Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Biglaw. 20 weeks primary caregiver and 4 weeks secondary caregiver (this is an illegal policy, but I digress).

How so? It’s fairly common to offer less to the person who did not give birth.

You can give 6-8 weeks extra to the person who gives birth, not 16 weeks extra.

6-8 weeks is only for the dinner size plate hole to reduce. It's not an actual recovery timeline. With that said, for a woman (yes, a woman) to recover from birth it usually means she needs to rest, which means you cant be solely responsible for a newborn. So, minimum the woman who gave birth and her partner (if there is one) should receive minimum 16 weeks both. In the interests of baby safely entering daycare, minimum 6 mos. Ideally for attachment purposes 6mos-18mo total between both parents.

Fairy Tale.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Biglaw. 20 weeks primary caregiver and 4 weeks secondary caregiver (this is an illegal policy, but I digress).

How so? It’s fairly common to offer less to the person who did not give birth.

You can give 6-8 weeks extra to the person who gives birth, not 16 weeks extra.

6-8 weeks is only for the dinner size plate hole to reduce. It's not an actual recovery timeline. With that said, for a woman (yes, a woman) to recover from birth it usually means she needs to rest, which means you cant be solely responsible for a newborn. So, minimum the woman who gave birth and her partner (if there is one) should receive minimum 16 weeks both. In the interests of baby safely entering daycare, minimum 6 mos. Ideally for attachment purposes 6mos-18mo total between both parents.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None, tech

Adding we also dont qualify for FMLA

Yes you do

How?

Me: Nonprofit - 12 weeks paid + up to 12 additional weeks unpaid (job protection).

DH: Sales - 5 days

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Biglaw. 20 weeks primary caregiver and 4 weeks secondary caregiver (this is an illegal policy, but I digress).

How so? It’s fairly common to offer less to the person who did not give birth.

You can give 6-8 weeks extra to the person who gives birth, not 16 weeks extra.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None, tech

Adding we also dont qualify for FMLA

Yes you do

Not if its a small company.

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Federal attorney, kids were born in 2015 and 2018. I was able to use accrued leave - 6 weeks sick was standard for physical recovery. I could use more than that if I had a doctors note that additional time was needed for my physical recovery or if the baby needed medical care. I could not use sick leave for regular newborn care or bonding with the baby, but I could use annual leave for that.

Yes, I am still upset about this after 10 years. I am so glad my colleagues having kids now have the benefit of 12 weeks parental leave.

Husband in tech. Zero, zero pto.

I was county gov and got flma and saved sick, annual and unpaid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None, tech

Adding we also dont qualify for FMLA

Yes you do

Anonymous wrote:Biglaw. 20 weeks primary caregiver and 4 weeks secondary caregiver (this is an illegal policy, but I digress).

How so? It’s fairly common to offer less to the person who did not give birth.

Healthcare - 4 weeks fully paid. 6 weeks STD which pays 60% of salary, then dc paid family leave to cover partial salary for the rest of the FMLA.

14 weeks. Sick leave doesn’t expire but can’t be used for caretaking only immediate recovery (GP note can get it extended) and then annual leave if you have it (but it expires so you can only have so much).

0 paid leave in education but we can take 6 weeks of sick leave, if we have it.

PR Firm - 3 months for the non-birthing parent, 6 months for mothers.

Anonymous wrote:None, tech

Adding we also dont qualify for FMLA