Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 16:42     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend, who is 54, recently started dating a 76 year old man. He is fit and active, but I wonder why he doesn't date same age women. I know many 70+ year old women who are attractive and healthy and they can't find any men their age. My friend is definitely looking for a father figure..her last man was 30 years older. I think her new man is missing out by not dating closer to his age.


I will have a hard time if my dad dates someone my age, he’s only 22 years older than me. I would assume she’s after his money.

No. She has her own money and home. She has "Daddy" issues.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 16:34     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:My parents are in their 70s but my dad's side has much more longevity than my mom's and his parents lived 25-30 years longer than my mom's parents.

I feel like my dad would be the widower and get remarried quickly.
I thought this too. My mom’s parents died at 36 and 49. My dad’s parents died at 87 and 99. It ended up both my parents died at 84.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 16:14     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:My parents are in their 70s but my dad's side has much more longevity than my mom's and his parents lived 25-30 years longer than my mom's parents.

I feel like my dad would be the widower and get remarried quickly.


A lot of men want to remarry right away so they have companionship and a caregiver. Women are happy with a boyfriend while living solo. I would never remarry!
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 09:00     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:I mean on average women live longer than men. This is widely known.

But also you never know what the future holds and I would not assume you will be widowed in your 70s.

My mom is not a widow and I think wishes she was. My MIL is a widow at 80 and wishes she wasn't. Life is variable.


Mainly due to the years of labor men due while women have mom jobs.

But that is changing .
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 00:48     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
My parents are in their 70s but my dad's side has much more longevity than my mom's and his parents lived 25-30 years longer than my mom's parents.

I feel like my dad would be the widower and get remarried quickly.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 23:52     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:My dad died at age 90, 15 years after my mom.

You never know.


Right you never know but that's stating the obvious and those situations are outliers.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 23:52     Subject: Re:After about 70 - all female widows?
This is why I'm always baffled when women marry men 10, 20 years older. It's not like it's easy or fun to be on your own at 60.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 23:27     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
My dad died at age 90, 15 years after my mom.

You never know.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 23:12     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:My friend, who is 54, recently started dating a 76 year old man. He is fit and active, but I wonder why he doesn't date same age women. I know many 70+ year old women who are attractive and healthy and they can't find any men their age. My friend is definitely looking for a father figure..her last man was 30 years older. I think her new man is missing out by not dating closer to his age.


I will have a hard time if my dad dates someone my age, he’s only 22 years older than me. I would assume she’s after his money.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 23:05     Subject: Re:After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My dad is 70 and a widower. He has said a lot of widows he has met aren’t interested in new relationships with men.


Of course they aren't! They spent their entire lives taking care of men and children and now they are free. Also, and no disrespect to your dad who may be lovely for all I know, but most men in their 70s just want to be taken care of and don't want to care for others. Unless they are lonely, there is no upside. And since odds are that they have plenty of female friends, there's no reason to be lonely. Most women in their 70s aren't looking for intimacy (I'm sure some are, most are over that) so romantic relationships with men just don't offer anything for them.


My mooch widower father in law is looking for a cook, a cleaner, and a caretaker. Women in their 70s are smart- they can smell him a mile away and has no takers. I wish I could marry him off!
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 22:53     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
But I bet they are older, older than the women
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 22:00     Subject: Re:After about 70 - all female widows?
My mom is in her late 70s days. The husbands of her friends have been dropping like flies just within the past two or three years. A lot of these husbands have had health issues for a while.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 21:31     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doctors are routinely telling 70 year olds to expect another 30 years


Oh jeez I hope not. My mom is 74 and already miserable. I can't take another 30 years.


My sentiment exactly about my father. I’ll be 70 if he lives to 100, no way I want to deal with him another 20 years!


Solidarity, sister.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 21:25     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doctors are routinely telling 70 year olds to expect another 30 years


Oh jeez I hope not. My mom is 74 and already miserable. I can't take another 30 years.


You go first then.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2026 21:25     Subject: After about 70 - all female widows?
Anonymous wrote:Have you been to a nursing home? There are so very few men. I bet 85-90% female. My grandpa-in-law is in a nursing home and is in a male wing. So he does have friends and other men near him. But my grandmas nursing home doesn’t have a single man.


Not true.