Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 08:09     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:She's joking. Do the both of you often have a hard time reading social queues?


Whose line is it, anyway?
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 07:49     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:Student teachers are young and clueless and they all fall into the trap of weirding the kids out by trying to be friendly in a peer-like way with them to get the kids to like them. They haven’t yet figured out they’re an adult in the room who is by necessity separate and apart from the kids, so they resort to goody stuff like this thinking it’s “building relationships.” It’s harmless but they really are just figuring out how to work with kids which is why they have a mentor teacher .

-high school teacher


Another HS teacher here. This is exactly what’s going on. This young student teacher is trying to make a connection and thinks it’s their inside joke now. They don’t get that it’s become awkward for your kid. There is so much more to student teaching than the actual teaching. Tell your DD to ignore. This person is just trying to figuring out relationships with teens, which is a huge part of the job, and is misreading the situation. They are joking and do not want coffee.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 07:42     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.


I bet everyone runs when they see you coming. That would be a shitty thing to do to a student teacher. The student needs to learn how to joke around. Prepare for college professors.


It’s not for the students benefit— it’s for the student teacher with boundary issues who isn’t being corrected. Now is the right time to learn.


This is actually not a thing the principal needs to address. It isn’t that serious. It is, however, something the mentor teacher should discuss with them, and perhaps have. But some mentor teachers are good and some just got assigned a student teacher and really don’t care. It’s immature and too friendly on the part of the student teacher, which is a common error most student teachers have to learn from, but it is hardly the kind of boundary crossing a principal would get involved in.


Agree. It isn’t that serious. But I would mention it to the class teacher who is supposed to be supervising the student teacher. That teacher should counsel the student teacher.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 05:55     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.


I bet everyone runs when they see you coming. That would be a shitty thing to do to a student teacher. The student needs to learn how to joke around. Prepare for college professors.


It’s not for the students benefit— it’s for the student teacher with boundary issues who isn’t being corrected. Now is the right time to learn.


This is actually not a thing the principal needs to address. It isn’t that serious. It is, however, something the mentor teacher should discuss with them, and perhaps have. But some mentor teachers are good and some just got assigned a student teacher and really don’t care. It’s immature and too friendly on the part of the student teacher, which is a common error most student teachers have to learn from, but it is hardly the kind of boundary crossing a principal would get involved in.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 04:38     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.


I bet everyone runs when they see you coming. That would be a shitty thing to do to a student teacher. The student needs to learn how to joke around. Prepare for college professors.


It’s not for the students benefit— it’s for the student teacher with boundary issues who isn’t being corrected. Now is the right time to learn.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 19:22     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:Just have your daughter reply (with a smile)- “It was your turn this time”. The joke will end.


Good idea. They will both be happy the joke has ended.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 18:06     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Tell your kid to say simply “sorry!” Say it the same cheerful way each day. The game will get boring
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 16:21     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:She's joking. Do the both of you often have a hard time reading social queues?


It’s not a socially appropriate joke considering. One is a teacher, one is a student. Teachers shouldn’t “joke” for their students to bring them things, repeatedly
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 14:08     Subject: Re:Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Ignore her.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 11:44     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
She's joking. Do the both of you often have a hard time reading social queues?
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 11:43     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.


Exactly. This is the kind of teacher that will make the news in a few years.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 11:00     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
if she brought the coffee one time and the teacher asked, I would assume the teacher was finding a joking way to say don't bring coffee to class (or at least my class). I think it's weird for a kid, even in high school, to think it is okay to take coffee to a class. After that, if she hasn't brought it since, it seems kind of annoying.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 06:29     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the student teacher is a) joking and b) making a light-hearted suggestion that it's rude to bring food or drink to class.


This. She's signaling that she shouldn't be bringing coffee to class and pointing out why - rude to drink in front of others and not bring them a drink, too.


How is that rude
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 06:24     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
I think the first time I might have assumed it was a joke. If she’s saying it repeatedly though I think she’s being serious. Your daughter should jokingly say bsck “ I’d bring you one but I don’t think it’s appropriate to bring a teacher coffee” and see if that stops it..
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2026 06:21     Subject: Daughter (17) is confused and I am too
Just have your daughter reply (with a smile)- “It was your turn this time”. The joke will end.