Anonymous
Post 03/17/2026 20:52     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What does Safe Sport define as abusive or against the law? Isn't that a federal law?


Safe Sport does nothing.


True. My son was experiencing retaliation, humiliation, and harassment from his coach. Outraged parents of other kids on the team recommended me to report him to Safesport so I did. They did not even respond to my email.


Outraged parents? What exactly did they do? Are their kids still on the team? Did you or anyone else pick up a phone and call the club director? Or did everyone just act like cowards like they always do?
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2026 19:16     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What does Safe Sport define as abusive or against the law? Isn't that a federal law?


Safe Sport does nothing.


True. My son was experiencing retaliation, humiliation, and harassment from his coach. Outraged parents of other kids on the team recommended me to report him to Safesport so I did. They did not even respond to my email.

Seems to happen more often than we like. They would justify that it’s the competitive environment and blame the child is weak and needs to toughen out. Any adult who feels that is justified to bully a play under 18 shouldn’t be coaching youth players.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2026 16:21     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What does Safe Sport define as abusive or against the law? Isn't that a federal law?


Safe Sport does nothing.


True. My son was experiencing retaliation, humiliation, and harassment from his coach. Outraged parents of other kids on the team recommended me to report him to Safesport so I did. They did not even respond to my email.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2026 08:43     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:What does Safe Sport define as abusive or against the law? Isn't that a federal law?


Safe Sport does nothing.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2026 08:33     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:How about a U17 GA coach who has told players they suck, are "just not f-ing good enough," he does not trust them to be on the field, and that if a college coach is trying to recruit any of them, he will tell the coach that she is lazy and not to take her? This are just a few examples of way too many to count.

He has coached all confidence out of them. They are terrified to make mistakes, hate going to practice, and lose every game. GA Director was told by multiple families, but nothing has changed.


I would have moved my child to another team already.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2026 08:30     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
How about a U17 GA coach who has told players they suck, are "just not f-ing good enough," he does not trust them to be on the field, and that if a college coach is trying to recruit any of them, he will tell the coach that she is lazy and not to take her? This are just a few examples of way too many to count.

He has coached all confidence out of them. They are terrified to make mistakes, hate going to practice, and lose every game. GA Director was told by multiple families, but nothing has changed.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 21:56     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This has always surprised me too. The abusive coaches are by definition terrible at coaching kids.

If for no other reason then avoiding work ad complaining parents and hassle, you would think club admins would get rid of these fools.


Not really by definition - one person's view of "abusive" is another person's tough/intense and gets good results/outcomes. The lines really get blurred at times.


Correct. If it's not criminal, they're staying.



If the lines are “blurred” it’s abuse. You just accept it because you think the coach playing your daughter or son means they’re good or you accept it because you think she’s getting recruited. Just accept that by doing nothing you are telling them it’s ok to be treated this way and they will likely let others treat them this way also.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 18:34     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
It's futile to think they will. They will protect each other before they would side with the family or family. Better to leave and have peace then try to fight it because it's the right thing to do.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 18:21     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This has always surprised me too. The abusive coaches are by definition terrible at coaching kids.

If for no other reason then avoiding work ad complaining parents and hassle, you would think club admins would get rid of these fools.


Not really by definition - one person's view of "abusive" is another person's tough/intense and gets good results/outcomes. The lines really get blurred at times.


Correct. If it's not criminal, they're staying.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 18:19     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Is this about a VRSC coach?
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 18:17     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I see coaches yelling at players in MLB, NCAA, NFL, EPL, NHL, etc. The parents on here saying that if you yell then you don’t know how to coach are living in dream land.


These players are getting paid to play and perform. These are youth, and parents are paying the coaches to actually COACH, not berate and belittle our children.


You sound like a very whiny and weak parent. I bet you complain about a bunch of stuff that normal people are able to deal with. Is it really that difficult to understand what the coach is asking for and just do it?


Nonsense. Parents are paying for a service. Coaches need to understand who their customers are.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 17:59     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I see coaches yelling at players in MLB, NCAA, NFL, EPL, NHL, etc. The parents on here saying that if you yell then you don’t know how to coach are living in dream land.


These players are getting paid to play and perform. These are youth, and parents are paying the coaches to actually COACH, not berate and belittle our children.


You sound like a very whiny and weak parent. I bet you complain about a bunch of stuff that normal people are able to deal with. Is it really that difficult to understand what the coach is asking for and just do it?
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 17:08     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They remove them after they stop winning or get caught on VEO
This has been my experience lmao

Mine too!
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 16:50     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:They remove them after they stop winning or get caught on VEO
This has been my experience lmao
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 16:37     Subject: How long does it take a club to remove an abusive coach?
Anonymous wrote:I see coaches yelling at players in MLB, NCAA, NFL, EPL, NHL, etc. The parents on here saying that if you yell then you don’t know how to coach are living in dream land.


These players are getting paid to play and perform. These are youth, and parents are paying the coaches to actually COACH, not berate and belittle our children.