Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 22:34     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics



I find this thread BORING


+1. People call me exclusive and then talk about things like this. No, hon. I don’t talk about these things. You do. That’s why we don’t talk with each other. It’s not a who’s in or out thing. It’s a we’re different thing.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 11:41     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We just got together and talked about:

- what gets packed for lunch on the last day of school
-perimenopause and histamines
- Girl Scout cookie selling strategies
- sleepaway camp
- orthopedists
- matzoh ball soup
- Indiana (and more specifically, IU)
- stationery and the practice of sending ppl at work cards for various reasons


This is more like the convos I'm involved in. If travel is mentioned it's because people inquired and people are genuinely interested/want recommendations, etc. We're more likely to ask about tofu-pressing tips.


Just found out from my circle that microwaving tofu for 3 -4 minutes eliminates the need to press!


This is excellent information to have, thank you!


+1
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 11:33     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:People like that don’t age well over the years and they end up lonely. My parents were like that and their most genuine and normal friends drifted away and ghosted them. Over time even the superficial friends social climbed higher and faded off. My mother queen of knowing famous wealthy people, exotic travel and snubbing people she didn’t think were classy enough is now human social repellant. No longer gorgeous and connected and no longer able to hide the abusive side she saved for me she is dealing with the consequences of having screwed up values.


This really struck me. I know a few people like this and now that we are in our mid 50s, their lives seem rather sad and empty. And fwiw this isn’t someone who occasionally mentions a nice trip or event, it is someone who deals almost exclusively in name dropping - whether it be brands, places or people. It gets old fast.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:35     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics



I find this thread BORING
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 01:54     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We just got together and talked about:

- what gets packed for lunch on the last day of school
-perimenopause and histamines
- Girl Scout cookie selling strategies
- sleepaway camp
- orthopedists
- matzoh ball soup
- Indiana (and more specifically, IU)
- stationery and the practice of sending ppl at work cards for various reasons


This is more like the convos I'm involved in. If travel is mentioned it's because people inquired and people are genuinely interested/want recommendations, etc. We're more likely to ask about tofu-pressing tips.


Just found out from my circle that microwaving tofu for 3 -4 minutes eliminates the need to press!


This is excellent information to have, thank you!
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 01:14     Subject: Re:S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
This is person by person for me, not everyone I know. But there are two women in my circle who I know are just very prone to one upping and this sort of "look how important I am" behavior. I remind myself that's their deal going in and adjust me approach and expectations accordingly, and it's not that bad. There are times when I would decline to spend time with them because I'm not in the mood, but that's my boundary to set.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 00:33     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
My grandma is a bit like this, talking about the impressive people she’s known and the impressive things she’s done, but she is 96 and I think the memories bring her joy.

I haven’t noticed it with anyone else I spend time with.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 00:19     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
What else are you going to talk about during summer break, camps, work, the weather? People don't want to get too deep but want to hear something fun like a cool destination. Movies always come up once chatting is rolling but trips are good topics when keeping things superficial.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 00:01     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:What? No. It sounds like you have a shallow group of friends. Try to expand your friend group.

We talk about what books we've read, trying lash extensions and retinol, yes travel, how work is going, what our kids and pets (for the childless couples) are up to.


Pssst. This is the family thread
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2026 16:00     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
What? No. It sounds like you have a shallow group of friends. Try to expand your friend group.

We talk about what books we've read, trying lash extensions and retinol, yes travel, how work is going, what our kids and pets (for the childless couples) are up to.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2026 00:15     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
People like that don’t age well over the years and they end up lonely. My parents were like that and their most genuine and normal friends drifted away and ghosted them. Over time even the superficial friends social climbed higher and faded off. My mother queen of knowing famous wealthy people, exotic travel and snubbing people she didn’t think were classy enough is now human social repellant. No longer gorgeous and connected and no longer able to hide the abusive side she saved for me she is dealing with the consequences of having screwed up values.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2026 15:38     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are people who are not evolved.


I have no idea what you mean by "not evolved." OP described a pretty normal range of topics and it's a range of topics that goes back centuries. See Mrs. Bennet in Pride & Prejudice. And it's because it's normal human interest. Sorry most people aren't interested in discussing fake progressive ideologies.


DP
A normal ‘range’ of topics only includes wealthy people you know and fancy parties you or your dc attended? Interesting perspective you have…
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2026 13:53     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:There are people who are not evolved.


I have no idea what you mean by "not evolved." OP described a pretty normal range of topics and it's a range of topics that goes back centuries. See Mrs. Bennet in Pride & Prejudice. And it's because it's normal human interest. Sorry most people aren't interested in discussing fake progressive ideologies.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2026 09:38     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and

Some truth to it..

Ignore
Find new friends
Listen be happy for others

Anonymous
Post 06/05/2026 09:28     Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a damned if you do damned if you don't thing. People sensitive to how others, like op, feel get accused of being secretive about their trips. You can't talk about your kids because that's annoying to others, same goes for politics, hobbies, food, movies and at least one person will feel left out of the topic and feel sour about it. Try to chill out and be more accepting


This is so strange. No one objected to any of those things. I think the point is that discussions SOLELY focused on shallow and material things can be boring. It’s odd that you don’t see that


Well, I would way rather hear about someone’s travel or hobbies than their damn kids and how brilliant their damn kids are. Talk about boring.