Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 16:32     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I mean it was clear from the beginning OP was searching for any reason to disown/disengage with MIL before the baby comes and she needed a “reason” to give her DH.


That's ... one interpretation.

It ignores all the crazypants, but it's an interpretation. (Godspeed, OP.)


You are taking everything OP says at face value. How do you know she isn’t inventing details for sympathy?
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 16:08     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is great. Just a total delight.


Home depot sells these in a twin set! Install one in the kitchen and one in the upstairs hallway for all the constant drinky glass users in your family!


They'll never see them, because they have stopped coming to your house.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 16:06     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:This thread is great. Just a total delight.


Home depot sells these in a twin set! Install one in the kitchen and one in the upstairs hallway for all the constant drinky glass users in your family!
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 16:00     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.


True, but obsessively picking up someone's glass is over the top. My family tends towards the opposite - my grandparents and parents generally use one glass a day. They wash it out after use and put it on the counter on a paper towel. This is for the express purpose of having to wash less dishes.

Yea I agree. I don’t understand the multiple cups per day. But this thread is reminding me that I do have a family member that gets a new glass for every (multiple) drink they need throughout the day. While I’m still using the same glass from the morning 😂


This is my son - he's home from college for the summer and it's ridiculous the number of glasses we are washing every day! The rest of the family uses one or two glasses or a water bottle throughout the day.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 15:51     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
My father does this. When he’s at our house or when I’m at his house, I hide my water bottle or glass in places he doesn’t think to look. Like a shelf on a cabinet in the way back where it’s not in plain sight. If he can see it, it’s dumped and in the dishwasher.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 15:32     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:I mean it was clear from the beginning OP was searching for any reason to disown/disengage with MIL before the baby comes and she needed a “reason” to give her DH.


That's ... one interpretation.

It ignores all the crazypants, but it's an interpretation. (Godspeed, OP.)
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 15:11     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
I mean it was clear from the beginning OP was searching for any reason to disown/disengage with MIL before the baby comes and she needed a “reason” to give her DH.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 13:10     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
This thread is great. Just a total delight.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 12:08     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jeez. Why don’t you just put the water bottle inside your purse/backpack and zip it up? They like a neat house and are afraid about slippery slope (starts with one unwashed item, leads to more). It’s their house and they’re your DH’s parents who you have to deal with more than once.


Dogs and cats living together, mass hysteria!


Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 11:57     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
DP. I get the joke, but my hope for OP is to draw clear boundaries and have the support of her partner, and those are already accomplished.

In the future, I hope for her time in unhealthy situations to be limited and minimal, and that she spend most of her life in situations that are full of laughter, ease, and true hospitality. May the weirdly controlling moments become a distant memory, and may those who tried to dictate that situation not be in a position to do so again.

Hopefully all involved can move towards peace and health, but my focus is on OP, not anyone else.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 11:52     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you need a hip flask.


This is what I was thinking - like those belts from the 90s that hold people's phones or a gun holster, but for water. Then, I'd get the water really fast like I was in a dual.


You need these while at their house, OP:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGKXXM5V?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 10:39     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you need a hip flask.


This is what I was thinking - like those belts from the 90s that hold people's phones or a gun holster, but for water. Then, I'd get the water really fast like I was in a dual.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 10:36     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m a neat freak and I hate clutter, but I would never clear a guest’s water glass (unless they have multiple glasses scattered around the house - my SIL does this) or go into their room and take their water bottle!

Does she “close the kitchen” too?


Thanks for that memory. I'm going to spend the rest of the day crying in the corner.


Just grab a delicious piece of fruit from the breakfast bar and EAT IT OUTSIDE!


I love you!

No crumbs in my kitchen. There's a gas station down the road.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 10:29     Subject: Re:Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:

Oh, I just know these are the same in-laws that have closed kitchens and meager portions. I live for those threads during the holidays. As an Italian-American whose cultural standard is excessive food for guests, I find these reports endlessly fascinating. I think it would make an interesting documentary.


+1000000
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2023 10:28     Subject: Can’t have water, apparently
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you can't be so thirsty that you have to have a glass of water nearby at all times. Just drink at the sink when you need to.

This is not the hill to die on.


What universe do you live in that, when you have guests, they don’t each have their own glass, to refill as needed? Good god.


How does that work? You issue each guest a glass upon arrival? And you're cool with them leaving that glass anywhere (I'm guessing it's monogrammed or something so each guest knows which randomly placed glass is theirs to refill as needed?)

I'm saying OP is overstating her need for constant water on demand -- she could just go drink a glass of water when she's thirsty and put the glass in the dishwasher as MIL prefers.

This business of always having water by your side is a very recent thing. Once upon a time, we drank a glass of water and that was it. We didn't need to continually sip at a nasty, bacteria laden $100 thermos all day long.


I'm sorry but you just sound crazy. Most of us know it's good for your health to drink more water. There are a thousand reasons to do so. You think that a single glass of water a day is good for people? Just nuts that this bothers you so much. Are you the "kitchen is closed at x pm and no food allowed go outside and eat an orange" poster?