Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 19:33     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's totally ridiculous to not give her a gift even if she doesn't want to visit you or doesn't respond quickly. Unbelievable your thought is you should keep the gift instead of being worried about her.


She’s been texting with my husband but ignoring me. I think a simple “no thank you, I’m not interested” is the answer if she didn’t want to go. Not answering what’s a fairly generous offer is rude.


psst OP...stop mentioning how much you spend on her and how generous you are...it makes you sound like a total douche


+1
No one cares
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 19:30     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's totally ridiculous to not give her a gift even if she doesn't want to visit you or doesn't respond quickly. Unbelievable your thought is you should keep the gift instead of being worried about her.


She’s been texting with my husband but ignoring me. I think a simple “no thank you, I’m not interested” is the answer if she didn’t want to go. Not answering what’s a fairly generous offer is rude.


psst OP...stop mentioning how much you spend on her and how generous you are...it makes you sound like a total douche


+100
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 14:03     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Maybe she missed the text, didn't see it later, and forgot?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2025 15:38     Subject: Re:Offered flight to MIL, no response?

It was ALWAYS on your DH. I’m so freaking tired of these “what should I do about my MIL” posts. Jeff should create a separate forum just for dumba**es asking how to handle their MILs. You don’t. That’s your DH’s job.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 22:08     Subject: Re:Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It doesn't cross your mind to be worried about her? Yikes.


Ew. chiding OP when not assigning responsibility to her son / OP’s DH is nasty.


Her DH isn’t on here posting and complaining and talking about taking away her Christmas gift because she didn’t respond quickly enough for his wife.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 22:02     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

If you don’t have the kind of relationship where you could call her on the phone then that’s your answer.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 20:46     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's totally ridiculous to not give her a gift even if she doesn't want to visit you or doesn't respond quickly. Unbelievable your thought is you should keep the gift instead of being worried about her.


She’s been texting with my husband but ignoring me. I think a simple “no thank you, I’m not interested” is the answer if she didn’t want to go. Not answering what’s a fairly generous offer is rude.


psst OP...stop mentioning how much you spend on her and how generous you are...it makes you sound like a total douche


+1 And maybe focus some of this misspent energy on improving communication skills with your husband. Clearly he doesn't think all that much of your pushy behavior since doesn't feel the need to relay basic information from his mom to you.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 16:51     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's totally ridiculous to not give her a gift even if she doesn't want to visit you or doesn't respond quickly. Unbelievable your thought is you should keep the gift instead of being worried about her.


She’s been texting with my husband but ignoring me. I think a simple “no thank you, I’m not interested” is the answer if she didn’t want to go. Not answering what’s a fairly generous offer is rude.


psst OP...stop mentioning how much you spend on her and how generous you are...it makes you sound like a total douche
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 16:49     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's totally ridiculous to not give her a gift even if she doesn't want to visit you or doesn't respond quickly. Unbelievable your thought is you should keep the gift instead of being worried about her.


She’s been texting with my husband but ignoring me. I think a simple “no thank you, I’m not interested” is the answer if she didn’t want to go. Not answering what’s a fairly generous offer is rude.


Why wouldn't your husband ask her about the plane ticket?

Are these real problems? I want these problems. I'd be so good at handing them.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 16:47     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Didn’t we discuss this last month?
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 16:19     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

I think you already posted this.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 15:15     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's totally ridiculous to not give her a gift even if she doesn't want to visit you or doesn't respond quickly. Unbelievable your thought is you should keep the gift instead of being worried about her.


She’s been texting with my husband but ignoring me. I think a simple “no thank you, I’m not interested” is the answer if she didn’t want to go. Not answering what’s a fairly generous offer is rude.


Because you're pushy, and she's been coming for years despite not wanting to, because you somehow make it hard for her to refuse. This year she's done, and she prefers to ignore you rather than have to deal with you.

I totally get that.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 15:13     Subject: Offered flight to MIL, no response?

My God, it's you again.

She doesn't want to come.

It's not that she hates any of you. She just prefers to do other things!

Stop posting about her and accept that she's different from you.