Yes you are TA. I say this as a socially awkward introvert who also does not come from a culture where baby showers are really a thing (my mom didn’t come to mine, she lives far away, and this totally makes sense to us and is totally fine and normal).

You are pushing away joy and well wishes.

They want to give you presents to try to make the really hard early months a little easier, prettier, happier. Be grateful!

If they’re using you as an excuse to party, great! Less focus on you, let them hang out but also make it a pretty afternoon w some presents for your family.

Your husband has to work w these people. What a bummer to know his wife was such a downer right off the bat. Maybe he won’t fit in w our company culture as well as we thought. Let’s maybe rethinking including him on that group text.

You also have the best ever get out of jail free card for leaving things early—-you’ll be pregnant! So if you are starting to feel tired and need to rest, everyone will understand, and they can continue the party without you guys. All great.

That's so kind of them to do.

They are having a party anyway, just go along, and you need more of a community.

I moved to an area where I barely know anyone and work remotely and it's isolating.

I don't know about AH but I think you should have a better attitude and a willingness to participate, especially if your DH would be happy about it.

I hate baby showers, didn't want them myself (but went along with them), but they are often coed these days, and it sounds like this one is essentially for both of you. So the point that it should be an intimate event for your family/friends doesn't really seem to make sense here.

Isn't the shower for him too? I'd leave it up to him.