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Anonymous wrote:I post pics from my travels, yes, because I travel to interesting places. I know it makes some people jealous, but whatever.

OMG! Look at Karen posting from Paris. I wish I was her. She is eating moules-frites and has a Louis Vuitton bag. I could never dream of that. She is so amazing.

This sort of attitude and even being on social media in the first place are incompatible. Ergo, the attitude is posturing to cover up severe feelings of inadequacy and jealousy. It's a defense mechanism for insecurity, and everyone sees right through it.

The insecurity and inadequacy is actually in the photo posters, but it’s darling that you don’t see that.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t ever post when out of town for safety reasons.

I will make one post when we return if I have some good pictures if I have some good pictures to share. Max of about 5 pictures.

I hate it when people post daily from their trips. I don’t bother looking at more than a handful of pictures unless they’re really unusual even when people post once after their return.

Anonymous wrote:I enjoy a couple pics from trips. I like seeing what people are up to and also like seeing travel pics.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you post your travel photos on social media? Do you enjoy seeing travel pictures from other friends?

Absolutely LOVE seeing travel photos and all the interesting places people visit.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

PP here. We are not angry necessarily. It’s more amusement and bemusement at your simplicity and obliviousness.

Again : get off social media. It is making you a really nasty person. Look at the people above you who say they like what their *friends* post and if it doesn’t happen to interest them they scroll without judgment. That is normal. You are being negatively impacted by your use of social media because you use it to look down on people you (theoretically) have some relationship with. You can try to flip it around and make the people you follow sound like they’re the joke but it’s you. You mock people for living their life when literally nobody makes you look or watch.

DP but you are very worked up at the idea that someone might see your posts and judge you or look down on you, but this is the reality of social media. People are going to judge you and feel superior. You can tell them “get off social media” but they won’t— for some people, judging and feeling superior is probably the point.

I’m not saying you should change how it what you post. You should do what you want. But there are absolutely people judging you for it no matter what, and this is something you just have to accept. There is no scenario where you post to social media and every person who sees it thinks good, warm thoughts about you. I would assume that even among the people who like it comment nice things, there may be people judging you.

You have to be so content in yourself and your choices it just doesn’t matter. Never expect universal approval— you will not get it.

I haven’t referred to myself once. My social media habits aren’t what’s being discussed here. So what I share or don’t share or what platforms I even use isn’t relevant. I am not defending any one kind of content over another; I am saying that if using social media creates this kind of nasty and really disgusting attitude against *people you actually know and interact with in your real life* simply because they share pics of what they like, then these posters need to get off social media. It is warping them and causing them to have not-normal feelings toward actual people in their lives.

DP. I think this is the crux right here. Social media does warp minds and cause not-normal feelings and it has done so on a grand scale that goes far beyond travel pics. We can get off it and/or scroll by, but it has become so interwoven in the way people interact, the effects on society are going to be felt by everyone eventually.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

PP here. We are not angry necessarily. It’s more amusement and bemusement at your simplicity and obliviousness.

Again : get off social media. It is making you a really nasty person. Look at the people above you who say they like what their *friends* post and if it doesn’t happen to interest them they scroll without judgment. That is normal. You are being negatively impacted by your use of social media because you use it to look down on people you (theoretically) have some relationship with. You can try to flip it around and make the people you follow sound like they’re the joke but it’s you. You mock people for living their life when literally nobody makes you look or watch.

DP but you are very worked up at the idea that someone might see your posts and judge you or look down on you, but this is the reality of social media. People are going to judge you and feel superior. You can tell them “get off social media” but they won’t— for some people, judging and feeling superior is probably the point.

I’m not saying you should change how it what you post. You should do what you want. But there are absolutely people judging you for it no matter what, and this is something you just have to accept. There is no scenario where you post to social media and every person who sees it thinks good, warm thoughts about you. I would assume that even among the people who like it comment nice things, there may be people judging you.

You have to be so content in yourself and your choices it just doesn’t matter. Never expect universal approval— you will not get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

PP here. We are not angry necessarily. It’s more amusement and bemusement at your simplicity and obliviousness.

Again : get off social media. It is making you a really nasty person. Look at the people above you who say they like what their *friends* post and if it doesn’t happen to interest them they scroll without judgment. That is normal. You are being negatively impacted by your use of social media because you use it to look down on people you (theoretically) have some relationship with. You can try to flip it around and make the people you follow sound like they’re the joke but it’s you. You mock people for living their life when literally nobody makes you look or watch.

DP but you are very worked up at the idea that someone might see your posts and judge you or look down on you, but this is the reality of social media. People are going to judge you and feel superior. You can tell them “get off social media” but they won’t— for some people, judging and feeling superior is probably the point.

I’m not saying you should change how it what you post. You should do what you want. But there are absolutely people judging you for it no matter what, and this is something you just have to accept. There is no scenario where you post to social media and every person who sees it thinks good, warm thoughts about you. I would assume that even among the people who like it comment nice things, there may be people judging you.

You have to be so content in yourself and your choices it just doesn’t matter. Never expect universal approval— you will not get it.

I haven’t referred to myself once. My social media habits aren’t what’s being discussed here. So what I share or don’t share or what platforms I even use isn’t relevant. I am not defending any one kind of content over another; I am saying that if using social media creates this kind of nasty and really disgusting attitude against *people you actually know and interact with in your real life* simply because they share pics of what they like, then these posters need to get off social media. It is warping them and causing them to have not-normal feelings toward actual people in their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

PP here. We are not angry necessarily. It’s more amusement and bemusement at your simplicity and obliviousness.

Again : get off social media. It is making you a really nasty person. Look at the people above you who say they like what their *friends* post and if it doesn’t happen to interest them they scroll without judgment. That is normal. You are being negatively impacted by your use of social media because you use it to look down on people you (theoretically) have some relationship with. You can try to flip it around and make the people you follow sound like they’re the joke but it’s you. You mock people for living their life when literally nobody makes you look or watch.

DP but you are very worked up at the idea that someone might see your posts and judge you or look down on you, but this is the reality of social media. People are going to judge you and feel superior. You can tell them “get off social media” but they won’t— for some people, judging and feeling superior is probably the point.

I’m not saying you should change how it what you post. You should do what you want. But there are absolutely people judging you for it no matter what, and this is something you just have to accept. There is no scenario where you post to social media and every person who sees it thinks good, warm thoughts about you. I would assume that even among the people who like it comment nice things, there may be people judging you.

You have to be so content in yourself and your choices it just doesn’t matter. Never expect universal approval— you will not get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

PP here. We are not angry necessarily. It’s more amusement and bemusement at your simplicity and obliviousness.

Again : get off social media. It is making you a really nasty person. Look at the people above you who say they like what their *friends* post and if it doesn’t happen to interest them they scroll without judgment. That is normal. You are being negatively impacted by your use of social media because you use it to look down on people you (theoretically) have some relationship with. You can try to flip it around and make the people you follow sound like they’re the joke but it’s you. You mock people for living their life when literally nobody makes you look or watch.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

PP here. We are not angry necessarily. It’s more amusement and bemusement at your simplicity and obliviousness.