Anonymous
06/20/2026 09:25
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
That’s nice for you, but some of us have spouses using 50/50 in states that allow it to be used for a spousal support residential deviation even if child support is based on income, they live in an Airbnb, and the child has to take everything down to shampoo and pencils back and forth with them every time because their parent says “there isn’t space.” When my child has to show up at their sport with their sports bags and a huge bag containing everything they need for a weekend down to snacks, they certainly don’t feel stable.
If the other parent is going 50-50 then why is it an issue if they use an airbnb. Don't like it, let the kid and dad stay in your home.
Man people will tie themselves into knots to support dads and crap on moms. You really don’t think it’s a problem this child’s father won’t let the child keep toiletries at a place they stay 50% of the time??
My ex is kind of loser who requested only every other weekend and my kid has a full room and toiletries over there.
Anonymous
06/19/2026 17:58
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
You are deluding yourself. They are definitely changing homes. It's like if you went from your kitchen to your living room. They're both your rooms but you are changing from one to another.
You need to face up to this. It's harmful to your children that you won't acknowledge the burden you and your ex have placed on them.
Your analogy makes no sense. You 'change homes' by going from one of your rooms to another?
My child is home in my home and dad's home.
At the same time?
They have two homes and they are changing from one to another. Since you don't understand analogies, let me make it simpler. Say you have a home in DC and a second home in Ocean City. When you go from one to the other, you are changing homes. Even though you own them both and have your stuff at both.
You are in denial and it is harmful to your children.
My child is home with both of their parents. It doesn't have to be at the same time. You, on the other hand, struggle to go from your kitchen to your living room-therapy may help you with that difficult transition.
So do they magically, instantly go from one home to another without spending any time in transit? Is it done with Floo powder? Beam me up, Scotty?
Anonymous
06/19/2026 17:54
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
You are deluding yourself. They are definitely changing homes. It's like if you went from your kitchen to your living room. They're both your rooms but you are changing from one to another.
You need to face up to this. It's harmful to your children that you won't acknowledge the burden you and your ex have placed on them.
Your analogy makes no sense. You 'change homes' by going from one of your rooms to another?
My child is home in my home and dad's home.
At the same time?
They have two homes and they are changing from one to another. Since you don't understand analogies, let me make it simpler. Say you have a home in DC and a second home in Ocean City. When you go from one to the other, you are changing homes. Even though you own them both and have your stuff at both.
You are in denial and it is harmful to your children.
My child is home with both of their parents. It doesn't have to be at the same time. You, on the other hand, struggle to go from your kitchen to your living room-therapy may help you with that difficult transition.
Oh FFS. Even if they are "home" both places it is still a transition. It still takes up their time. You might think you have the same rules and the same family culture, but you don't, and it'll grow more and more different with time. Especially with stepfamilies. You are in denial of the burden you have placed on your children. Why can you not acknowledge that they transition between two homes?
Anonymous
06/19/2026 16:24
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
You are deluding yourself. They are definitely changing homes. It's like if you went from your kitchen to your living room. They're both your rooms but you are changing from one to another.
You need to face up to this. It's harmful to your children that you won't acknowledge the burden you and your ex have placed on them.
Your analogy makes no sense. You 'change homes' by going from one of your rooms to another?
My child is home in my home and dad's home.
At the same time?
They have two homes and they are changing from one to another. Since you don't understand analogies, let me make it simpler. Say you have a home in DC and a second home in Ocean City. When you go from one to the other, you are changing homes. Even though you own them both and have your stuff at both.
You are in denial and it is harmful to your children.
My child is home with both of their parents. It doesn't have to be at the same time. You, on the other hand, struggle to go from your kitchen to your living room-therapy may help you with that difficult transition.
Anonymous
06/19/2026 12:51
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
You are deluding yourself. They are definitely changing homes. It's like if you went from your kitchen to your living room. They're both your rooms but you are changing from one to another.
You need to face up to this. It's harmful to your children that you won't acknowledge the burden you and your ex have placed on them.
Your analogy makes no sense. You 'change homes' by going from one of your rooms to another?
My child is home in my home and dad's home.
At the same time?
They have two homes and they are changing from one to another. Since you don't understand analogies, let me make it simpler. Say you have a home in DC and a second home in Ocean City. When you go from one to the other, you are changing homes. Even though you own them both and have your stuff at both.
You are in denial and it is harmful to your children.
Anonymous
06/19/2026 12:45
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
You are deluding yourself. They are definitely changing homes. It's like if you went from your kitchen to your living room. They're both your rooms but you are changing from one to another.
You need to face up to this. It's harmful to your children that you won't acknowledge the burden you and your ex have placed on them.
Your analogy makes no sense. You 'change homes' by going from one of your rooms to another?
My child is home in my home and dad's home.
Anonymous
06/19/2026 12:19
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
You are deluding yourself. They are definitely changing homes. It's like if you went from your kitchen to your living room. They're both your rooms but you are changing from one to another.
You need to face up to this. It's harmful to your children that you won't acknowledge the burden you and your ex have placed on them.
Then leave your home and let your ex stay there.
Anonymous
06/19/2026 12:18
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
That’s nice for you, but some of us have spouses using 50/50 in states that allow it to be used for a spousal support residential deviation even if child support is based on income, they live in an Airbnb, and the child has to take everything down to shampoo and pencils back and forth with them every time because their parent says “there isn’t space.” When my child has to show up at their sport with their sports bags and a huge bag containing everything they need for a weekend down to snacks, they certainly don’t feel stable.
If the other parent is going 50-50 then why is it an issue if they use an airbnb. Don't like it, let the kid and dad stay in your home.
Anonymous
06/19/2026 12:16
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
You are deluding yourself. They are definitely changing homes. It's like if you went from your kitchen to your living room. They're both your rooms but you are changing from one to another.
You need to face up to this. It's harmful to your children that you won't acknowledge the burden you and your ex have placed on them.
Anonymous
06/16/2026 05:44
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
That’s nice for you, but some of us have spouses using 50/50 in states that allow it to be used for a spousal support residential deviation even if child support is based on income, they live in an Airbnb, and the child has to take everything down to shampoo and pencils back and forth with them every time because their parent says “there isn’t space.” When my child has to show up at their sport with their sports bags and a huge bag containing everything they need for a weekend down to snacks, they certainly don’t feel stable.
PP here. I can see how they would not feel stable. He isn't making a 'home' for them. In this case, I'd speak to my atty about making him responsible for things on his time like toiletries and snacks, because if he cannot provide needed items on his parenting time, perhaps it should be reduced to a level that he can appropriately handle.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 19:37
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.
That’s nice for you, but some of us have spouses using 50/50 in states that allow it to be used for a spousal support residential deviation even if child support is based on income, they live in an Airbnb, and the child has to take everything down to shampoo and pencils back and forth with them every time because their parent says “there isn’t space.” When my child has to show up at their sport with their sports bags and a huge bag containing everything they need for a weekend down to snacks, they certainly don’t feel stable.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 15:34
Subject: Wanting full custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.
Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.
why do the kids typically have to be the one to change homes? Why can’t the parents be the ones inconvenienced?
My child doesn't 'change homes'. They have a home with their mother and their father. They have the things they need in their homes. They have lots of time with both their parents. And the dad wasn't trying to avoid cs, lol-and i'm the mom.