Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:45     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in a sorority at an SEC school. Very hard for NE girls to get into “top houses”. I think the Northern girls dont care as much though and are happy to be in a house that is middle of the pack


What makes a house "top" or "middle"?


The girls segregate themselves by looks. The top houses are the best looking, hottest, thinnest girls. And on down. Maybe 20% of bids don't follow this (ie. an occasional less attractive girl will get into a top house).

My daughter is at an SEC school and didn't rush but watched this all play out up close.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:25     Subject: Re:NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:We have a friend at Tennessee who I think did really well. I mean, she changed her appearance and her entire personaltiy, but hey, she got into a good house ... :/


Maybe she finally found her people. Isn't that what college is for?
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:23     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in a sorority at an SEC school. Very hard for NE girls to get into “top houses”. I think the Northern girls dont care as much though and are happy to be in a house that is middle of the pack


What makes a house "top" or "middle"?


The same thing that makes colleges top tier, second tier, and so on. Supply and demand. Think of touse as being like the colleges with single-digit or low-teens acceptance rates and yields above 50%. Mouse would be the equivalent everything from SEC/B1G flagships like UGA, UIUC, tOSU to privates like SMU, UMiami, etc. Bouse is akin to the schools that take almost everyone who can stroke a tuition check and show up on the NACAC list because they can't fill their incoming class.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 09:54     Subject: Re:NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
We have a friend at Tennessee who I think did really well. I mean, she changed her appearance and her entire personaltiy, but hey, she got into a good house ... :/
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 09:45     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in a sorority at an SEC school. Very hard for NE girls to get into “top houses”. I think the Northern girls dont care as much though and are happy to be in a house that is middle of the pack


This is the sense I got when we visited. We spent a day at Georgia with a girl from the DC area - a pretty, thin and rich girl from a private school. She's in probably the top non "Old Row" as they call the old Southern houses. She seems perfectly happy. She also pretty much dismissed those houses, implying that they do their thing and she had no expectation, or even desire to be part of them. I know another girl at Ole Miss who is similar and said the same thing.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 09:16     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is off the rails. DC is at an SEC school as are a number of his friends. They all are in frats. There is no religious component.


Your anecdote doesn’t mean anything. Many still have Christianity “values” as part of their culture. Many have bibles in every room, they have sports teams that pray Christian prayers before games.


This, there is a religious subculture.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 09:12     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Does it bode well if you go to a Christian HS?
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 07:35     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
The problem is both girls and boys are raised differently in the NE. They can’t compete when it comes to manners, social skills and appearance. The HS kids in the south have spent decades focusing on these things and your kids haven’t.

I live in an affluent area in the NE and parent send their kids to events in gym clothes. The kids cough not covering their mouths and can’t introduce themselves to adults. The manners are atrocious.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 06:27     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in a sorority at an SEC school. Very hard for NE girls to get into “top houses”. I think the Northern girls dont care as much though and are happy to be in a house that is middle of the pack


What makes a house "top" or "middle"?
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 05:30     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
My daughter is in a sorority at an SEC school. Very hard for NE girls to get into “top houses”. I think the Northern girls dont care as much though and are happy to be in a house that is middle of the pack
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 05:02     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is off the rails. DC is at an SEC school as are a number of his friends. They all are in frats. There is no religious component.


Your anecdote doesn’t mean anything. Many still have Christianity “values” as part of their culture. Many have bibles in every room, they have sports teams that pray Christian prayers before games.


I hate to break it to you but teams outside of the south also pray before games.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 00:32     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:Not off the rails. Sadly, the US today is more like the 1950s in terms of religious acceptance. This is true at colleges, too. It’s more of the symptom than the cause but just look to our White House for evidence of this.


Yes, the US has become very anti Christian in places like DC. It's sad.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 23:08     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:I attended a Southern school and did frat rush. A frat I liked said “nothing personal but they wouldn’t take Jews”. Two other frats offered me a spot. I was shocked but moved on and had a good college experience. I’m not sorry that I attended a southern college. Good to see the world.


“Nothing personal. It’s not you we don’t like; it’s your kind.”
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 22:50     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The daughter of an acquaintance grew up in an UMC northeastern suburb. Very pretty girl but not up to the standards of top SEC school sororities. Despite being from a very northern family and her parents having gone to school in the northeast, she chose a big SEC school. The mom posted about it constantly on FB.

From what I could tell, she got into a very good sorority. At least the girls look very pretty. And I think she seems to be happy there. I know these sororities have all sorts of rules so for all I know the mom was in the same sorority at her school in the northeast so they had to admit her as a legacy. But it isn't like she is the Flounder (Animal House reference) of the sorority.

This whole process both fascinates and horrifies me.


Pretty doesn’t mean “good” if good means connected and useful. That said if they are happy then it doesn’t matter.


The girls are no better looking than any other group of girls around the country. The difference is the southern girls take hours to present themselves in a certain way. Most of them bleach their hair and straighten it. They don’t go out without flawless makeup and clothes that show off their bodies. Their clothes are practically uniforms they are so similar.

Religion is part of their lives down South, not in the Northeast. They don’t allow males in their rooms or alcohol but they’re able to get blackout drunk at fraternities and wake up in a strange bed.

Northeast girls for the most part would have no tolerance for this outdated way of thinking. Not to mention the Neanderthal MAGAs are a large potion of the guys who go there.


This person does not know what they are talking about. I live in an SEC college town. Religion is not a component of sororities. I've regularly attended several churches in town and while we do get some college students I don't think I've ever met a sorority girl at church. I thought there was a lot more alcohol pushed at Dickinson College where I attended than in my local SEC college town.


Whether you see sorority girls at your church has absolutely zero relation to whether the sororities are looking for “nice Christian girls” or “girls like us” or however they code it.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 22:06     Subject: NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The daughter of an acquaintance grew up in an UMC northeastern suburb. Very pretty girl but not up to the standards of top SEC school sororities. Despite being from a very northern family and her parents having gone to school in the northeast, she chose a big SEC school. The mom posted about it constantly on FB.

From what I could tell, she got into a very good sorority. At least the girls look very pretty. And I think she seems to be happy there. I know these sororities have all sorts of rules so for all I know the mom was in the same sorority at her school in the northeast so they had to admit her as a legacy. But it isn't like she is the Flounder (Animal House reference) of the sorority.

This whole process both fascinates and horrifies me.


Pretty doesn’t mean “good” if good means connected and useful. That said if they are happy then it doesn’t matter.


The girls are no better looking than any other group of girls around the country. The difference is the southern girls take hours to present themselves in a certain way. Most of them bleach their hair and straighten it. They don’t go out without flawless makeup and clothes that show off their bodies. Their clothes are practically uniforms they are so similar.

Religion is part of their lives down South, not in the Northeast. They don’t allow males in their rooms or alcohol but they’re able to get blackout drunk at fraternities and wake up in a strange bed.

Northeast girls for the most part would have no tolerance for this outdated way of thinking. Not to mention the Neanderthal MAGAs are a large potion of the guys who go there.


This person does not know what they are talking about. I live in an SEC college town. Religion is not a component of sororities. I've regularly attended several churches in town and while we do get some college students I don't think I've ever met a sorority girl at church. I thought there was a lot more alcohol pushed at Dickinson College where I attended than in my local SEC college town.