Anonymous
02/13/2023 09:16
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.
I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.
Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔
+1
Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.
OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.
No transportation = cheap ass.
First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.
Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.
My husband - same on his side.
So the exception may be you.
Whoa. OP is showing some true colors here. Point is, don't be cheap, OP. And don't try ot find a way to stick it to the guests. Provide transportation for everyone or no one.
I'm not OP. And, as many other people on this discussion have agreed with me, reception/ceremony in the same venue is not typical. Nor is providing transportation. And criticizing those norms as "cheap ass- weddings" is offensive and insulting. So I stand by the smug pricks comment. You folks need to get out of your bubble a bit more and realize that other people do things differently and "cheap" has nothing to do with it.
Yet the OP specifically framed the issue as one of balancing “cost”.
My first question is how much did she spend on the dress? Wedding dresses are not cheap - spring for transportation for everyone. If the bride or her side is asking this question, then it is obviously a concern, and OP knows that she SHOULD be providing transportation for ALL - she is just looking for an out. So gross.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 16:02
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Doubtful. This is classic DCUM trolling. Post something inflammatory and then stand back and watch the comments blow up.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I love that this thread is 18 pages and the OP only posted one time. People keep firing questions at the OP who never returned.
Or returned and wasn’t willing to admit to being the OP.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 15:45
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:I love that this thread is 18 pages and the OP only posted one time. People keep firing questions at the OP who never returned.
Or returned and wasn’t willing to admit to being the OP.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 15:43
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.
I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out.
Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔
+1
Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.
OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.
No transportation = cheap ass.
First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.
Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.
My husband - same on his side.
So the exception may be you.
Whoa. OP is showing some true colors here. Point is, don't be cheap, OP. And don't try ot find a way to stick it to the guests. Provide transportation for everyone or no one.
I'm not OP. And, as many other people on this discussion have agreed with me, reception/ceremony in the same venue is not typical. Nor is providing transportation. And criticizing those norms as "cheap ass- weddings" is offensive and insulting. So I stand by the smug pricks comment. You folks need to get out of your bubble a bit more and realize that other people do things differently and "cheap" has nothing to do with it.
Yet the OP specifically framed the issue as one of balancing “cost”.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 15:36
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
I love that this thread is 18 pages and the OP only posted one time. People keep firing questions at the OP who never returned.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 15:33
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:I'm the 9:54 poster. I believe the Dad of the graduate told all senior citizens that transportation would be provided for them.
You need to tell the other guests the situation, and that they will not be getting rides - you can not possibly think it is okay to leave most of your guests stranded. C'mon, OP - just a modicum of common sense, here!
Anonymous
02/12/2023 15:15
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:What is the actual distance? Not your exaggerated travel time.
+1
This also matters. OP, most people don't want to walk, but it seems you don't want to believe that, so why bother asking?
A gracious host will make sure that everyone is accomadated, not just select few (or one or two).
Anonymous
02/12/2023 15:14
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.
We had a situation like this with a college graduation. The Dad of the graduate provided transportation for seniors citizens. Everyone else walked
the 10 minute walk from the graduation venue to the restaurant for post graduation dinner.
What about non-seniors that may have medical issues that limit their ability to walk distances? Not everyone wants to have to share their heart issues or joint surgeries.
x100000
This was stated upthread. Either OP, or the people advising her seem very controlling about who gets what - NOT a good way to start your married life, OP! I think you are getting bad information, and you might look for someone else to help steer your festivities, OP.
Anonymous
02/12/2023 13:48
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
What is the actual distance? Not your exaggerated travel time.
Anonymous
02/11/2023 13:21
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.
We had a situation like this with a college graduation. The Dad of the graduate provided transportation for seniors citizens. Everyone else walked
the 10 minute walk from the graduation venue to the restaurant for post graduation dinner.
What about non-seniors that may have medical issues that limit their ability to walk distances? Not everyone wants to have to share their heart issues or joint surgeries.
Anonymous
02/11/2023 13:08
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
OP, this is why a lot of folks try to make it happen in the same place. And when they cannot do it, they provide transportation. We attended a late afternoon wedding at the parish church on the National Cathedral grounds, followed by trolleys to the reception downtown. Some of us ended up driving.
Yes, this was more than a ten-minute walk, but they didn't also assume "well, folks will drive."
Yes, this was more than a ten-minute walk, but they didn't also assume "well, folks will drive."
Anonymous
02/11/2023 09:57
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:I'm the 9:54 poster. I believe the Dad of the graduate told all senior citizens that transportation would be provided for them.
I feel like a graduation is not as big of a deal as a wedding.
If you are going to make guests walk - you really should be telling THEM- not the people to whom you are giving rides!!
Anonymous
02/11/2023 09:55
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
I'm the 9:54 poster. I believe the Dad of the graduate told all senior citizens that transportation would be provided for them.
Anonymous
02/11/2023 09:54
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.
We had a situation like this with a college graduation. The Dad of the graduate provided transportation for seniors citizens. Everyone else walked
the 10 minute walk from the graduation venue to the restaurant for post graduation dinner.
Anonymous
02/11/2023 09:48
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way?
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette.
This kind of sounds like something my SIL and MIL would try to "decide on behalf" of the family - those two would end up getting rides, and leave everyone else behind to fend for themselves.