Anonymous wrote:DCPS PreK teacher here.

Sh*t happens. A real teacher who cares about her students will change them. As a parent and teacher, I would expect my child's teacher to do the same. I have heard no such policy, it's just not true. The teacher is LAZY and does not care for your child. As the saying goes, Kids don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Be weary.

I am also a DCPS pre-k teacher.

It is the educational aide job -it literally says so in their job description. It does NOT say that in ours.

Now some aides REFUSE.

Would I change the occasional poop accident personally? Yes. I experienced anxiety throw up as well for the first 4 months…even though I had a horrible gag reflex.


Some teachers really just want to teach-even pre-k.

Am I a little judgmental? Yes because if a parent gave me all the tools I’ll use them.

Now if there’s no change of clothing and it’s continuous -I will send the kid to the nurse. (No kids in my class have no change of clothing, I have bought clothing for children before only to never have them come back as extras).


Anyway bottom line, unless extenuating circumstances the child will be changed by the educational aide (for sure) or if the teacher doesn’t mind.

I am a DCPS PreK teacher as well and when I was called to change my own child's poop, not only did I go to the school immediately to change him, I took him home because at that point, he needed a bath. I do not know about "the policy," but I do know that DCPS is not a daycare and we as parents must work diligently to potty train our children. Additionally, we (staff) have to be careful when assisting students with potty training to avoid unwarranted accusations.

Our school nurses will not assist with any poop or pee accidents. They state that it is not in their DOH contract/job description. It is challenging for the teacher to stop teaching to change a child when there is a school nurse present and available who should be able to assist.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not comfortable with a non-parent adult helping with toileting.

+1 doesn't apply to me anymore as we have moved past the accidents stage (woo hoo 1st grade!) but I allreviated our DCPS having a no change policy. They made it clear at orientation that their policy would be to assist changing without any touching for pee accidents and a call to parents for poop.

We are in PK4 wotp. The teacher or aide changed my child a few weeks ago after a poop accident.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you all even want your untrained child going to school, regardless of whether it is legal or not? Why are you putting children into situations they aren't ready for? No child needs to be in school before they can take care of their own bathroom issues. Y'all need to learn to parent and stop dumping your children.

Did you miss what OP said? There's a difference between being trained and having an accident.

I can't understand you mean moms! What is the matter with you?


OP, I'm sorry your child went through that. It must have been awful for both of you. Our school is the same as others have posted, where teachers won't change a pre-k child.

I hope your son is feeling better.

Anonymous wrote:Why the vitriol for pottery training? Who are you people?

Seriously, I taught my child how to throw on the wheel before she was 2! She's glazing with the best of them now. Y'all are just jealous.

Why the vitriol for pottery training? Who are you people?

Anonymous wrote:Why do you all even want your untrained child going to school, regardless of whether it is legal or not? Why are you putting children into situations they aren't ready for? No child needs to be in school before they can take care of their own bathroom issues. Y'all need to learn to parent and stop dumping your children.

I know, it's really awful, all these parents who want their kids socialized, learning, and generally participating in society. If only they'd kept their kids home and waited until kindergarten or better yet first grade to enroll them in an educational/social environment we'd all be better off. Good lord, what has parenting come to these days?

Why do you all even want your untrained child going to school, regardless of whether it is legal or not? Why are you putting children into situations they aren't ready for? No child needs to be in school before they can take care of their own bathroom issues. Y'all need to learn to parent and stop dumping your children.

at our DCPS - the teacher changed PK kids and if it b/c a pattern would reach out to the parents to discuss a strategy

Anonymous wrote:You should have trained him. You can't expect the school to clean his crap. Eww.
I'm an RN and I did not go to University for four years to clean crap.
Get help for his anxiety too.
You anger is misplaced.

You sound like a terrible nurse. And person. I'm so glad when my father was dying and lost control of his bowels that his caring nurses took the time to clean him. I hope you're in the same situation someday--either yourself or with a loved one--and have to rely on an asshole like yourself.

Anonymous wrote:You should have trained him. You can't expect the school to clean his crap. Eww.
I'm an RN and I did not go to University for four years to clean crap.
Get help for his anxiety too.
You anger is misplaced.

Hahahahaha...I call BS. Wow, it's a really good thing all those nurses in hospitals, and pediatric wards and NICUs and pediatrician's office and SCHOOLs don't feel like you. I'm guessing you also refuse to deal with vomit, pee, blood, sweat, or anything else the least bit "ew"-ey? That's very high and mighty of you and must seriously limit your job options. But seriously, there's nothing wrong with a 4 year old who has an accident. Or one whose not fully skilled at cleaning themselves up (seriously, how many parents are still assisting at this age - many!), so stop trying to put this on OP.

At Cooke (years ago), teachers routinely dealt with potty accidents. I'm not sure if they cleaned them up themselves or coached the kids how to do it, but they did not allow the child to sit around in their own poop. In fact, they would ask parents of older kids to pass down the uniforms they'd outgrown so they would always have backup clothes for kids whose parents had forgotten to send them with clothes (or who had multiple accidents during the day). I was extremely grateful when they changed my daughter when she had an accident, and used to give the PS / PK teachers new kids underwear as gifts so they would have extras on hand to use. This is a good thing to give them during teacher appreciation week, believe it or not!