Only read the first post but working 60 hours a week is not a lot. Plenty of time to cook, especially if you have teens who are more independent

Buy her a red dress and yell "HEY KOOLAID!" when she puts it on.

If your BIL cares then he can address it himself. That said if they are paying for so much takeout why not pay for a prepared meal service. I had a family member lose a lot of weight with Sakara but there are many more affordable options out there.

Also if there are mirrors in her house she knows she’s obese.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Her DH asked us to sit down with her. But we are reluctant to. Don't know why I'm getting all this hate here. It is very sad to see her dealing with diabetes hypertension etc now.

MYOB

OP your SIL is an adult. This is her life not yours. If her DH doesn't like it he is free to leave. This is their business, not yours. Stop being so judgy.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Her DH asked us to sit down with her. But we are reluctant to. Don't know why I'm getting all this hate here. It is very sad to see her dealing with diabetes hypertension etc now.

I think that's a lot for your BIL to ask of you and your husband. I think if I was in this position I would tell BIL that you're happy to share your meal plans, shopping lists, etc. with him, but you don't feel it's your place to talk to her.

Part of this is a relationship issue that's none of your business, whether your BIL sees that or not. BIL wants his stay at home partner to cook healthy meals and his partner won't do it. That's in no way your issue to get involved in. They should go to a marriage counselor.

BIL needs to take charge of his own diet, just as he'd have to if he didn't have a wife. If you have time on your hands and want to help him, you can place grocery delivery orders. Can BIL get his teen involved?

Well, her dad could take some responsibility. It's not all on the SIL.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it amazes me the BIL can open up his own jar of pasta sauce and pour a pre bagged salad into a bowl.

He could do this for a while, lose some weight, and find someone else.

Can his daughter lose weight and find new parents because these two are failing her.