Anonymous wrote:DD just passed 6. she is 3'8'' and 40 lbs. very petite. so she looks like two years smaller than her 1st grade peers. people always guess she is 4-5.
But academicwise she is outsmart most of her peers, and so far i am not seeing any social problem from her - most of time she is the leader of her group. yes, the kids listen to her and follow her.

I am concerned that she will get bullied and be less confident if she is much smaller than her peers when growing. she has petite genes. so should I hold her back?

Are you going to hold her back each year that she’s smaller than her peers?

Size doesn't matter that much for girls.

If she's substantially ahead of the curve now, being twice as far ahead, due to repeating the grade, is liable to make everything worse, not better.

That is the dumbest reason I have ever heard for holding a kid back. I don't think the school would even allow you to do this.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you considered your DD’s self esteem when you hold her back one year? “Sorry Larla, you can’t be in class with your friends because you are petite.” This is crazy talk.

Agree completely it's school not hunger games
Jfc the scarcity mindset is out of controlllllll

Right??? This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. I was always the shortest one in my class (remember when they used to make us line up by height). But I was also smart and I would have been bored out of my mind if I had been held back on account of being petite.

You're considering having your child repeat first grade because she is short? Not due to struggling academically or socially or having a late birthday but because she is a few inches shorter than some of her peers? That is completely nuts.

If she has complex needs you did not address in your post that would warrant repeating a year, then yes.

FWIW, my DD is 7 and in 2nd grade. She turns 8 over the summer. She is about two inches taller and two pounds heavier than your child and a full academic year ahead. I would never, ever have her repeat a grade because she was not as tall as other students. She is also far from the smallest in her grade.

You should redshirt that bum