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Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

You should pay her. Normally I'm in the "family just helps each outher out" camp, but you're using her to parent your kids quite a bit. That's asking a lot and she doesn't just have one slightly younger sibling to care for. Pretty bad parenting.

She isn’t really responsible for actively parenting anyone, our kids aren’t young. The kids all wake up and get themselves ready for school. Our daughter either walks or drives our 11 year old to school, depending on the day and weather. After that, she comes home, gets herself ready, and the rest of the kids head out on their own. They’re all pretty independent—handling their routines, school, activities, and practices—and they’re home by evening. The teens take care of themselves and go where they need to be without much oversight. Our daughter mainly helps by taking our son to practices or a friend’s house and checking in on the teens around dinner time. For meals, she cooks one night, and the two teens—ages 14 and 15—take turns cooking on the other nights. She also makes breakfast for them every morning.
Her main role is really just keeping an eye on things during the night. We’re trying to figure out a fair way to reward her.

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Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

What did you do about family and work obligations just a couple of years ago when your 18 year old was too young to be your stand in?

We had a close friend stay over during the nights, made sure they got ready for school in the morning, left for work, and come back at 6.

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Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

You should pay her. Normally I'm in the "family just helps each outher out" camp, but you're using her to parent your kids quite a bit. That's asking a lot and she doesn't just have one slightly younger sibling to care for. Pretty bad parenting.

She isn’t really responsible for actively parenting anyone, our kids aren’t young. The kids all wake up and get themselves ready for school. Our daughter either walks or drives our 11 year old to school, depending on the day and weather. After that, she comes home, gets herself ready, and the rest of the kids head out on their own. They’re all pretty independent—handling their routines, school, activities, and practices—and they’re home by evening. The teens take care of themselves and go where they need to be without much oversight. Our daughter mainly helps by taking our son to practices or a friend’s house and checking in on the teens around dinner time. For meals, she cooks one night, and the two teens—ages 14 and 15—take turns cooking on the other nights. She also makes breakfast for them every morning.
Her main role is really just keeping an eye on things during the night. We’re trying to figure out a fair way to reward her.

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Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

You should pay her. Normally I'm in the "family just helps each outher out" camp, but you're using her to parent your kids quite a bit. That's asking a lot and she doesn't just have one slightly younger sibling to care for. Pretty bad parenting.

She isn’t really responsible for actively parenting anyone, our kids aren’t young. The kids all wake up and get themselves ready for school. Our daughter either walks or drives our 11 year old to school, depending on the day and weather. After that, she comes home, gets herself ready, and the rest of the kids head out on their own. They’re all pretty independent—handling their routines, school, activities, and practices—and they’re home by evening. The teens take care of themselves and go where they need to be without much oversight. Our daughter mainly helps by taking our son to practices or a friend’s house and checking in on the teens around dinner time. For meals, she cooks one night, and the two teens—ages 14 and 15—take turns cooking on the other nights. She also makes breakfast for them every morning.
Her main role is really just keeping an eye on things during the night. We’re trying to figure out a fair way to reward her.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

You should pay her. Normally I'm in the "family just helps each outher out" camp, but you're using her to parent your kids quite a bit. That's asking a lot and she doesn't just have one slightly younger sibling to care for. Pretty bad parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

What did you do about family and work obligations just a couple of years ago when your 18 year old was too young to be your stand in?

We had a close friend stay over during the nights, made sure they got ready for school in the morning, left for work, and come back at 6.

ha! Did you pay this person? What is going on with you and your spouse that you can't manage to have one of you home to take care of your own damn children?

Yes, we did. We both have different obligations, that both of us need to attend, but our kids are very responsible so are fine being home.

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Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

What did you do about family and work obligations just a couple of years ago when your 18 year old was too young to be your stand in?

We had a close friend stay over during the nights, made sure they got ready for school in the morning, left for work, and come back at 6.

ha! Did you pay this person? What is going on with you and your spouse that you can't manage to have one of you home to take care of your own damn children?

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Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

What did you do about family and work obligations just a couple of years ago when your 18 year old was too young to be your stand in?

We had a close friend stay over during the nights, made sure they got ready for school in the morning, left for work, and come back at 6.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.

What did you do about family and work obligations just a couple of years ago when your 18 year old was too young to be your stand in?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He usually does listen to our daughter and knew what expectations were, he did fine last time we left for five days. Another problem is that since he’d spend longer on devices, he wouldn’t get up and get ready for school on time, affecting them. Our daughter took the devices away by the end so when we came back, at 3pm on day four, things were better. She wouldn’t let him get on the electronics, and he would constantly ask her about it.

Next time you leave, take his devices with you, problem solved. But why are you leaving your kids for several days multiple times? That is odd

Family and work obligations. Kids have school, so they can’t come. We don’t pay our daughter, but we do want to reward her for handling our sons misbehavior well.