Most if not all my friends would prefer to stay home and do hobbies.

Please dont have kids just for someone to care for you when you get old.

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Anonymous wrote:How many millennial men are willing & able to (a) be the sole provider so their wives can SAHM, or (b) take on 50% of house and kid responsibilities so their wives can also have a career? I guess option (c) is the men can SAHD but very few women are actually interested in that setup. There is your answer.

I’m not sure if they are 50/50 but they do much more.

I’d say few are interested in (a) or (c)

Many are interested in (a) they're just afraid to say it out loud and be deemed unfeminist.

+1

Our UMC suburb (in a MCOL area- which is key) is 50% SAHMs. That includes families where all the kids are in school FT. Most have 2-3 kids, we know a few with 4 and a few with 1.

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Anonymous wrote:Our system isn't set up for disabled, childless, family less adults. It'll be interesting to see how that all plays out.

and our current system is also not set up to support pregnant women, postpartum women, and children under the age of 5. Societally and culturally, children are treated horribly in the US and have effectively, no rights.

Our society isn't really set up to help anyone at all, is it? SS and Medicare aren't "help", we pay for them. Disability income in this society is a joke.

We are a survival of the fittest society. We don't really care about individual suffering. Individual suffering is part of America's soul.

+1000

Anonymous wrote:I know one (c) family. The wife is a partner at a law firm and the husband does some part-time photography but is basically a SAHD. However, they only have one kid, in middle school, and they both worked FT when he was younger.

Love this!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a doc who sees people at end of life. If you don’t have kids then it’s really important to focus on building a community of people younger or investing in nieces / nephews. The us is not set up for the elderly without support systems. It’s hard not to have an advocate when you are sick and elderly.

I’d say have daughters too.

You need at least 3 daughters. One daughter is not enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Our system isn't set up for disabled, childless, family less adults. It'll be interesting to see how that all plays out.

and our current system is also not set up to support pregnant women, postpartum women, and children under the age of 5. Societally and culturally, children are treated horribly in the US and have effectively, no rights.

Our society isn't really set up to help anyone at all, is it? SS and Medicare aren't "help", we pay for them. Disability income in this society is a joke.

We are a survival of the fittest society. We don't really care about individual suffering. Individual suffering is part of America's soul.

I know one (c) family. The wife is a partner at a law firm and the husband does some part-time photography but is basically a SAHD. However, they only have one kid, in middle school, and they both worked FT when he was younger.

Anonymous wrote:How many millennial men are willing & able to (a) be the sole provider so their wives can SAHM, or (b) take on 50% of house and kid responsibilities so their wives can also have a career? I guess option (c) is the men can SAHD but very few women are actually interested in that setup. There is your answer.

I know several (c) families, and the women seem VERY happy. However- it is under a certain set of circumstances…all the families were financially established pre kids and started having kids late-ish. The dads aren’t complete SAHDs (school aged kids) but work hobby type of jobs part time (one works at a golf course- trying to become a pro or something?, one restores fancy old cars and apparently it is surprisingly profitable, another was slowly flipping houses with friends but that was awhile ago- not sure what he is doing now). But the dads do take on the primary parent role, cook and clean etc. 2 of the dads are neat freaks and one is an outstanding cook.

I’m sure the above is super rare but somehow we know several.

On the other hand, DH’s cousin and his wife tried to make him a SAHD altogether and it went so badly they divorced quickly (and that was the major reason why). They were younger and finances were more of a strain. I also think the husband was lazier and didn’t really embrace the role…

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Anonymous wrote:How many millennial men are willing & able to (a) be the sole provider so their wives can SAHM, or (b) take on 50% of house and kid responsibilities so their wives can also have a career? I guess option (c) is the men can SAHD but very few women are actually interested in that setup. There is your answer.

I’m not sure if they are 50/50 but they do much more.

I’d say few are interested in (a) or (c)

Many are interested in (a) they're just afraid to say it out loud and be deemed unfeminist.

Yep I am not sure I know a single guy who wouldn't support this for his wife. It's usually the wife that doesn't want to stay home. I totally get it because it's a little scary to fully depend on another person financially, and staying home (with young kids in particular) is also super difficult.

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Anonymous wrote:How many millennial men are willing & able to (a) be the sole provider so their wives can SAHM, or (b) take on 50% of house and kid responsibilities so their wives can also have a career? I guess option (c) is the men can SAHD but very few women are actually interested in that setup. There is your answer.

I’m not sure if they are 50/50 but they do much more.

I’d say few are interested in (a) or (c)

Many are interested in (a) they're just afraid to say it out loud and be deemed unfeminist.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a doc who sees people at end of life. If you don’t have kids then it’s really important to focus on building a community of people younger or investing in nieces / nephews. The us is not set up for the elderly without support systems. It’s hard not to have an advocate when you are sick and elderly.

I’d say have daughters too.

Anonymous wrote:How many millennial men are willing & able to (a) be the sole provider so their wives can SAHM, or (b) take on 50% of house and kid responsibilities so their wives can also have a career? I guess option (c) is the men can SAHD but very few women are actually interested in that setup. There is your answer.

I’m not sure if they are 50/50 but they do much more.

I’d say few are interested in (a) or (c)

Anonymous wrote:The world and US could use less people. The (big) problem is the educated people with means are the ones deciding not to have kids or have fewer. While the poor and uneducated are multiplying by a lot

Within weeks of being allowed a TikTok account at age 12, my daughter became anti-having kids out of nowhere. It’s obvious when she’s parroting someone she saw online. I think all young people on social media are willingly participating in a massive psy-ops campaign.

I’m a doc who sees people at end of life. If you don’t have kids then it’s really important to focus on building a community of people younger or investing in nieces / nephews. The us is not set up for the elderly without support systems. It’s hard not to have an advocate when you are sick and elderly.