DC2
Violin & piano 1x/week
Swim team 1x/week
Fencing 2-3x/week (go less if want to rest)
Chess 1x/week

DC1:
Violin & piano 1x/week
Swim team 1x/week
Equestrian 2x/month
Scout 1x/month

Winter sports 1x/week for 2 months

DCs enjoy all activities and don’t want to quit any of them.

Anonymous wrote:Tiger for sure

newsflash - for some parents, education is important!

Tiger for sure

How old are the kids who hate heritage language school? Either you picked a bad one or the kid is too old (or too low energy). All the kids I know are pretty excited to go up to about 3rd or maybe 4th grade.

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Anonymous wrote:4th grader:
piano 1x a week
math comp class 1x a week
heritage language school - 6hrs on sat but includes chess + lego robotics + add. language

Very tiger

Learning your heritage language while doing fun activities isn’t tiger parenting, it is helping to maintain family heritage.

For 6 hrs every Saturday? Please. Parents can teach heritage through their every day lives at home.

We have never participated in language school but the people I know who do appreciate the time spent with people from their country, the use of language, and the social interaction. That is not being a tiger parent, that is prioritizing understanding your heritage and language. Heritage is more than just speaking the language. Some of us live in communities like us and can learn those traditions and history easily enough, not everyone has that benefit.

Yes. I have tiger tendencies but if I applied them to heritage language, I’d be shelling out for a private language tutor and spending those Saturday hours on sports or music.

Heritage language school is a great environment that normalizes the culture. Mine spent K-2nd going almost every Saturday and now is SO proud of his background. They work hard at language school, but also have fun events and serve the food. Such a hard experience to try to replicate if you married outside your ethnicity, don’t go to that ethnicity’s church/temple or if you have no extended family around.

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Anonymous wrote:4th grader:
piano 1x a week
math comp class 1x a week
heritage language school - 6hrs on sat but includes chess + lego robotics + add. language

Very tiger

Learning your heritage language while doing fun activities isn’t tiger parenting, it is helping to maintain family heritage.

For 6 hrs every Saturday? Please. Parents can teach heritage through their every day lives at home.

We have never participated in language school but the people I know who do appreciate the time spent with people from their country, the use of language, and the social interaction. That is not being a tiger parent, that is prioritizing understanding your heritage and language. Heritage is more than just speaking the language. Some of us live in communities like us and can learn those traditions and history easily enough, not everyone has that benefit.

Disagree. It’s tiger parenting. Most of the kids hate it. We know a lot of them.

So sounds like you wouldn't prioritize heritage language, it's your choice! But let other families do what they think best, be in 3 travel sports or an additional language.

Anonymous wrote:For all those who do swim lessons - do you make your kids go or do they actually like it? We let our (3) kids stop once they were safe in the water but only one ever learned strokes beyond front crawl. It was always such a chore getting everyone to lessons but I’m sure they all could benefit from further instruction

DD7 did a year of group swim classes from age 4 to 5 and did quite well, learned all of the safety stuff, mastered crawl, and started learning other strokes. Then we stopped lessons and thought occasional pool time during the year (like at hotels, etc) and swimming during summer camp would be good enough to keep the skills up. We were sorely mistaken. She lost a lot of what she had learned. Now she is in private swim lessons once per week and has regained most of the skills. Plan is to keep her in for probably 1-2 full years and then see if retention is good enough to stop. My goal is (1) survival, (2) proper stroke basics, and (3) endurance (mostly as relate to #1). No desire for swim team or otherwise.

Swim is a huge PITA in colder months. She changes from school clothes into her swimsuit and puts on sweatpants and sweatshirt and socks with boots, then gets into her coat/hat/gloves and we go to class. Sheds everything for the lesson, then after the lesson it's back into the sweats, towel wrapped around her head or she puts a winter hat on, then home, then take it all off and shower. (She does not want to shower at the pool). Logistically, swim is easier in the summer!

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Anonymous wrote:4th grader:
piano 1x a week
math comp class 1x a week
heritage language school - 6hrs on sat but includes chess + lego robotics + add. language

Very tiger

Learning your heritage language while doing fun activities isn’t tiger parenting, it is helping to maintain family heritage.

For 6 hrs every Saturday? Please. Parents can teach heritage through their every day lives at home.

We have never participated in language school but the people I know who do appreciate the time spent with people from their country, the use of language, and the social interaction. That is not being a tiger parent, that is prioritizing understanding your heritage and language. Heritage is more than just speaking the language. Some of us live in communities like us and can learn those traditions and history easily enough, not everyone has that benefit.

Disagree. It’s tiger parenting. Most of the kids hate it. We know a lot of them.

Anonymous wrote:For all those who do swim lessons - do you make your kids go or do they actually like it? We let our (3) kids stop once they were safe in the water but only one ever learned strokes beyond front crawl. It was always such a chore getting everyone to lessons but I’m sure they all could benefit from further instruction

We make her go in the sense that it's important to us, and she also enjoys it when she's there. She's really starting to enjoy all the different ways she can move herself through the water. At some point, we'll let her stop if she really wants to. We wouldn't push her onto a swim team if she didn't want to do that.

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Anonymous wrote:4th grader:
piano 1x a week
math comp class 1x a week
heritage language school - 6hrs on sat but includes chess + lego robotics + add. language

Very tiger

Learning your heritage language while doing fun activities isn’t tiger parenting, it is helping to maintain family heritage.

For 6 hrs every Saturday? Please. Parents can teach heritage through their every day lives at home.

We have never participated in language school but the people I know who do appreciate the time spent with people from their country, the use of language, and the social interaction. That is not being a tiger parent, that is prioritizing understanding your heritage and language. Heritage is more than just speaking the language. Some of us live in communities like us and can learn those traditions and history easily enough, not everyone has that benefit.

We do 12 x 12

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Anonymous wrote:4th grader:
piano 1x a week
math comp class 1x a week
heritage language school - 6hrs on sat but includes chess + lego robotics + add. language

Very tiger

Learning your heritage language while doing fun activities isn’t tiger parenting, it is helping to maintain family heritage.

For 6 hrs every Saturday? Please. Parents can teach heritage through their every day lives at home.

DS9- swim (2x), piano, tennis, climbing (each 1x)

DD6- swim (1x), tennis (1x), piano (1x)

It's a mix between weekday evenings and weekends. We prefer not to have something every day. They both have a couple low-key after school clubs too, like arts and crafts, soccer, etc.

Tennis
Basketball
Soccer
Violin
Piano
Academic enrichment

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Anonymous wrote:4th grader:
piano 1x a week
math comp class 1x a week
heritage language school - 6hrs on sat but includes chess + lego robotics + add. language

Very tiger

Learning your heritage language while doing fun activities isn’t tiger parenting, it is helping to maintain family heritage.