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Sextriggered is not the same things as sexually transmitted. The difference matters, especially for public health. The former does not have carriers that can be treated to stop spread, because there is no spread. It's not an infectious microbe that moves from person to person.

Sex triggered infections are infections that are more prone to develop after sex, but are not being transmitted from another infected person. They are being triggered by sex with someone who is not themselves infected, but for whom interaction with makes changes in the first person that increases likelihood of infection.

Sex triggered UTI is a classic case -- generally, it's the person's own fecal bacteria that populate in the urinary system, whether because of very fluid-filled and vigorous sex that wicks bacteria from the anus, or from something like vaginal sex after anal sex with the penis carrying the bacteria. HOWEVER, treating the man in this example with antibiotics doesn't prevent anything, because he himself is not actually infected. There is no transmission, just a trigger.

Sexually transmitted infections are when an person infected with a microbe has sex with another person, and that sexual contact moves the infection from the one person to the other. Gonorrhea is a classic example.

In the case of actual [b]transmission[/i], treating the infected partner prevents the spread, because once treated, the microbe cannot move from one person to the other.

Fecal bacteria can absolutely enter penis and be in his semen if he has unprotected anal a lot

Listen, if you get a UTI how are you going to know it’s from fecal matter from your partner having anal sex? Genuine question. And if you are so sure that is what he did to cause it then you probably have bigger issues to discuss than if you should use a condom during sex or not.

I definitely started getting UTIs when my exH cheated. Never had it prior, even though we were intimate. When men are not exclusive with women and don't use protection, it transfers infections. Just like in thresomes - infections like BV can be transferred from female to female

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Anonymous wrote:
Sextriggered is not the same things as sexually transmitted. The difference matters, especially for public health. The former does not have carriers that can be treated to stop spread, because there is no spread. It's not an infectious microbe that moves from person to person.

Sex triggered infections are infections that are more prone to develop after sex, but are not being transmitted from another infected person. They are being triggered by sex with someone who is not themselves infected, but for whom interaction with makes changes in the first person that increases likelihood of infection.

Sex triggered UTI is a classic case -- generally, it's the person's own fecal bacteria that populate in the urinary system, whether because of very fluid-filled and vigorous sex that wicks bacteria from the anus, or from something like vaginal sex after anal sex with the penis carrying the bacteria. HOWEVER, treating the man in this example with antibiotics doesn't prevent anything, because he himself is not actually infected. There is no transmission, just a trigger.

Sexually transmitted infections are when an person infected with a microbe has sex with another person, and that sexual contact moves the infection from the one person to the other. Gonorrhea is a classic example.

In the case of actual [b]transmission[/i], treating the infected partner prevents the spread, because once treated, the microbe cannot move from one person to the other.

Fecal bacteria can absolutely enter penis and be in his semen if he has unprotected anal a lot

Listen, if you get a UTI how are you going to know it’s from fecal matter from your partner having anal sex? Genuine question. And if you are so sure that is what he did to cause it then you probably have bigger issues to discuss than if you should use a condom during sex or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread got derailed.

Middle-aged man here, who has the snip. I get regularly tested, like every few months. Every middle-aged woman I've been with lately is fine with not using a condom. I also evaluate my risk, so for example I like dating someone in health care as they get tested regularly for all kinds of stuff as part of their job; and also there's some women who haven't been with someone in a long time including since their last test. Then for single mothers, they get tested as part of pregnancy so if she's not had sex since then, she's likely to be clean.

Yes, people can lie about this. For me, it's a risk I'm willing to take after evaluating the level of risk. It's more enjoyable without a condom.

How often do YOU get tested?

I get tested every couple months.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread got derailed.

Middle-aged man here, who has the snip. I get regularly tested, like every few months. Every middle-aged woman I've been with lately is fine with not using a condom. I also evaluate my risk, so for example I like dating someone in health care as they get tested regularly for all kinds of stuff as part of their job; and also there's some women who haven't been with someone in a long time including since their last test. Then for single mothers, they get tested as part of pregnancy so if she's not had sex since then, she's likely to be clean.

Yes, people can lie about this. For me, it's a risk I'm willing to take after evaluating the level of risk. It's more enjoyable without a condom.

How often do YOU get tested?

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t have sex after 50. This is gross. You are acting like a teenager.

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t have sex after 50. This is gross. You are acting like a teenager.

Anonymous wrote:I have never had a man refuse to wear a condom. If they do, then I am not sleeping with them.

Anonymous wrote:"The bottom line of this thread seems to be that dating after 50 is a real minefield with an STI lurking behind every corner. Therefore, women must have the confidence to demand that their dates practice safe sex, but not have the confidence to post their pictures on DCUM."

Nicely stated.

Fecal bacteria can absolutely enter penis

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Anonymous wrote:
Sextriggered is not the same things as sexually transmitted. The difference matters, especially for public health. The former does not have carriers that can be treated to stop spread, because there is no spread. It's not an infectious microbe that moves from person to person.

Sex triggered infections are infections that are more prone to develop after sex, but are not being transmitted from another infected person. They are being triggered by sex with someone who is not themselves infected, but for whom interaction with makes changes in the first person that increases likelihood of infection.

Sex triggered UTI is a classic case -- generally, it's the person's own fecal bacteria that populate in the urinary system, whether because of very fluid-filled and vigorous sex that wicks bacteria from the anus, or from something like vaginal sex after anal sex with the penis carrying the bacteria. HOWEVER, treating the man in this example with antibiotics doesn't prevent anything, because he himself is not actually infected. There is no transmission, just a trigger.

Sexually transmitted infections are when an person infected with a microbe has sex with another person, and that sexual contact moves the infection from the one person to the other. Gonorrhea is a classic example.

In the case of actual [b]transmission[/i], treating the infected partner prevents the spread, because once treated, the microbe cannot move from one person to the other.

Fecal bacteria can absolutely enter penis and be in his semen if he has unprotected anal a lot