Anonymous wrote:You're too bossy.

Anonymous wrote:Consider a different approach. " Kids and Dad, I am pulling out of the driveway at noon. Let's meet in the kitchen at 11:55. Please be ready to go."

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Anonymous wrote:Why does he do this and what can I do about it?

Let’s say it’s a Saturday and the whole family is going to go out somewhere. It’s late morning and we say together, “Okay, let’s get dressed and ready to go.”

My DH used to get ready very quickly and then get annoyed because he was done first and had to “sit and wait” while the rest of us finished getting ready.

Lately he’s started doing something different. Instead of getting ready when everyone else does, he’ll stay in his pajamas and just lounge around while the rest of us get ready. Then the minute we’re all dressed and ready to leave, he’ll suddenly go get himself ready. So now *we’re* the ones sitting around waiting for him.

I pointed out that this makes no sense to me. He could just get ready earlier and, if he ends up waiting a few minutes, so what? At least then we could all leave right away when everyone else is done. Instead, he waits until the very end and guarantees that we’ll all be waiting on him.

When I asked him about it, I told him it seems pointless because someone is waiting either way, and his approach just delays us leaving. I admit I also told him that his way of “solving” the waiting problem seems kind of stupid because it just shifts the waiting from him to everyone else.

Why would someone do this? Is this some kind of fairness thing where he doesn’t want to be the one waiting? And more importantly, what’s a better way to talk to him about it so we can stop this cycle?

WTF was he sitting and waiting when he could have been helping move things?

Anonymous wrote:Why does he do this and what can I do about it?

Let’s say it’s a Saturday and the whole family is going to go out somewhere. It’s late morning and we say together, “Okay, let’s get dressed and ready to go.”

My DH used to get ready very quickly and then get annoyed because he was done first and had to “sit and wait” while the rest of us finished getting ready.

Lately he’s started doing something different. Instead of getting ready when everyone else does, he’ll stay in his pajamas and just lounge around while the rest of us get ready. Then the minute we’re all dressed and ready to leave, he’ll suddenly go get himself ready. So now *we’re* the ones sitting around waiting for him.

I pointed out that this makes no sense to me. He could just get ready earlier and, if he ends up waiting a few minutes, so what? At least then we could all leave right away when everyone else is done. Instead, he waits until the very end and guarantees that we’ll all be waiting on him.

When I asked him about it, I told him it seems pointless because someone is waiting either way, and his approach just delays us leaving. I admit I also told him that his way of “solving” the waiting problem seems kind of stupid because it just shifts the waiting from him to everyone else.

Why would someone do this? Is this some kind of fairness thing where he doesn’t want to be the one waiting? And more importantly, what’s a better way to talk to him about it so we can stop this cycle?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is hilarious that you think he should not mind waiting, but you mind waiting. He took his turn. Now it is your turn.

Exactly. He asked you to be more considerate and you refused. Now you can wait

I'm not OP but if we all decide at 11am that we are leaving to get lunch and it takes him 10 minutes to get ready and everyone else 20 minutes to get ready. Why is it ok for him to WAIT 20 minutes AND THEN GET READY meaning it actually takes him 30 minutes now?

This is a petty move by a jerk. Everyone in the family should have the same goal: get ready and leave within a reasonable time frame. Yes some might be done more quickly. But if one person is just sitting there purposely making it take longer (in any camp!) than I'd have a conversation about how that's not cool.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is hilarious that you think he should not mind waiting, but you mind waiting. He took his turn. Now it is your turn.

Exactly. He asked you to be more considerate and you refused. Now you can wait

Anonymous wrote:I think it is hilarious that you think he should not mind waiting, but you mind waiting. He took his turn. Now it is your turn.

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t help with the kids and throws a tantrum that he’s waiting for them instead of them waiting for him?

Is he a child?

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I do think that giving an exit time is a good idea. So say you’re leaving at 11:45 and then when it’s time, you leave. He can hang out in his pajamas and throw a tantrum alone.