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Anonymous wrote:You people are so weird. I don’t have kids of college age but I love seeing updates on where my friend’s kids are going. Why else be on FB if you don’t want to see the highlights of people’s lives? Who has the energy to read all this other crap into it?

Dogs and babies: great.

Where Larla is going to college: not great

Babies are out now on FB. People started attaching registries to their announcement posts and it got tacky real quick.

Haven't read through all of these but this is literally a to each your own question.
Some people share every detail on their lives on Facebook, others use it to announce big news to distant family and friends, and there are variations in between. I enjoy reading where kids are going to school from acquaintances I don't see often. The vast majority aren't braggy.
We mailed graduation announcements to family, including college destination when our oldest graduated. I have shared with my good friends where our second is going already directly. I don't see myself doing differently this time around.

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Anonymous wrote:There is definitely a way to post without sounding braggy. I will use an example of one of my FB friends a couple of years ago.

What she could have done:

Larla has just decided to attend Vanderbilt in the fall! We are so proud of her!

What she did instead:

Larla has just decided to attend Vanderbilt in the fall! Her generous merit package enticed her to attend this school instead of the others that accepted her including, Harvard and Princeton. We are so proud of her!!

I saw a reverse of that post along the lines of -- "DD is going to [obscure] Big state U, it was a really brutal year in admissions for everyone and no one got in anywhere good" (as if the top 100 schools remained empty that year). So sad to see her back-handed slight of her truly awesome kid, who no doubt will do really well.

That is sad. My son's first choice school was "big state U" and we were stoked when he got his acceptance letter--especially because it was rolling admissions so he was admitted early and his senior year was stress free from admission drama.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the bed party trend?

OP? -NP

Those bed parties are bonkers. I think it may be a southern thing. Basically, kid sits on their bed and is surrounded by a pile of school swag, balloons, etc. It's gross.

https://grownandflown.com/bed-party-college-decision/

Please say this is not real. A great rule of thumb for all of life is to be kind. When your kid gets into Stanford, just be happy for him. And keep it to yourself.

Sadly, it's very very real.

https://www.pinterest.com/avahoehne1/bed-party-ideas/

Very tacky.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. It’s YOUR CHILD’S news, not yours.

What? Our children do not live wholly separated from the entire family such that no one should care about their lives. We are all on this journey together. We are allowed to talk about our lives, and our lives include the people in our lives, including especially our children. I'm not even on FB or Instagram or Twitter, but where our kids choose to go to college is as much our news to our friends as it is their news to theirs. I don't think my son will bother to announce to my old granny friends where he decides to go.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t do FB but I announced my kids’ athletic commitment after they had announced it. I don’t think it made many waves though because people ask me if DC has thought about college yet.

I know one person whose posts are so nauseating I predict the college one will be the absolute worst. Class rank is mentioned consistently in other posts. Scholarships have been mentioned in past as well. Bracing myself now for the deluge.

Wait! You posted YOUR kids accomplishment but other peoples posts make you nauseated. I think if you are so fragile maybe FB too rough for you.

No. The point which so many people here have made is: announce where your kid is going. Nothing else. I went on a girls’s weekend with seven of my closest friends, almost all of whom have kids in high school. We all have one more distant FB friend who had been posting exactly where/how both her seniors had been applying, exactly when they got in where and with exactly how much aid, and it went on for months. Everyone agreed that no one needed to see that.

I get the sense that the majority here are fine with the simple announcement of where your kid is going, at the end of the process. But there's a smaller group of PPs who strangely think any reference to college on social media is absolutely unbearable. They have issues.

This.

Anonymous wrote:There is definitely a way to post without sounding braggy. I will use an example of one of my FB friends a couple of years ago.

What she could have done:

Larla has just decided to attend Vanderbilt in the fall! We are so proud of her!

What she did instead:

Larla has just decided to attend Vanderbilt in the fall! Her generous merit package enticed her to attend this school instead of the others that accepted her including, Harvard and Princeton. We are so proud of her!!

I saw a reverse of that post along the lines of -- "DD is going to [obscure] Big state U, it was a really brutal year in admissions for everyone and no one got in anywhere good" (as if the top 100 schools remained empty that year). So sad to see her back-handed slight of her truly awesome kid, who no doubt will do really well.

I have never seen any of my friends post every acceptance, which means I am surrounding myself with the right people. I like seeing where the kids are going when decisions made. So sure, let’s see! But just one photo and no sugary and syrupy captions please.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. It’s YOUR CHILD’S news, not yours.

Many of my friends are interested in where my child is going to college.

Don’t do it. It’s YOUR CHILD’S news, not yours.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t do FB but I announced my kids’ athletic commitment after they had announced it. I don’t think it made many waves though because people ask me if DC has thought about college yet.

I know one person whose posts are so nauseating I predict the college one will be the absolute worst. Class rank is mentioned consistently in other posts. Scholarships have been mentioned in past as well. Bracing myself now for the deluge.

Wait! You posted YOUR kids accomplishment but other peoples posts make you nauseated. I think if you are so fragile maybe FB too rough for you.

No. The point which so many people here have made is: announce where your kid is going. Nothing else. I went on a girls’s weekend with seven of my closest friends, almost all of whom have kids in high school. We all have one more distant FB friend who had been posting exactly where/how both her seniors had been applying, exactly when they got in where and with exactly how much aid, and it went on for months. Everyone agreed that no one needed to see that.

I get the sense that the majority here are fine with the simple announcement of where your kid is going, at the end of the process. But there's a smaller group of PPs who strangely think any reference to college on social media is absolutely unbearable. They have issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t do FB but I announced my kids’ athletic commitment after they had announced it. I don’t think it made many waves though because people ask me if DC has thought about college yet.

I know one person whose posts are so nauseating I predict the college one will be the absolute worst. Class rank is mentioned consistently in other posts. Scholarships have been mentioned in past as well. Bracing myself now for the deluge.

Wait! You posted YOUR kids accomplishment but other peoples posts make you nauseated. I think if you are so fragile maybe FB too rough for you.

No. The point which so many people here have made is: announce where your kid is going. Nothing else. I went on a girls’s weekend with seven of my closest friends, almost all of whom have kids in high school. We all have one more distant FB friend who had been posting exactly where/how both her seniors had been applying, exactly when they got in where and with exactly how much aid, and it went on for months. Everyone agreed that no one needed to see that.

I’m cool with - “Jake is excited to attend xx in the fall” or similar

I love to see where my friends’ kids are heading. No to scholarship info and no to every acceptance

There is definitely a way to post without sounding braggy. I will use an example of one of my FB friends a couple of years ago.

What she could have done:

Larla has just decided to attend Vanderbilt in the fall! We are so proud of her!

What she did instead:

Larla has just decided to attend Vanderbilt in the fall! Her generous merit package enticed her to attend this school instead of the others that accepted her including, Harvard and Princeton. We are so proud of her!!