more fun, energetic, playful and have more patience
Old mothers are career orientated and kids are brought up by the nanny and household servants
Old fathers are not that interested in what interests a 5 year old
A boy in senior year in high school had a father who was retired. He did not really like it, but that was just how it was

Totally wrong. I have much more patience at 45 than I did at 35. I know "orientated" is not a word.

Exaclty
High powered career women have kids that are raised by nannies
Why have a kid at all?

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Anonymous wrote:What is crazy about that? I am TTC as a single 40plus person w/ no luck so far. Wish I had frozen my eggs.

Why did you wait until 40+? Why not 35? I hope you have a strong support system in place. While none of us are promised tomorrow, I think you're being a bit unfair to your child.

Why would an older mom not have more of a support system than a younger mom? She's had more years to build connections.

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 26 and third at 31. I feel like it was exactly the wrong timing! My parents had kids young. I was the youngest of three and my mom was 23 when I was born. DH was 34 when our first was born. so, DH had his 20s to spend money, travel, build his career. My parents were empty-nesters when they were in their 40s, so they were still young and energetic for many years and had the time of their lives. As for me, I had just started out in my career when I quit working to stay home with my kids. by the time we get our kids through college, I will be in my mid 50s. Also, this sounds stupid, but DH being older than me makes me feel older somehow. I'm 37, but I feel like I'm 44 by marriage! Lol!

But your mother obviously didn't go to college or have a career. What's so great for her about having had 3 kids by age 23 and being an empty nester in her 40s? What did she do with her life after that point?

"Why do you assume that most women want high-powered careers? I don't, BUT if I do, I'd much rather do it later when my kids are out of the home rather than trying to do it while shuffling child care. "

I can tell from this post that you don't have a high powered career. Do you really think most SAHMs who don't start their careers until they are in their 40s suddenly get high powered jobs? It's too late to wait until your youngest child is 18 to start a high powered career.

And I don't understand your comment about "shuffling child care." We had the same nanny for over 10 years. Shrug.

Anonymous wrote:Just admit it, young mothers are more fun, energetic, playful and have more patience
Old mothers are career orientated and kids are brought up by the nanny and household servants
Old fathers are not that interested in what interests a 5 year old
A boy in senior year in high school had a father who was retired. He did not really like it, but that was just how it was

If that's how you feel, then that's how you feel. But don't assume you're right or that anyone agrees with anything you say.

Just admit it, young mothers are more fun, energetic, playful and have more patience
Old mothers are career orientated and kids are brought up by the nanny and household servants
Old fathers are not that interested in what interests a 5 year old
A boy in senior year in high school had a father who was retired. He did not really like it, but that was just how it was

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Anonymous wrote:Who needs an MBA to be a mother?

Maybe some 40 year old nuerotic with a child care manual in the armpit
You really do look ridiculous when you read and do everything according to the manual

Do you ever have the energy to take the kids to the park to play and kick a ball with them?

sure

At 45, I leave work at 11. (I work PT.), take an hour-long walk, and then pick up my 3 yo from preschool. We either go to the playground at my daughter's school, take a walk around the neighborhood or I have him jump around in our moon bounce. Then we pick up my daughter and either stay at the playground a little longer or head home to ride bikes if the weather is nice.

Sweetie, we WROTE the manuals, btw. So there's no need for us to read them.

You wrote the manual, yet you've not yet learned how to master properly quoting someone. Based on the many posts in the General Parenting forum, there are plenty of clueless 40+ Moms in the DC area.

This is the best you can do?

I know how to use the quote function. However, posting from an iPhone can sometimes be tricky.

I can't wait until you "young ones" reach 40. With your attitudes, you may as well plan your suicide on your 39th birthday. And I doubt anyone would miss your presence.

NP here, telling someone that they should, or might as well, commit suicide is never cool at any time. Please reflect on this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who needs an MBA to be a mother?

Maybe some 40 year old nuerotic with a child care manual in the armpit
You really do look ridiculous when you read and do everything according to the manual

Do you ever have the energy to take the kids to the park to play and kick a ball with them?

sure

At 45, I leave work at 11. (I work PT.), take an hour-long walk, and then pick up my 3 yo from preschool. We either go to the playground at my daughter's school, take a walk around the neighborhood or I have him jump around in our moon bounce. Then we pick up my daughter and either stay at the playground a little longer or head home to ride bikes if the weather is nice.

Sweetie, we WROTE the manuals, btw. So there's no need for us to read them.

You wrote the manual, yet you've not yet learned how to master properly quoting someone. Based on the many posts in the General Parenting forum, there are plenty of clueless 40+ Moms in the DC area.

This is the best you can do?

I know how to use the quote function. However, posting from an iPhone can sometimes be tricky.

I can't wait until you "young ones" reach 40. With your attitudes, you may as well plan your suicide on your 39th birthday. And I doubt anyone would miss your presence.

^^^And yes I know how to spell before some wannabe English teacher attacks my last post.lol You got my point.

Since when do you need to be upper middle class to be a good parent? I bet many of you asking how much other moms are earning had mothers and grandmothers who didnt have 2 years of savings prior to procreating.

How about you be blessed that you were able to parent at all at whatever age? If you feel the need to put down another woman's situation because its different, you probably arent totally happy with your own. Lie to us and say your better, but don't lie to yourself. This is anonymous remember, so who cares?