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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

Well they could’ve rushed and be at bid day today if they didn’t have some particular pre conceived notion of where they belonged.

Maybe they were not familiar with greek life (I wasn't when I was a freshman). I didn't really know what it was. I also didn't think, once i found out, I could afford it. There are lots of reasons people may not have rushed beyond the "preconceived notion" of the poor, oppressed sororities.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

Well they could’ve rushed and be at bid day today if they didn’t have some particular pre conceived notion of where they belonged.

Anonymous wrote:Please, what is COB? I am new to all things Greek.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Anonymous wrote:I was a DDD at a private T20 college. So curious how it compares to UVA!

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll give UVA this - their top tier ain’t about looks, it’s about money. There are cute, fun, brilliant girls in most of the houses.

Is it still the case that the DDD and St Elmo’s are mostly if not all the private school kids? Used to be the case so talking “top tier” was different depending on whether coming from private or not private as not private would not even consider or be considered by certain sororities/fraternities.

I just looked at their Instagram (yes I’m bored) and it appears that many of the girls in DDD are from out of state - places like Austin, Charleston, NYC, Newport Beach, Palm Beach. So, yes, I would say they appear to be of a certain demographic.

Wow i was a tridelt there over 20 years ago and it wasn’t like that. If anything it was more of a laid back/hippie vibe

Beautiful, wealthy and popular is the stereotype according to my son’s friends there.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll give UVA this - their top tier ain’t about looks, it’s about money. There are cute, fun, brilliant girls in most of the houses.

Is it still the case that the DDD and St Elmo’s are mostly if not all the private school kids? Used to be the case so talking “top tier” was different depending on whether coming from private or not private as not private would not even consider or be considered by certain sororities/fraternities.

I just looked at their Instagram (yes I’m bored) and it appears that many of the girls in DDD are from out of state - places like Austin, Charleston, NYC, Newport Beach, Palm Beach. So, yes, I would say they appear to be of a certain demographic.

Wow i was a tridelt there over 20 years ago and it wasn’t like that. If anything it was more of a laid back/hippie vibe