I don’t think there is anything you can do about the car. It sounds like her dad doesn’t take co-parenting very seriously. I think all you can do is try to prepare her as much as you can, invest in high quality instruction, and avoid making it a power struggle. Some of the ideas about the apps and conditions are good, but they only work if dad is also on board. Otherwise she’ll just choose to be over there all the time.

Anonymous wrote:Teens in fancy new cars asking for trouble. His poor judgement and can't do much about it. Sounds like he was trying to give her incentive to pass the permit test but not even having a permit or license and buying the car is NUTS and setting entitled president for trouble down the road.
Sorry..it sucks but I would just say to your ex he sets the bar he can deal with the consequences which hopefully don't result in major harm or worse to her or others.

An x1 isn’t fancy. It’s enter level bmw. Pretty embarrassing if you ask me. He can do what he wants. He owns the car, he pays insurance.

Anonymous wrote:What a waste. I hope her 529 is fully funded and she has a Roth IRA. If not, sell the car and invest in her future. Your ex is an idiot.

+1

Sounds like she also inherited his bad judgement and impulsive driving and decision making skills.

Wow. So stupid. But some parents have no sense.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The BMW X1 M35i goes from 0-60 mph in approximately 5.2 seconds, with a top speed of around 155 mph. OP's daughter can't even get a permit.

What could possibly go wrong here?

The problem is a teen driver. Not the BMW specs. Any car can be fast enough to be deadly if a kid takes their eyes off the road or looks in the wrong direction for a few seconds. Googled Honda Civic statistics follow...

Honda Civic 0-60 mph times vary by model, typically ranging from 4.9 seconds for the high-performance Type R to around 7.2–8.2 seconds for standard turbocharged models (EX/Touring), and up to 9.8 seconds for base 2.0L engines. The 2025 Hybrid is a quick option at 6.2 seconds.

The top speed of a Honda Civic generally ranges between 120 mph and 170+ mph, depending on the model, trim, and engine, with most standard models limited around 130–137 mph. Performance-oriented models like the Civic Si can reach ~145 mph, while the high-performance Type R is capable of over 170 mph.

Agree. I don’t think the car makes much difference from a safety standpoint. Bad drivers are going to be bad drivers and could kill themselves and others in any car. She obv can’t legally drive it until she has a valid license. You can also choose to not let her drive it at all on your parenting time- if that is what you want to do.

Spouse insures the car. If you would otherwise be ok with her having a car and driving, I think the right thing to do is contribute a reasonable amount to car insurance, not necessarily half since it will be much more, but I think somewhere around $200 per month is what it would be if you were covering half the cost of any car a teen is driving. You may also want to look at umbrella insurance. Just because dad bought the car and holds the insurance for it, she is still your child and you could be held legally liable if she damages property or hurts someone.